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i just recently moved from northwest Indiana to Dayton, Ohio with my boyfriend Brian. We've been together for 3+ years (as of 07/15/01). i am an office manager at a local painting company. I currently drive a new 2004 Black Chevy Malibu LS. I love to go shopping, watching movies, minigolfing, and bowling. some of my favorite music artists are: Britney Spears, Jessica Simpson, Christina Aguilera, Hilary Duff, Justin Timberlake, Ashlee Simpson.

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i have been going out with this guy for a little over a month now. i like him alot and from what i hear he likes me a lot too. we have only made out 3 times though. and weve hung out every friday night just about and a few other times at parties and stuff. his only problemis he doesnt show affection. he doesnt do the cute little things like kiss my check, put his hands around my waist, or hold my hand. i am beginning to like other guys that i know would treat me better. i really like him but what should i do?? (oh yeah im a 13 year old girl.)

well it's only been a little over a month. maybe he's still shy about the relationship. if he hasn't had very many girlfriends than that could be why too. i honestly wouldn't bring it up to him right away since it's only been a month and you two are still young. just give it time. maybe you could start kissing his cheek or begin to hold his hand. if you start to do that he may realize that you want that affection and he might start doing it on his own in the future.

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my boyfriend has not been in school for like a week and he told me he got into a fight.. n the day before he got in a fight he got needles in his mouth for some odd reason from his dentist and yeah he said the kid punched him and the needles ripped his gum, now hes telling me that he had to go to the doctors today andthey had to open his gums and clean it out cuz it was infected.. and they stitched it.. (he had to get put asleep) is that even possible. thnx for any help

well i don't know about the needles thing ? but he may have had something sharp in his mouth from the dentist. he may have been put to sleep while they did whatever they needed to do .. so he wouldn't feel much pain. or he may have had laughing gas. that makes you conscious but you are knocked out in a way. because you can't feel pain and your a little groggy. your not all there.

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my arm has been hurting for the past week like by the socket...idk what i should do... it hurts sometimes but not all the time... i told my mom and she wont do anything about it. anyone know what might be the cause?

hmm.. maybe you pulled a muscle? but usually that won't hurt on and off again. that just straight up hurts for a period of time. i'd just try moving it around as much as you can. maybe put some ice on the area that it hurts. it may not be anything serious.

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i think i might have breast cancer. there is a lump in my breast and i don't know how to tell my parents or my boyfriend. i dont want to go to the doctor until i am for sure that i might have it. I don't know what to do! please help me!!!

well i don't know how you plan on telling for sure if you don't go to a doctor. hopefully your comfortable enough to talk to your mom. let her know the situation. if she needs to check it out you should let her. if she thinks it's serious enough you should make an appointment to go to the doctor. cause breast cancer is serious situation. and even though your not sure it's better to be safe than sorry.

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hi im almost 16 and my parents never told me straight up if i can date or not but they know i have anyways i want to bring a guy home how do i ask my mom or should i just bring him or wat i dont want to make my bf feel weird or my parents but this is the thing my bf doesnt speak the language my parnts do he only speaks english and my parents only understand but they cant speak help me out i rate good thanx

honestly i would talk to your parents. mention that you are seeing a guy. you would really appreciate it if they'd meet him. maybe have him over for dinner one day. or if you feel that is too much. just before you two go out on a date or whatever have him stop in. meet the family. explain to your parents beforehand he only speaks english. so if they have any trouble understanding him i'm sure you could translate. try to make it as comfortable as possible for your boyfriend and your parents.

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ok well ive been going out with this guy for a while..(im 15 and hes 17). weve talked about sex and we both really want to do it. any advice on how to prepare or anything else? thank you!

just have protection that's for sure. i would hate for you to get pregnant at a young age. i still think your a little young. but just make sure your prepared. and take it nice and slow!

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any quick tips for getting my dogs to go to the bathroom outside?? or is it true, you cant teach an old dog new tricks?

the only thing i know of is keep bringing them outside a lot more than you usually would bring a dog out. to get them outside for awhile. if they go to the bathroom out there maybe give them a treat or something. so they know their doing a good job.

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Say you like a girl and you know she likes you. You've hooked up once or twice and promised to call her so that you can arrange a proper date. How soon should you call/meet/talk to to arrange this date?

well most people say wait a day or two. but honestly if you both really like each other i'd say call her the next day. but you could make the date a few days later. it doesn't hurt to call. good luck !

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I've had this crush on this girl for quite some time. It's gotten to the point where I'll buy stuff I don't really need, nor do I really want, just to talk to her. She always seems happy to see me and always gives me a big hug before I leave. The problem is I have no idea how old she is. I'm not the type of guy who judges people who date younger or older people, but it seems to worry my when I'm involved. I'm 20, what if she's only 15 or 16. She looks and kind of acts young, so I'm worried. What do you think the dating age limit should be for someone like myself?

