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So everyday I like to stretch to get loose. I usally spred out my legs some I stretch down to my right leg, the middle, and then the left. But when I go down to my left leg I feel this weird pain in the back of my left knee. What do you think could be causing this? Is there anything I can do to fix it?
You probably have a tight hamstring.
It's definitely not a big deal.
To stretch it, put your right foot pretty far in front of your left, then bend your right knee, while pushing your left heel into the ground.
You'll know when you're stretching the hamstring right because you'll feel it.
I get some really intense mood swings sometimes and they've become more frequent lately. One minute I'll be really happy and the next I'll just be seriously annoyed or depressed. I've noticed that most of it happens when I'm at home and I don't really understand it. I mean sure I get into fights with my parents every now and then but lately I've been fighting with my mom about the smallest things and everyday! I could have had the best day at school but it's usually ruined within an hour of my coming home. I don't understand why I've been getting so annoyed with my parents lately. I mean maybe it's just because I'm a teenager and it's that phase the I'm going through but I'm not sure.
And also, there are times when I'm perfectly fine and I start thinking about some stuff and I just get really depressed. I just get a sinking feeling inside me where I just have to cry and I don't know where it comes from! I have a serious problem with pain, I'm pretty much a baby, and I hate seeing blood and I never understood why some people cut themselves but this one time a few weeks ago I just couldn't help it. I just had the urge to do it and I did. Like I said I'm kind of a baby so I didn't cut very deeply and it was only a couple of times but it kinda makes me worried. I don't know whats wrong with me and it's starting to scare me! I don't really know who to talk to about it because I just know my parents won't understand and my friends are great but I really don't think this is just something they'll really be able to help me on. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
I have the same problem.
And you're probably expecting something like 'you have bipolar disorder,' but because I am dealing with it, too, I'd doubt it's that.
But don't totally outrule bipolar disorder as a possible culprit, because I haven't had a formal evaluation myself, so we may both have it.
Who knows?
I think the trick is to catch the bad mood before it comes on.
Yesterday, I felt myself starting to sink. And for me, also, it's only at home.
Anyway, yesterday, I didn't allow myself to totally sink down into it. I'm assuming you can tell when it is first starting to come on...for me, it's kind of a grinding feeling in my head. So when I felt that, I thought of something funny that happened to me earlier at school...and I just kept replaying it. Then, I felt better.
Beware, though. Once I thought everything was clear, I forgot about monitoring further. A few hours later, I sunk into the slump and became very emotional. The difference about this slump is the fact that while I was crying and upset, I analyzed the situation.
I asked myself:
Do I have reason to be upset?
The answer was yes, but I didn't stay down.
Usually, though, the answer is 'no.' Then I think further to the point that the fact that there's nothing to be upset about, is something to be happy about.
Then I asked myself:
Do I have any control over whats upsetting me?
The answer was no. Generally, I would dwell on the fact that I have no control and be upset about that, too. But no, yesterday I decided that I wasn't going to be upset. I analyzed the situation down to a plan of how I will breathe in that situation. This means that everything else doesn't matter. If I'm breathing, then I'm okay.
Also, you mentioned that you 'start thinking about some stuff and you just get really depressed'. You've hit the nail on the head. Don't think about the things that make you depressed because, I know, if it was something that you could change, then you wouldn't, or shouldn't, be depressed about it because it's changeable.
If it's something you don't have control of, and it upsets you, then don't waste a minute of your time thinking about it. When you look at the big picture, you only have so much time to laugh and smile and not be upset because on this earth, everyone has things to do and they need to work. So, if you spend your free time crying when you don't need to, you're wasting your leisure time.
Also, I'll tell you that once I'm down, the only way to come back up is to do something similar to meditating.
What I do is think of some quote or a prayer or something. For example, the 'Our Father.'
I will say it very slowly with long pauses between each word, and don't focus on the words..focus on the spaces in between the words in which your brain will not be occupied with anything but the next word of the quote/prayer.
I say it like this:
Our...(5 seconds of silence & peace)...father...(5 seconds of silence & peace)...who...(5 seconds of silence & peace) etc.
It's very calming.
Good luck.
I'm in the same boat as you.
hello !
ok so i go to this confirmation group like 2 times a month and theres this guy that keeps staring at me and checks me out but never talks to me and talks to other girls what does that mean ? thanks :)
I'm pretty sure that means that he likes you. He talks to the other girls, probably, because he isn't nervous around them. He doesn't talk to you because he is afraid he might say something stupid or stutter or something of the like.
