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hey everybody! My name is anna. I know life can be confusing at times, so if you ever get down and want some questions answered. ASK AWAY! I'm here. I'll listen. Thanks.

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There is a girl at school who I like its just that I think she has headlice and I want to hang out with her but I dont want headlice. Shes funny and kool I talk to her on the internet all the time its just that I dont want to get headlice. A little help here!

I would def. say go talk to a school nurse tell her whats going on. And when the girl gets called down make sure the nurse doesn't tell who told her. And just say that its a regular check up, thats all. The nurse will not mind doing this because they dont wnat anybody at school getting headlice. They'll even thank you for stopping it early enough. Or maybe call this girls mom and talk to her about it. Maybe she'll have some ideas. Hope i helped! =)

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good luck,
anna

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ok..well me and my bf have been going out for 5 months and we want to take it further..we have made out and felt eachother up..but he wants to finger me and i want to give him a hand job..i'm a little nervous about it though and i was wondering if anyone had any advice??

Well i tried going online and finding some steps for you and heres what i came up with::


http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/sexinfo/?article=faq&refid=242


If you go there, they tell you step by step what you should do, and things like that. If you're nervous because you're not sure whether to do it or not, best answer is then...WAIT! DON'T DO IT YET! But if you're nervous because you're not sure of what to do...visit the site it gives great steps! You'll do fine. =)


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GOOD LUCK!,
anna

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Im goin out with a guy who is 2 years older than me and he lives an hour away and we can never see each other and our parents don't approve of the relationship.He can drive on his own in January so then we'll be able to see each other but as of right now we can't and well im not really sure if i should stay with cuz well shouldn't relationship partners be able to see each other at least once a week?or at least once every 2 weeks?Anyways there is this guy who lives in the same town as me and is only 15 minutes away and he really likes me and i kinda like him and well im not sure if i should dump the other guy and go out with this one or stay with the other one.Anyways I really need help so plz offer as much advice as possible...thanks....

Boys are very Confusing :(

Sweetie if you really like your boyfriend you will try and make it work. It will only work if you make it. So don't just give up on it because "normal" relationships see each other once or twice a week. Thats terrible thinking. Be happy with your relationship, because maybe that couple that sees eachother one or twice a week is extremely miserable. Think about it? And if this guy that lives in your town is def. making you happier then dump your boyfriend and go for it. BUT! Don't dump your boyfriend because this guy just happens to live in your town and you're just looking for an easy way out. When really you may not even like this kid, but since he lives in your town you feel a bit angry that your boyfriend isn't there. And you go off running to the next boy you see. This is a very complicated decision. And i woudln't just take a second to think about it. THink about your boyfriend, didn't he make you happy? Does he still make you happy? And maybe even once your boyfriend can drive he'll be able to come visit you every day! I mean its only an hour away, its not too bad. So think about it, okay? I hope i helped. Rate me? =)


anna

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Okay like how do I not be shy to ask someone a simple question if they are (name..) who i think they are. Im so shy because he's my brother girlfriends brother and he said im pretty and my friends know and im shy.

I used to be really shy around people. I was afraid to make a fool of myself, but now i realized, who cares what they think! Those people dont have to be your friends. Go out there, have fun. Be dorky, do whatever you want! If you stay shy for ever, it will get you no where. Come up to him, take a deep breath and start a convo about little things first. One baby step at a time. =) He thinks you're pretty...he likes you. Don't let you being "shy" get in the way of that. You might lose a great chance. Bring a friend with you when you go to talk to him, maybe a friend will help you feel safe and secure and comfortable around him. Just try it, don't lose this chance.

anna

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I'm in love with a guy I never even met but I talk to him on MSN and he's so sweet and everything he lives like 10 hours away and I don't know I live in Ontario he lives in Calgary and I'm so in love I can't help my self he's sweet and like yeah feels like I know him it's been 2 years almost since I first met him on Chat Rooms...ne suggestions?...and why do I always fall for the guys I never met and never will?

First of all how do you know he's not lieing? Maybe he is. You have never been close to him, you dont know if he is lieing to you or not. What he tells you, is all you know. Trust is a major key in internet relationships. I never actually believed in them, although i tried a couple times. I think if you've known him for that long a person couldn't possible continue lieing for 2 years, he'd get caught up in them somehow. Maybe he's actually telling you the truth, and my dear if he is...GO FOR IT! Don't miss out on this, this may be a perfect guy for you. Just whenever you can talk to your parents and go visit Calgary! Take a family vacation and kinda make a plan to meet up with him.=) See if he's anything like you thought. It'll answer a lot of questions for you. Have you showed him your picture? KEEP IN TOUCH! Rate me?

anna

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ok see all the girlz are lie acting like bitches to me and im so sick of it like 1 point there att my house then the next day the acting like there all that and like i deont no there just mean so help!

Ask them what they're problem is. If they give you attitude say "Fuck off! I dont need you". Because you really dont. You dont need people like that in your life. They're just little girl bitches, that is all they are. =)

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ok see all the girlz are lie acting like bitches to me and im so sick of it like 1 point there att my house then the next day the acting like there all that and like i deont no there just mean so help!

