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eighteen year old female [:
yes, im a virgin!
anyways im planning on having sex for the first time in about a week and a half. i know, have it with the one you love, make sure you're ready and all that but that's not my question my question is...
how bad is it going to hurt? i've had my period for four years now and i've always used tampons. i use all different sizes mainly the super and super plus one's though, so by using those would it stretch it out at all? also, for the past week or so i have been fingering myself just to try and stretch it a little bit, but i have no idea if im doing it right! I do it in the bath tub, and i can do two fingers without it hurting and three, well i can get them in but it might be a little tight. so how bad do you think it would hurt when i have sex? i am not very physically active, i've only madeout with two guys, got a hickey and got felt up (many people think it's sad, i just dont care) but im ready to have sex with my boy who i really love. i want to be prepared on how bad it's going to hurt. i understand nobody knows my body but since i have used the super plus tampons for four years and have been fingering myself i thought maybe i would be a little looser. getting pregnant and having it hurt are two things people are always afraid of but i'm on birth control and we would use a condom so i'm more worried about it hurting. also i've heard it hurts less if the girl is on the bottom, and i've heard if the girl was on top. i think i want to be on the bottom at least for my first time because i have no clue what i'm doing! is there also anything else i should know!? thanks [: (link)
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Okay so for your first time its way easier for a girl to be on the bottom. It wakes it easier and you dont have to do much work.
It really doesn't hurt that bad, I think people really exaggerate it. When I lost mine it was just an uncomfortable pain not a crying type of pain. Afterwards it hurt me the worse. It was really raw, but that could be cause it lasted awhile. It didn't hurt for a long time. If you truely love this guy you wont think alot about the pain. But If your truely scared have him finger you before and if that really hruts you should do that a few seperate times before having sex.
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Okay so there is this guy that i hooked up with ( made out) with around 6 months ago.. we can call him bill. And ever since then ive kinda liked him on and off unless i hung out with him i would develop feelings again. Many of my friends told me that if i was to hook up with him again it would get rid of the confused empty feeling inside. I didnt know if it was a good idea b/c my parents recently like 2 days ago got divorced and i am just generally upset but yeah. So then last night i drank alitttttle too much and i was texted him telling him to meet up with me so that i could tell him how i felt, he wasn't too interested b/c a. it was 1am, b. it was hard to sneak out and c. hes had no idea what i wanted to tell him. so by this point i just needed to get it off my chest so i started changing my attitude towards him and in his turns almost " seducing" him to come over, keep in mind i was kinda "not fully there" at that time. so eventually he came over and we talked for a good hour just about life and stuff and i told him i may like him again and he said that he still liked the girl he was previously in a fling with and i said it wasnt his fault for not liking me even though two days ago he was really leading me on... to skip to the real problem after our talk things kinda drastically shifted. We started hooking up and from there it got really out of control. We had talked about giving head but when it came down to me actually doing it he was really almost abusive and i couldnt breath. I had done it before and it wasnt anything like this at all last time. Plus now it was 3am and i was legitimately falling asleep and he wouldnt stop. We ended up doing everything except for anal and general sex. Now hes being a complete asswhole to me and i just need to some help trying to come up with something to say to him w/ being a hypocrite b/c of the fact i kinda led him to believe it was okay. Even though it is never okay to take advantage of a drunk girl.
:/ 15/f (link)
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wow it really seems like you had a long night.
This is a really hard situation to come out of, but since hes being such a jerk I would avoid him. You dont deserve that at all. He should feel like a jerk for taking advantage of you. you shouldn't say anything to him, he doesn't deserve you in my opinion.
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My vagina has a foul odor...it has been this way for a few years now. I've been to the doctor, however, each time I go, I scrub and scrub before going so that I dont disturb the doctor, therefore, she says she does not detect a smell. The smell always comes back within a half an hour though no matter what I do. I do not have any infections and shower on a daily basis. The doctor said I may be cleaning too much and my PH balance may be off, however, I've tried everything she says to do and it does not work. I know every girl has her own scent but this is very disturbing and is truly a foul bad odor. Any suggestions? (link)
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Try a douche bag, and use scentless soap it may work. and next tim you go to the doctor just shower and wash it how you normally do dont "scrub it" it isn't gonna help if the doctor cant smell it.