He smiles at you & checks you out, though, because it's kind of hard to mess up a smile & I'm sure he doesn't want to lose the opportunity to get to know you, since you will be confirmed at some point & the group meetings will end.
Try talking to him since he seems both interested & shy. The worst that can happen is he won't be much of a talker. Remember- this is also an opportunity for you.
Does anyone know of any sites that have a piercing simulator? Like where you upload a picture of yourself so you can see how different piercings will look on you?
You could do it yourself on photoshop or even paint.
Where can I find some?
Whole Foods should have some, without a doubt.
Origins may have some.
Both MAC & Hot Topic have bright purple, but I don't know if they're vegan or not.
There's bareminerals makeup...that should be vegan. I'm not sure if they have anything bright though.
I was using my boyfriend's computer while he was at work because my laptop wasn't working. I found when I was typing in a url, these urls to this girl's photo album came up. They weren't perverted pictures but I'm still a bit suspscious because I know he doesn't know her. I easily get jealous and he knows I'm very insecure. It's just what bothers me the most is he says his eyes don't wander. But I know they do, I can see it in his face. When I ask him or something, he'll blush. I wish he'd just tell me the truth. Should I mention it to him? If yes, how would I? It's been several days. Should I just pretend I didn't see it? Does that mean it's okay for my eyes to wander as well?
No. He's just going to think that you're an irrational thinker because if he doesn't know the girl whose photos he was looking at, then you have nothing to worry about. So what if he likes looking at her? You would probably get annoyed if he stared at you all day.
i read tarot cards, and i've heard that crossing your legs while your reading them is bad. is this true ?
If you believe in the tarot cards, that's extremely superstitious.
So, if crossing your legs while reading them is merely superstition, then I guess you shouldn't do that because it's bad luck, according to your beliefs.
let's start off with im 16, he's 17 (both juniors) and we live 20-25 mins away from each other so we only see each other on weekends. we've been dating for 9 months.
the first 6 months were amazing, he was the best boyfriend and always used to text me to see how i was doing and used to wake me up with those cute "good morning beautiful" texts and all that cute stuff to show that he cares and was thinking about me.
these past few months he never texts me anymore and i talked to him about it and asked him what was up and he said he's just been busy with school work since his grades were bad. but is it THAT hard to send a simple text at any point of time in the day? and when i text him he usually doesn't even answer. so yeah we pretty much don't even talk during the week and i don't feel like i can go on like this having this gut feeling that im with someone who doesn't even care. i've talked to him about it but it just seems to go in one ear and out the other...when we're together he's so nice but i just don't know what to do..i love him with all my heart and he's my first love and i'd be absolutely lost without him, but i don't want to do this to myself...what should i do? =[
Well, when you say you're in love, you know that you're in love with who he "was" & how he acted during the first 6 months, seeing as you called those 'amazing'.
Then, you explained that during these past few months & now, he ignores your texts for schoolwork & he only listens half-heartedly.
After this, you said that you can't live without him. If he's already ignoring your texts & not really conversing with you & doesn't care, then you're already living without him in every sense but the physical sense...and, still, you only see him on the weekends. And, now, you're still alive, right?
Keep in mind that if you've nagged him to text you more often, he's probably just going to text you less often out of irritation at your request.
I think that you have two options:
a) give it time.
b) end it.
Good luck.
17/m
im currently doing AS philosophy (in the UK), and i have two exams coming up in a month. In lessons, we dont write much, the teacher just talks and we discuss things. So, i havnt written many notes, everything i need to know is in a collection of textbooks.
The thing is though, i just cant read them all, it wont sink in. it doesnt go past my eyes, so what are some other ways for me to study? ive tried reading and highlighting...then making notes about the key points, but theres sooo much material to get through, it seems impossible, and i have four other subjects to be studying aswell. any help?
If you're anything like me, hearing the material or explaining the material to someone should help.
Generally, I study out loud & repeat each statement 5-10 times. I have ADD, so it's necessary for me to repeat everything multiple times, so much, that the people around me know the material before I do.
If this doesn't work, and even if it does, ask someone to ask you some questions about the material & if you don't know the answer, look it up, then explain it thoroughly...further interpret the answer you've looked up in the book/source. I haven't taken philosophy, but I've looked at it quite a few times because it interests me. Reading something that a philosopher wrote is simple, but interpreting it is more difficult. When you push yourself to observe farther than is written, then you understand the concept.