The other problem. Earlier today, I saw scars and cuts on her rist. It doesn't look like something an accident would have caused. I know she can't really die from cuts on arm, but the scars aren't exactly good for her either. How should I go about asking her where they're from? Is it even my business to ask such a question? What if she obviously lies to me about the scars origins? Should I just drop it then or what?

Well i was 17 when i met my boyfriend who was 20 (he was going on 21).. It's a little age difference. But not too bad. I would say 16 should be the minimum. I mean honestly the age different between you and the girl isn't THAT bad it's just she's just at a younger age right now where her parents may not agree. Not if she was 20 and you were 25 that would be fine. But try to find out her age and stuff. Now as for the cutting goes. You can get hurt from cutting yourself. If you cut a vein (on your wrist) the wrong way you could bleed to death. I don't know how well you know her but i wouldn't think it would be very comfortable asking her about it if you don't know her well. I would drop it for now, if you two end up getting closer and you still notice cuts on her wrist then you could bring it up.

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I go away to school and I have a little sister who I dont get a chance to see a lot. This past weekend, I came home but I didnt spend as much time with her as I should have. We got into a little fight and when I left, I didnt even say goodbye to her. Do you think she can forgive me?

yes she will forgive you. especially since she is a younger sister. they are forgiving. just apologize. that's all.

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ok i have this friend... and she and used to have looads of fun together and she was someone i could act silly with ya know? but on halloween i asked her if she wanted to hang out and she said she couldnt because she had to "pass out candy" then later i found out that AFTER i asked her, her other friend asked her to hang out and she said yes... hmm a little suspicious? so i got over that but then last tuesday (the tuesday b4 thanxgiving) i asked her if she wanted to go see a movie on wednesday at like 2:30ish.. and she said that her dad couldnt take us or pick us up and neither could her mom... so i was like ok whatever i didnt really care.. but then the next day (wednesday) she said she was going bowling at 2:30! so i was lke well how are you getting there? and shes like oo my dads taking me and then my moms bringing me home at 4... whats up with that??? yea i forgave her once (is that correct grammar?) and now she ditches me again?? i dont think so... what should i do? is she a real friend?? and dont say "well try talking to her" because i tried that and she made up all these stupid excuses... i mean i want to be her friend but not if she treats me like this... any suggestions?
-help!

it seems as though she isn't a very good friend. i understand letting it slide once MAYBE twice. but that seems a little fishy. and it seems like she doesn't even care if you know. it's like she's not trying to hide it from you. maybe she wants you to figure out she doesn't like you? i don't know how close of a friend it is. if it's not a very close friend i'd just back off a little bit.

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my garbage cans do not fit under my sink in the kitchen, so we leave them to the side. What are some good things tht I can do to them to 'hide' them, because they look really ugly just standing out in the open. I want to make them look nicer. Thanks!

well they have those garbage cans with the sliding lid on top. i think those look a lot better than your trash just hanging out for everyone to see. maybe if you happen to have any small gaps.. like between the counter and fridge. shove it in between there so it's kind of hidden.

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Okay, this is kinda compicated. So theres this guy i like. hes a year younger than me, hes 16 im 17, but i couldnt care less about that. last year, at homecoming, two of our mutual friends decided that he and i should go out. so they convinced him to ask me to homecoming. he really liked me. but i was still in the process of getting over this really complicated relationship/non-relationship which it has taken me until a few months ago to get over. i did have some feelings for this guy (the first guy) but i wasnt ready and i felt cornered cuz our two mutual friends were pushing for this so when he asked me,... i reacted pretty badly. as in not good. rejected him. not gently.now, hes hung up on these two different girls, one is an exchange student from new zealand. shes really nice, but ive talked to her about her and him, and she says itll never happen. the other girl is not allowed to date. so there's no problem except that he likes them. sometimes i get signals from him that make me think he likes me, and then hell make a comment about one of the other girls and im really not so sure. but i really like him. but im going to college in less than a year and we wont be in the same school or even the same city. well be in the same state though. im so confused. please help.

well not to hurt your feelings but he might have gotten over you. i had a male friend that was in love with one of my female friends. i say he liked her for well over a year. he wanted to be more than friends with her. she kept saying she only liked him a friend. well he ended up moving on and found a girlfriend. him and his girlfriend broke up and then my female friend decided she liked him more as a friend. but he still liked his ex girlfriend. he was over my female friend. and to this day their still not together. sometimes it's like the saying 'you snooze you lose.' you can try to be more than friends but it doesn't seem like he's too interested anymore. and you will also be leaving for college in a year. so is it really worth it ?