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please im hanging out with this guy tonight and i know hes gonna try to makeout with me how do u make out with him? give me steps from when he puts his tongue in my mouth... please answer fast. :) (link)
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I understand how you feel but honestly it'll just come to you. nobody can tell you how to do it. So relax and dont think too much about it other wise he wont want to kiss you again
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okay. my bestfriend and her boyfriend have done like everything but had actual sex. including anal. well me and her were talking and she told me that she put her hand down his pants after they had been fooling around and he wasnt hard. and he like never gets hard easily anymore. she feels like its her fault. and he says its because they do the same thing. well the only thing left to do to have sex. and shes not ready for that and is terrified of the consequences. could there really be some other reason why hes not getting "excited". (link)
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Just tell her to do something like foreplay or roleplaying they could even have dry sex. Thats basically all she can do without having full sex.
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Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year now. I'm 14, and he's turning 15. We haven't had sex, but we have talked about it. The problem is, there are other couples in my school having sex that haven't even been together that long. Basically, I'm pressured all the time to have sex with him. I feel like we have waited way too long and if everyone else is, then why aren't we? I know I should wait until I'm ready..but it's been over a year and I feel like we have to. What should I do. (link)
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Dont pay attention to other peoples relationships, every one is different. Just go at your own pace and wait til your ready, and make sure its what you want to do.
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i really wanna get my belly button pierced but im afraid it will hurt really bad and when they're doing it i will want them to stop. so my questions are, is it a quick process? does it hurt? will it get in the way if i play sports? and how long do i have to keep it in before i change it? (link)
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It may hurt a little afterwards.
It doesn't really get in your way during sports if you afriad of that tape it down or tak it out.
&& you can change in about 3 months
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if i feel a lump thats not tender are sensitive in one chord of my testical, is that a sign of cancer. is it normal? (link)
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Im not a guy, but i think you should probably go to the doctor instead of asking us, we cant diagnose it online. so see a doctor
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13/f
my graduation from 8th grade is coming up and so is my birthday. I have a good cellphone camera and ipod. i cant think of anything I might want . not clothes money or gift cards. whats some cool stuff out now? any ideas are appreciated. thanks. (link)
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Whenever im in this dilemma I always ask for make-up, cds, hair stuff, some accesories for your ipod maybe, If you play sports ask for stuff that goes along with that.
If you stil cant get any idea take the money save it and ude it when you know what you want.
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well i like this guy named ryan, and my friend likes him too. technically shes liked him longer, but that dosent mean anything does it? shes made out with him, but he likes me. she likes him alot, but since he likes me shouldnt i be able to date him? HELP (link)
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This happens to me quite a bit too.
You ust need to decide which one is more important you cant really have both
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okay so we'll name him J...wlel J and i met a few weeks ago...he's super cute, super tall, ans super sweet. okayy well i talk to him on aim and stuff and we flirt sometimes...like on monday i had a project to do and i spent the whole night doing it...and he was up doing it with me also...like he kept me company the whole entire night...i think i like him and stuff...and i also got his number
so my questions are:
*** do i call him??...and when..b/c i got his number on may 26th
*** do you think he likes me...i know it's kinda hard to tell b/c you can't read the convo..but is him staying up all night with me a sign?? (link)
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Yes Call him!!!
He gave you his number for a reason. If he didnt give it to you && you call him it'll show that you made a point of calling him.
To me it sounds like he liks you so go for it.