Hope I helped =)
well, first of all, let me just point out that i've been struggling with an eating disorder for almost a year now. But, finally, I'm getting some help. The thing is, that I have to follow a meal plan, for two weeks. I can't leave my meal plan, and if you've ever had an eating disorder, I think you can understand why. After these two weeks are over, or on the designated days that I'm allowed to be out of my meal plan, I can go out to eat, and have a better idea of what I can eat without feeling worried or anxious. But, right now, I just really want to stick to my meal plan because that's where I feel "safe." The thing is, at work, people are always ordering out, and giving me things to eat. In my house, their always cooking more things, it's like a restaurant in here every day because we cook for so many people, like neighbors, and other family members. People are always inviting me to go out to lunch, or to dinner. But, I can't just tell them I have an eating disorder and explain to them why it's important that I follow my meal plan. It's only for two weeks, and until I'm done following it, I can't move on to the next step. So, what can I tell people? How can I ensure that I'm following it for the next two weeks without interruptions. If you can help me out with this, I would really appreciate it! Thank you and God bless you. Have a nice Easter! :)
Tell them you're trying Nutrisystem...or some kind of pre-packaged food plan.
I have really bad skin and get cysts (no idea if that's spelled correctly). I had one on my cheek (just below my cheek bone) a few months ago that continues to come back. It's away for now, but there is still a purple discoloration. It doesn't look terrible, but it's very difficult to cover with cover up or powder, for some reason. How do I cover it? Better yet, how do I get the color to go away? My dermatologist hasn't really offered me any advice on that. He just continues to say it will go away on it's own, but it's been (I'd guess) about three months. I am on minocyclin, and have been on acutane, if that helps at all.
Thanks!
If you're looking for a makeup fix, keep in mind that if you want to conceal some sort of discoloration, you'll want to put a cream that is it's compliment over the discoloration itself. If you do this, just make sure you do NOT put the color around the blemish, because then, it will only draw attention to the discoloration.
Examples of complimentary colors:
red- green
orange- blue
yellow- purple
green- red
blue- orange
purple- yellow
So, with your problem, you'd use some kind of cream with yellow undertones. You may be able to find a concealer that's really yellow.
For a green tinted cream, you might have to go to sephora & spend like $40.
But since you need yellow, you might be able to go to wal-mart & find something.
hey im having a birthday party and i want to rent a funny movie to watch.
any movies such as 40-year-old virgin, zack and miri, american pie, etc. is what im looking for
thanks
Hm...I like all of those movies, so I'll list some others that I find funny & you may, too.
Knocked Up.
Road Trip.
Dirty Deeds.
Van Wilder.
Just Friends.
Let's Go To Prison (not really like the others, but great anyway.)
Europtrip.
All I can think of now.
hello
i need really help i am confussed!
my problem:
when ever i tried to speak like name or talk to any one suddenly i stuck with some words starting with letters A,E,M,N,I,O,U,...
i dont know why???
tis problem is hapen to me since 2-3 years
please help me out!!???
Well, I used to have a speech problem when I was little, as well.
I couldn't pronounce s-, f-, sh-, ph- & v- sounds.
Rather than pronounce these sounds with my teeth, I pronounced them through my nose (I don't know how, because now when I try to, it hurts.)
So, my brothers used to tease me about it & I got sick of it.
So, in fourth grade, I started pronouncing the word 'satisfaction' over & over again.
Eventually, I perfected it and now I sound pretty much perfect like a normal person, but I have a slight, slight underbite so my speech is affected by it somewhat.
But anyhow, try to find a long word that incorporates all of the sounds you have problems with (or one word for each sound) & practice them out loud persistently, until it's right.
he is a freshman, im a sophomore. ever since the last time we saw eachother at our friends' house he has slowly been asking for sexual things from me. [these questions came gradually.] NOW he thinks were having sex. [i never said no, but i refuse to.] in the begining i said, i dont know about that i dont think thats gonna happen sorry [i would never want to have sex now anyways] and he would just say ugh grr fine. but now, he is completely convinced that we are going to do it. its starting to scare me. alright, you may think im crazy, and maybe i am. but the only reason i have been putting up with his shit is because i want to see him. i dont know why, but i just really want to see him. although, he treats me like a hoe and only talks to me when he feels like it. but im hoping he'll be himself when i see him. anyways, friday night i was over my friends house on her laptop in her kitchen while she was somehwere else. he IMed me and asked me to send a naked pic and i said im at my friends sorry [i wouldnt do it anyway] and then he said, wow. oh my god were havin sex just send it. [by the way we arent. he just thinks we are. im just too afraid to tell him no] and then he was just being really cruel to me and demanding. he said, ugh you wouldnt send it even if you werent at your friends house, your just like that. i want it damnit.
and then i started shaking and getting scared because i didnt know what to say and i didnt want him to get angry. then he said, ugh do you want my dick or not, hoe. and i said, yo dont call me a hoe.. and he said, then send a pic later. so then i just said i dont know..and he said, fine im fucking your vag then. and i said, do i have to..? and he said, im gonna fuck your vag now. i dont care ill bring a condom.
