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boyfriend or friend?
well i like this guy named ryan, and my friend likes him too. technically shes liked him longer, but that dosent mean anything does it? shes made out with him, but he likes me. she likes him alot, but since he likes me shouldnt i be able to date him? HELP
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1) All is fair in love and war. If he likes you and you like him, you have every right to date him.
2) Being right doesnt always mean you get your way. You're in high school (I'd bet money) and in high school girls are petty, jealous, and incredibly emotionally immature. So, if you date him as is your right, you might lose a friend even though you're in the right.
3) Making out with a guy means absolutely nothing. The simple fact is that most single guys will take an opportunity to do ANYTHING with a girl of moderate attractiveness or better if the opportunity is put in front of them.
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Technically, if he doesn't like her and shows no interest than she has no claim to him and you're free to date him if wanted. He has to let her know that nothing romantic between them will ever happen. If he has done that than really you are are in the clear.
However, it sounds as though he's led her on including making out with her and leaving her in a position where she doesn't know if there's anything going to happen romantically. Until he tells either of you where you stand don't ACT on your feelings.
This guy wants it both ways. You should tell your friend that she is free to date this guy even though he told you that he was interested in you and not her. Tell her you really have no interest in ever being with him unless of course she gives you her blessing.
Let her know you told her because you weren't sure what else to do and don't want to risk a friendship over a guy. That's all he is one guy in a pool of millions you'll meet. Is it worth hurting her over even if she comes out telling you to go for it? Trust me that would hurt her despite her saying it wouldn't. I've lived long enough to have seen that train wreck many times over.
Best advice is to tell her that he's not interested, used her to make out and now has his sights locked on you and doesn't like her. She needs to know the truth. But you also have to wise up to the reality that he's a player out to hurt you both. Typical behavior of such a person.
So, DON'T GET INVOLVED but tell your friend the truth so her feelings don't get trampled on and she isn't heartbroken or feeling rejected by him. As for you, as hard as it is your friend comes first as does your relationship with her. Guys second. This isn't the right bloke for either of you. You'll eventually get over the feelings and hopefully both of you find the right guy for each of you. Otherwise, you stand to lose everything here.
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This happens to me quite a bit too.
You ust need to decide which one is more important you cant really have both
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