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my friend drank half a water bottle filled with sprite, sky vodka, and some blue rasberry stuff. she said she was super drunk, trippin all over the place, and she said she threw up 3 times. and apparently the next day she had a reallyyyy bad hangover. i cant understand how this is possible...like getting that drunk n stuff just off what she drank. it was her first time, but my first time i took 5 shots of like hard liquor and chugged 2 beers, and didnt throw up, or get a hangover, or anything. why is there such a difference? (both 14,female, same size) (link)
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Everybodys body is different. It reacts to differnt things different. Your body just may have a higher tolerance than hers does. She also could have been lying and faking it, but since she thrw up her body may just not like it and have a bad reacton to it and she shouldnt drink
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Has anyone had any experiece with hydroxycut?? Does it work?? What did you have to do in order to make the weight loss continue?? (link)
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Dont use it. There are a few long term affects, and things that can happen to you in the future caused by it.
When you start taking it you'll basically have to take it forever because what happens when you stop taking it you'll gain tons of weight. That happens because your body gets addicted to it and needs it to keep weight off.
If you want to lose weight just eat healthy. Eat little portions every two hours and excersise. It helps to take vitamins too. If you go to your doctor ask them about vitamins and metabolisim pills to speed up the metabolisma and lose weght healthy.
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is there any store where i can buy a shirt that is a hockey jersey but not a real one? For example- go to http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a1tEg0p7Uys&feature=related and skip to :56
something like that... or even
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e_m-rhaS-zU&feature=related
at 4:20
?? thanks!
PS: when i mean not a real one, i mean like not a professional hockey jersey with someones last name and number, just a color and design and large enough so it looks like a hockey jersey.
THANKS! (link)
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I've seen some jerseys at khols and gordmans. i dont know if they are what your looking for and what your useing them for but their cute.
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basically i dont know what to get... people say choose the thing you need. i dont need any of them but there so cool!!
right basically my choice is
an ipod touch
valo eb1 skates
or a quad core proccessor for my computor (q6600)
any opinions or advice on what i should get? feel free thanks very much will rate (link)
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Choose whatever you would use most. If you listen to alot of music all the time get the touch. If yo skate all th time and you love it get the skates. If you are always on the computer and use it and need it. Get that.
Get whatever will benefit you the most.
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16/f, I REALLY REALLY need help. I get along with everyone in the entire world except for my parents. They treat me well by giving me a nice home, clothing, other things, etc. but don't always consider my feelings. Ok, so I think my dad has some problems. He comes home from work every day cranky and moody. He takes out his anger and bad moods on my brother and mom as well, but most of all, he takes it out on me. It happens on almost a daily basis. I try to just walk away but I can't. My feelings and anger take over and I fight back. I feel like it's unfair for me to be treated this way by him. He's not nice to my friends either. Then there's my stupid, predictible mom. She sides with him over everything no matter what, all the time in any situation whatsoever. She agrees that he's moody and never does anything or says anything. She never protects me in any of these situations even when she knows I'm not being treated fairly. I talked to her about it once, and she's like, "I'm not getting involved in these stupid fights you have with him" When she knows for sure that I'm being the one attacked she stands there and doesn't say anything. But she totally contradicted that statement last night. What happened was, my dad was trying to figure out how to use his new camera and we were gonna watch a video on it and I told him to rewind it to the beginning and he said he didn't know how so I told him I would do it (all in a nice, pleasant tone) and the next thing you know he's screaming at me for bothering him. What's really, really funny is that when my dad was screaming at me, my mom looked at ME and yelled shut up. So that tells you something right there. She's so very much in denial about this and I can see through her like glass. Also, didn't she say two weeks ago that she's not getting involved in any fights? After the video thing I completely lost my temper and there was a huge fight. I know I shouldn't have done that but it's not fair!!!! The fact that my mom NEVER protects me hurts me more than anything. I've tried to talk to her about it countless times but nothing works. She's a brick wall. She's so unbelievably quick to yell at me but never at him. When I was in sixth grade I would get into fights with my dad a lot (on a much huger scale than now, though). My mom decided that I have problems and I need to go to therapy. So I did for a few years, which actually helped me get through a lot of other things in my life besides my family and then stopped because things were going ok. But now, of course my dad has issues and is my mom sending him to therapy? NO! She's not doing anything about it because she's in COMPLETE, UTTER, DENIAL. I even asked her if we could go back to the therapist and she said no, probably because she doesn't want to hear the truth. My parents; attitude toward it is, "I'm the father I can say whatever I want You're the child, your feelings don't matter. And they're like, if this continues, you'll be punished big time. It's not fair that I'm the scapegoat for my dad's actions. I try to walk away and ignore it but it hurts too much. I've disliked him since I was in fifth grade. If he just went to therapy things would be better. Do you really think it's fair that just because he's the "adult" and I'm the "child" he can treat me how ever he wants? It's not fair!!!!!!!!! I cry so much over this and I'm desperate for help. I don't know any dads like this and any moms who don't defend their own children. PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE help me!