Ask them what they're problem is. If they give you attitude say "Fuck off! I dont need you". Because you really dont. You dont need people like that in your life. They're just little girl bitches, that is all they are. =)

anna

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Alrite my gf told me today that she kinda like my bestfriend.I do love her though but being with her and knowing she likes someone else it just wouldnt be the same.I want her to be with me but I can't force her to.What should i do or say to get this thing clear up?

How does that one song go?
oh yeah!
"I know when he's been on your mind
That distant look is in your eyes
I thought with time you'd realize it's over, over
It's not the way I choose to live
And something somewhere's gotta give
A share in this relationship gets older, older

You know I'd fight for you but how could I fight somone who isn't even there
I've had the rest of you now I want the best of you I don't care if that's not fair

Cuz I want it all
Or nothing at all"


I think you need to talk to your girlfriend and let her know that you love her so much and you dont want to share her. So you're sorry but she'll have to pick between you and your bestfriend. You dont mean to be rude, but its way to painful for you. I'm sorry this has happened to you. Nobody deserves to be treated like this. Hope it all works.

anna

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SODAS! I took up Mountain Dew and I put on alot of weight drinking it and I tried to stop it but its like going threw withdrawl. I get headaches and everything, I throw up and my stomach hurts and this always happens when I stop drinking it. I'm starting school soon and mountain dew wont be available as it will if I were home. What can I do?

Whoa! Okay enough with the soda. Do you know what soda does to your body? Besides all the weight you gain, it all leads to holes in your stomach. And other terrible things. You need to find somethign else to drink, this may become a serious issue if you continue it. Try bringing mountain dew with you in a bottle each day to school, and try to take it one step at a time. Try to lower your amount of dew each day. Can lead to illnesses. =(

best of luck,
anna

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how much weight do you think i could loose if i excersize everyday (walk 20 minutes on tredmill +other stuff) and eat healthy (no more junk food and stuff) ? in 2 weeks? sorry i cant be that specific but pleasee help!

I dont know "exactly" how much pounds you'll lose. But if you do exactly what you say you are, then sweetie you're on your way to a major recovery. Thats a sure thing that you'll lose weight. 2-5 pounds a day? Maybe a lot more? Depends on your body. But if you do stop eating junk and exercise daily...you'll look like britney in no time(if you're a girl that is...) or justin (if you're a guy). Good luck! Tell me how it goes!

anna

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ok this is the same person who wrote the question about how i dont know how to tell my mom i have a boyfriend.....well she caught us together.(we werent doin nething but we sat close)...well i went for a walk and he met up wit me so we made out then sat next to each otha watchin the sun set...when my mom pulls up and asked me if i was ok and asked who was that kid sittin next to me....i told her he'd fallen off his bike and was hurt so i just sat and talked to him......she gave him a ride home but still didnt think of me likin him........now i definatly cant tell her bc now shes gonna think i go for walks everyday just to see him....now how do i tell her that i have a boyfriend?

I told my mom i had my first boyfriend by writing her a long letter and leaving it by her door. Try talking to her, telling her that you really like this guy. And he's a great guy for you. He wont do anythign stupid, hes a proper boy. =) Make her understand how important this is for you. Hope it helps.

anna

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Ok so im going out with this guy... lets call him Aaron. And well idk i really like him but im not sure if he likes me at all. He always hangs out with this group of girls and they all r nice to me but 1. And thats fine with me cuz i dont like her either but anyways... im not sure if he likes me . but i hav another problem. His bestfriend um... lets say Bob. likes me he is my Ex. and so like everytime he sees me or talks to me online he is like "hey Sexy" and im mean is that bad. Him and my boyfriend are like bestfriends. and i kno "aaron" is gonna get mad.
but the thing is i kinda like "bob" too. idk wut to do im so confused. help
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I think you need to take some time and think really about who made you happy. If "bob" is your ex then there had to be a reason for it.Right? "Aaron" is probably a very outgoing guy, he likes women. Theres nothign wrong with hanging out them. And think about it, if he liked one of the girls why woudl he be dating you? Why would he go out with you when he has all these girls he could flirt with? Maybe because...they're just friends? And he likes you like a "girlfriend"? =). Its okay to be close with "bob"...unless the closeness can cause some trouble between "aaron" and "bob". Don't ever go on those grounds, the ground between best friends. Egh terrible. Bring too much trouble. Heh. Take some time and think about who you really want in your life. Or you could just be friends with both and have the advantage of flirting with each without worrying about a boyfriend? Take sometime and think about it. Rate me?

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if your bf didnt't have sex with you for a while, and then when you finally did have sex again, he did things differently, would you think he was cheating on you? i ask him about his new little things he was doing, and he said its cuz we need to try new things. but i dont know what to think. im scared he may have learned these new things from another woman.