..thats so scary. he sounds like he wants to rape me. even at one point in our conversation a few days ago he said something like, "im gonna pin you against the wall and fuck you so hard your gonna cry" i told him that sounds like rape. because it does. i am kind of scared of him in a way..look at this conversation..[i changed the names]
matt: your my sex slave
me: whatt.
matt:
you mess up in sex ill slap you in the face wit my cock\
me:
what the fuck
are you being serious
matt:
only if you get naughty (:
me:
...
matt:
suck it till i jizz down your throat
me:
you dont really think of me as your sex slave do you
matt:
no
but im gonna slap you wit my cock
me:
why..?
matt:
cuz then youll suck it
me:
ill do whatever i want
matt:
youll do what i tell you to do
me:
someones being demanding
matt:
i dont care
i cant believe he thinks im his "sex slave" that hurts. and makes me feel like im a nobody and he is using me and getting everything out of it and probobly telling all of his friends and then what am i left with? nothing. whenever i think about the things he says to me, i get this weird stomache feeling, not a good one. and im really scared because yesterday he said to me, im going to their housr tonight. i want your ass, go tonight. and i said, should i ask if i can go..and he said, nah its ok. just go march 28. and i said okay, do you not want me to go tonight or something? and he said, i dont care, but im fucking your vag without a condom so..
first of all when did i ever agree to that. but i dont wanna say no because then he wont go to their house on march 28. he even said, i wont be busy if i get to fuck you. I DONT WANT TO! I WONT LET HIM. all i want to do is hookup. i dont want to have sex with him, never. ever. but i cant tell him that..and then when were at their house, after they all go to sleep, he wants to go on the other side of their basement and do it. but i feel like..hes gonna be really mad if i tell him while hes about to do it to me..hes gonna be so pissed. and i dont want him to slap me. i want to see him though..i dont know why. what is wrong with me. im starting to scare myself
I have a few questions...
1) He's a freshman...He thinks he's big....but still, he's a freshman. The way he expresses himself sucks. "I wanna fu*k your vag." What the hell is that? He sounds like a loser.
2) He only wants you for sex...and you said so, basically. So, if you're not planning on doing this with him, why does he think you're his "sex slave"? If he assumed this, something's wrong with him. Is he delusional or something? Does he really think you want him?
3) I bet that he'll be one of those men who abuses his wife/girlfriend. I'd suggest you get away from him. I'm assuming he's not hot & he knows it because, otherwise, he shouldn't feel the need to say he'll slap you with his cock. If he was real hot, (hot enough for you to want to be his sex slave), then he really wouldn't have to make you.
4) This redefines the whole idea of guys being perverted & only wanting you for sex. If he says "Oh you wouldnt send me a pix because your just like that," then why does he think you'd have sex with him?
5) You really don't need to be afraid of making him mad...just don't do it if it's only you & him at someone's house. Again, he's a freshman...I don't see him harming you with punches. But if you're smaller or the same size as him, then he can pin you against the wall easily. Be careful, but by all means, do NOT submit to him. Do not appear to be threatened by his "rage."
Is 14 too young to have depression? Any answers would be appreciated. Thanks.
By no means.
I've been depressed, not depressed, depressed, not depressed...since I was about 12.
Now I'm 16 and finally getting a grip on my rollercoaster emotions.
If you think you're severely depressed, talk to a doctor.
In the past 4 years, I've taken 3 different antidepressants & adderall.
Only thing that worked? Adderall.
My leg hair grows back really fast.
And I used the new Embrace razor from Venus and it didn't work very good on me.
But everyone else says it works wonders!
I think it sucked.
Am I normal? Cause if it has 5 blades it should get a close shave, but it didn't for me!
Please help! I'm very curious! :)
Thanks!
I've never used the Embrace, but heard how "great" it is, but I bet it wouldn't work on me either because mine, too, grows very fast...but that's not why I think it won't work.
Mine is very thick (hair), & when the razor has 5 blades, it probably misses some of the hairs because there's less space to hold hair between each blade.
That's my guess. I just use a mach3.
15/f
i used to cut but recently i've been having urges to do it and i find it hard to ignore them. have any suggestions on how to make the urges stop? i've tried scraping my arm with a pen so it doesnt leave any marks but that doesn't seem to satisfy the urges.
thanks
I don't understand why you want to cause yourself physical pain. I've never cut & never plan on it, but I do know people who have & occasionally do...I just can't talk to them about it in public.
