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how bad is it going to hurt...
eighteen year old female [:
yes, im a virgin!
anyways im planning on having sex for the first time in about a week and a half. i know, have it with the one you love, make sure you're ready and all that but that's not my question my question is...
how bad is it going to hurt? i've had my period for four years now and i've always used tampons. i use all different sizes mainly the super and super plus one's though, so by using those would it stretch it out at all? also, for the past week or so i have been fingering myself just to try and stretch it a little bit, but i have no idea if im doing it right! I do it in the bath tub, and i can do two fingers without it hurting and three, well i can get them in but it might be a little tight. so how bad do you think it would hurt when i have sex? i am not very physically active, i've only madeout with two guys, got a hickey and got felt up (many people think it's sad, i just dont care) but im ready to have sex with my boy who i really love. i want to be prepared on how bad it's going to hurt. i understand nobody knows my body but since i have used the super plus tampons for four years and have been fingering myself i thought maybe i would be a little looser. getting pregnant and having it hurt are two things people are always afraid of but i'm on birth control and we would use a condom so i'm more worried about it hurting. also i've heard it hurts less if the girl is on the bottom, and i've heard if the girl was on top. i think i want to be on the bottom at least for my first time because i have no clue what i'm doing! is there also anything else i should know!? thanks [:
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I was surprised when I first had sex because it wasn't all painful like people said. I had been fingered before that, and only with 2 fingers.
You can't really explain the feeling, but its not that terrible. I mean, losing your virginity should be special and its so good that you have waited because I did too and it was WONDERFUL :).
Anyways :)...
Being on top allows the penis to go inside completely, and it can be a bit uncomfortable going in that deep.
The first time you have sex, it might hurt if he goes really deep. But normally he'll be gentle, specially if you guys know each other very well and he knows its important to you and all that.
He should be gentle, soft, slow, etc.
It really isn't anything to worry about. :)
Let me know if you need anything else!
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Okay so for your first time its way easier for a girl to be on the bottom. It wakes it easier and you dont have to do much work.
It really doesn't hurt that bad, I think people really exaggerate it. When I lost mine it was just an uncomfortable pain not a crying type of pain. Afterwards it hurt me the worse. It was really raw, but that could be cause it lasted awhile. It didn't hurt for a long time. If you truely love this guy you wont think alot about the pain. But If your truely scared have him finger you before and if that really hruts you should do that a few seperate times before having sex.
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Since you can fit three fingers up there, it shouldn't hurt that bad. The use of tampons DOES stretch it out, so you're pretty set with the pain thing.
It does hurt less if you're on bottom, cause if you're on top, you're basically impaling yourself, it's a lot easier if your boy does the work the first time, so that you can know what to do the next time.
I would also suggest that you do missionary the first time. It's the least painful and most simple position. And make sure if something feels good, or it hurts, to let your guy know. If you don't tell him, he won't know, and it can't be fixed.
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