Isn't the internet a wonderful thing?
You can learn so much just by checking out a few web sites. I know it may seem like he's cheating on you, but if you love him you'll trust that he isn't. Maybe he talked to some of his "male" friends and found out new things. I dont think you should go off and think that he's cheating right away. He might of just talked to somebody, or looked up on the internet a few tips. Trust him, i'm sure its nothing. And enjoy while the new things come up, they might be very....hmm...pleasing? =)

anna

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ok well tonight me and a close friend got into a fight. well you see we were talking on the internet and he started saying all this shit. and it was really pissing me off. and he lied to me to about his friends not being at his house. and now i dont want to talk to him cuz of something he said that really made me bad. and now hes all like well im sry its just that i was caught up in the moment and everything. and that hes there if he wants to talk. but i dont want to talk to him. cuz he said somethings that really pissed me off....what should i do?!?!..i have always forgiven him and been friends with him...and now its like...hes always or just wants to piss me off....help....
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I think its time that you took a break, its obvious that you have been spending too much time togethere. Just try taking a break for a while, it will do you both some good. If what he said really hurt you that badly, then you shouldn't have a friend like that. He can't just get caught up in the moment every once in a while, he should understand that it will hurt you. Don't let people walk all over you. Make them understand how much they hurt your feelings. Eventhough sometimes you think they know, they really have no idea. =(

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If a guy that you like gets mad at you.. even for something stupid.. this happened to me during the school year.. and he was playin mad and stuff.. what do u do? cause like i always got close with a guy and we'd joke around or whatever and then he'd like get mad.. but not seriously mad just this like 'im not tlaking to u u said this " or whatever.. what do u do?

Try apologizing, guys can be stuburn and dumb at times. Just give him sometime, he'll be over it soon enough. i've have plenty of "guy" friends like that, they'd get mad over something stupid, but after a while just get over it. Try talking to him, and telling him that you're sorry and that you're friendship means a lot to you and you wouldnt want anything to ruin it. You promise not to hurt him again.

=) All the best,
anna

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ok, well i cut. and i dont want to hear the "oh dont do that! blah blah blah" im really trying to stop and i dont need anyone to be pressuring me right now. but anyways..i usually cut on my shoulders so no one can see and so that i dont kill myself. but the other day i cut my wrist. and i mean, i wanted to, but i didnt want it to bleed...and i didnt even push hard. i just ran it slightly across the skin. and it just started bleeding. im fine and everything, but is that normal? like is the skin just really delicate there or something?

Wow...my name is anna(15), i've been a cutter since i was 13 years old. My sister used to cut her sholders too, she also said that it wasn't so noticable. But anyways, cutting on the wrists is a very serious problem, please don't start it. Its so addicting. You really should find a different way to deal with stress. Trust me i've been there its not fun. I haven't cut in a month, i know it seems like nothing. Buts for me, it's awesome! I wear rubber bands and hair thingys on my hands and flick them anytime i fell stress, beats cutting. You should stay away from the wrists the skin is very thin there, you can just make a little cut and cut your veins and lose a lot of blood. Stay away from the wrists! It's not safe at all. Hope i helped. If you ever need to talk, i'm here. I've been through. Rate me?

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i want to sleep with this guy, im a vrigin and im lil nerveous but i know im ready should i?
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If you think you're ready, go for it.
You'll never know until you try, and if you never do you're going to regret it for a long time.If you dont think you're ready, its best not to test yourself. Good luck!

Hope it all works out,
anna

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hi well i have some questions about sex and puberty and things like that which are pretty graffic for the sight. so can any knowledgable guy mind answring some of my questions? just give me your advice column . mods pls dont delete please because im trying not to waste time by asking you a graffic q with will be deleted. thanks

I'm sorry i'm not a guy, but i would love to answer any questions you have Just anytime you have a question about girls just know that i'm here and i'd love to answer your questions.

anna

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so ever since my boyfriend dumped me ((about 4 days ago)) ive been having thots and dreams that sum1 is out to kill me.
i keep thinking that sum1 is guna come in my bedroom and shoot me or sumthin. i know this isnt normal, and im so confused why this is happening!
im scaring myself but i can help it! *i rate*

Sweetie, stop doing this to yourself. Dreams reflect on what we're feeling. You're just feeling scared and alone and vulnerable. Try to move on, go hang out with more people. Try to meet a new guy. Somebody new. It'll bring good things. Stop thinking that somebody is going to kill you because chances are...NOBODY WILL! But if you continue doing this to yourself you're gonna miss out on a lot of great things just because you're "scared that somebody might kill you". Hunny just relax and go out and have fun. Dreams will change as soon as you will. =)

All the best,
anna

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Me and my sister (12) just got in a huge screaming match. i love her very much, we havent fought that bad in awhile, but we just got really really mad at each other and just started screaming and hitting and fighting.. what should i do? i want to be friends again but im angry and confused!!!!

If you love your sister you will apologize to her. No matter how terrible the argument got, don't let that stand between a wonderful friendship. Talk to her, let her know how you feel.

Hope things get better,
anna

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