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ok my boyfriend is physco..he knocks on my window in the middle of the night and said he loves me and he thinks we're ready for the next step which is sex..but i dont wanna do that..i cant say kno cuz he said he'll kill himself if i dont do it with him.HELP

well yea i would say he has some mental problems. honestly i would try to get out of that relationship. you should never feel threatened to have sex. and your obviously not ready for it. so if he can't deal with that. then you need to end the relationship.

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i posted a question a couple weeks ago... and thanx to everybody that answered it... ok so here's another one for ya'll... so my last question was about me kissing another guy and do u think my boyfriend would break up with me... and how do i talk to him about it... well we talked and we are still together (yay!) so ne way... another boy problem question.... about ben... ok, i really really really like ben and he is the first boyfriend that i have had that i really truly like... but for some reason i cant get this paranoid idea outta my head that he is going to dump me... i think it's because this is my first real boyfriend and i am worried im gonna mess it up but i dont kno... this is really unusual for me because i am really a live by the moment-dont over think it kinda person... so i guess the question is... how can i stop worrying? i dont kno y this happening tho... he is really sweet to me and always says happy 1 week annaversary! and just stupid cutsie stuff like that... he treats my really well... and i mean... he told me i was the first girlfriend he really truly liked since his first.... i really dont want to get hurt... so i guess if u understand this at all... please help... lol...
...claire

well i always think my boyfriend is going to leave me or not want me anymore. or possibly cheat on me.. i always think it but in reality i know it won't happen. i just always think of what could happen (whether it's negative or not). the only thing i can say is try to think positive when you think of the negative. try to think i know he won't dump me. he likes me too much. or he does this nice thing for me,, whyyy would he dump me?

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What should I ask first?

a)screen name
b)cell number

Shes kinda, quiet. How do I get her to open up a bit? We both play guitar... I dont know if that owuld hlpe at all.

i would say screen name if she is quiet. i'm very shy. i started talking to my boyfriend online before we started hanging out. i was more comfortable that way. i don't feel comfortable talking on the phone with a guy until i know him a little better.

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Agh... I'm so agitated and confused and depressed at the same time I can barely type this...! Anyways... my gf and I have been going out for about 10 days. My friends and I and her hang out all the time. Well it started last night. My friend was just joking around and he said "I'm like a star in the sky!" (Yeah we're pretty weird sometimes.) And my gf said "If you are then I will love you haha" and this kind of got me down, even though she said she was just kidding. Also, the same day, my friend was just like "My butt hurts." Then she says "Haha let me check that out for you then", and she touched it lightly... In a joking way, but it still didn't feel right.Another thing is, today, when my friend and I were walking towards her, she was like "Hey (friends name)!" And I was thinking to myself... "Eh? :( She didn't even say hi to me..." But... my gf said that she is crazy about me and she really loves me and everything like that, and she said that like the 7th night we were going out... but on msn. =\ Anyways, my question is, does she still like me? Or could she be liking my friend, and not me? I mean, she says she's worried that I will like another girl and dump her in the near future, and she also says that she's afraid to get hurt again, so maybe she will hurt me, and everything will be fine for her? I don't know, but we still held hands and hugged and all the normal stuff we do like that, but it still made me sad... please help... and thanks for reading...

well it looks to me as though she is just joking around with your friend. you've only been together for 10 days. so it doesn't seem too serious. so i wouldn't jump the gun and think she has the hots for your friend. try not to worry about it. it was kind of rude of her to say hi to your friend and not you. so that seems a little fishy. but i have no idea why she wouldn't say hi. yes most guys make the first moves.

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I haven't been getting on with my friends recently. I fell out with one group over my boyfriend and spending too much time with him but I made up with them. Now some other friends say I am ignoring them. I don't know what to do. I can't seem to get it right with any of them.

when i met my boyfriend. he took away all my time with my friends. my best friend got mad and confronted me a few times. i was a bit upset cause she confronted me. but i really didn't spend time with her or call her ever. just once in awhile give your friends calls. make plans to do things. try not to talk about your boyfriend at all. and have fun.

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This guy kissed me on the cheek and on the hand. and is always snuggling up to me and stuff. But he's a year younger. Do u think he likes me or what?

sure sounds like he likes you and i honestly don't think age matters. so if you like him. go for it. sounds like a nice guy.

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Why is giving others mean advice actually considered ***FUN***, yes, it's not a typo, some people considers it fun. However sick and disgusting that is, I would like to know why?

i always give real advice. i don't think once has my advice been mean. i honestly don't know why people get off on peoples problems. i guess cause they have problems of their own that their too embarassed to get help on. so i guess you just have to ignore their mean advice.

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