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So it seems like your parents don't listen when you talk to them, So talking to them isn't going to work. See if you can maybe get some one on time with each of them away from the other and have a good day. Then after that you can try having like a "family meeting" and talk about it. If I doesn't work then all I can really say is when they are yelling at you dont even say anything unless, they ask a question and tell them what they want to hear. Thats what I do and it blows over twice as fast for me. Dont talk back or argue and bicker. Just let them get it out and help them feel better. Try not to let any of it bother you too much after that. With your mom not standing up for you, It sounds like she may be dealing with some more propblms and she doesn't want to hurt her marriage. Just give her some time and dont bring her into yours and your dads fights. Thoose fights are between you and him. It would honesly just be easier to let him finish yelling and then just walk away and forget about it. you aren't going to change their opinion no matter what you say to them. So save yourself the stress and walk away. Don let it get you down. Its unfair but it doesn't seem like they'll chage anytime soon. Just do what they ask. In my fammily its also helpful to have family time and to spend time together. So maybe try those things. Sorry i worte so much but I hope I helped.
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15/m. ok, this is going to sound really stupid, but people always think im gay. I had this one guy ask me, "ur a puff innit? u like it up the batty?" i was all "wtf!?" he was all, "well you look gay, you talk like a girl".
1. i have a deep voice
2. how could i possibly look gay? i have facial hair..quite a bit of it. so long story short, people think im gay. what could be giving them this idea, and how can i change my appearance/ speech so i dont "sound gay" even though i dont in the first place? cheers (link)
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I have some guy friends that have this problem too...
I've noticed that they have more friends mainly girls than all of the other guys. So if thats the same with you then its probably because their jealous of you. Another reason could because their insecure of themselves.
A few of my friends have just gotten girlfriends or made out with a hot girl in front of all of them, they also have good comebaks and shoot the other guys down and act like it doesn't bother them and the eventually stop. Joinign sports or other "manly" things may help too.
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my legs rub together when i wear shorts, and my in between my legs get really sore and red, sometimes cut up, because they rub together from wearing shorts. Any ways I can prevent this, or when it happens, I can make it feel better? thanks.
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I get that too. Just wear spandex underneath. I wouldnt wear underwear with the spandx tho its really uncomfortable. But if the shorts are too short to wear spandex under then i really don know what to tell you.
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14/f
i live in florida. so i tan outside almost everyday or if not that atleast 5 days out of the week. i never pealed but i am starting
too now. so the question is there anything i can use lotion anything that will keep me from peeling. the worst place is on my shoulders.
thanks in advancee! (= (link)
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I get realy bad sunburns && i peel alot. So just use some non- scented lotion it should work for you like it does me.
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what should i say when a guy ask whats the farest ive gone with a guy (link)
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Well, that can sometimes be hard depending on how far you've really gone.
I would say just be honest because eerybody is gona take it differently. Just be honest. If they dont respect it, then their lamee anyway.
If you aren't comfortable with that && you like him tease him a little and say something like "thats for me to know and if your lucky you could find out" or just say its your buisness not his.
hopefully that helps
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