My friend once told me that people who cut are trying to cause physical pain that outweighs their emotional pain.
The only problem with that is the fact that you see the aftermath- scars.
You're now looking for another way to cause yourself pain & that doesn't look or sound right, so I know it can't feel right.
What's going to happen, or may already be happening, is that you will lose trust in yourself & your self control....When you can't trust yourself, who can you trust?
You can't try to cause yourself more physical pain each time you feel depressed. Because each time you see the scars from the last time you cut, you'll be ashamed & blame yourself...then be depressed again. You'll just try to cause yourself more harm by burning yourself or something. Imagine what would happen if something really awful happened, worse than anything that could've gotten you into this situation (you're probably not aware of WHAT made you depressed, because I'm getting out of that depression rut & still don't know what got me stuck in it.) If you tried to equate some form of physical pain with an awful incident in your external world, you might find yourself standing on the edge of a tower, staring down. And all you'll be thinking of is the "fact" that this physical pain will justify the emotional pain you're facing...but it won't. It will just kill you. And it will cause that same emotional pain, tenfold, for all the people you leave behind who love & care for you.
If you've ever tried to block out one emotion, it could've caused you to block out more than one emotion. Maybe this is why you're seeking pain.
Because if you, at one point, decided to never be disappointed by anything, no matter what, because you had been disappointed so many times, you didn't realize it, but you decided to abandon the ability to realize when something good happens & to be happy about it.
When one stops feeling emotion, they feel the need to feel something, so they result to physical pain.
Which one is you?
If you told a loved one or a friend or even a complete stranger about your problems, you would begin to feel a sense of understanding. Like you're not alone. Sometimes, on darker days, it helps a lot just to know someone's there to help & they're listening.
Maybe if you felt love, you wouldn't feel the need for pain.
Feel better.
I need help, I need confidence and secerety, so help me what should I do!
Self-confidence is an issue most people, including myself, deal with. I'm battling issues with it as I type this...these past few weeks have made my confidence fall down a few steps, but I'm getting back up.
The key to self-confidence is knowing your attributes & your negative aspects.
Sometimes when evaluating this, the list of negatives is just overwhelming. When thinking of the length of this list & feel threatened, the mistake we, as people, make is crumbling in response to this.
The better reaction would be a rational approach in which you see the problem, & think of a way to fix it. If there is absolutely no possible way that you can fix it yourself, learn to embrace the "problem," because almost anything can be twisted in such a way that it appears miraculous.
For example, I have a weight problem. A serious one, with lots to lose. Many times, the amount that I need to lose seems impossible. The goal seems just too far away. But then I get sick of being controlled by an idea that might not be real, a fear that isn't confirmed & can only be disproved by me & my efforts. My mood changes with the wind, so I woke up today ready to diet perfectly, and I did, even though yesterday, I ate junk all day. I realize, now, that yesterday, I worsened the problem that I have the power to fix.
Any problem you have that causes you to think less of yourself, should be analyzed. You should get to the root of where the problem started, if & how it can be fixed, & to what degree of severity the issue is. If you ever come across a problem that you think you can't fix, but you think that you could worsen it...then your first assumption is wrong. If you have the power to worsen a situation, then you have the power to change it for the better.
This may seem like a To-Do list of some sorts, but it should make you feel confident in the fact that you have control over many things, and whether you take control or not, is your choice.
If your concern is that you can't accomplish a goal...have no fear, yes you can.
ok i like teal black white and grey and i LOVE paris. so i want ideas to make my room very french looking. i cant get a new bed or furniture but most of my furniture now is black and silver.
also. my room is VERY tiny. 7x9 so i cant really add a whole lot to it but i did get a $50 gift card for pottery barn.
Since your room is small, a mural of the eiffel tower on one of the walls would make the room appear taller, given that the structure is painted to appear tall & narrow. I can actually imagine it...and it's cute.
If you're not artistic, pay an artistic friend to do it. They'll charge less than someone in the paper or something.
You have answered my question, but I still need more advice. I did tell him the whole truth, and I have my little brother talking to him. But he keeps saying that he wants nothing to do with me. But I can't help it. I need and want him. Friends have said to wait. Wait for him to let it sink in and realize that it was just a mistake and that he will take me back because he loves me but I don't want to get fooled or I don't want to get my hopes up. I do love him. And just to make it clear I am a 21 year old, I've been in and out of relationships and I know for a fact that I am crazy in love with him. Help me please.
I think that he's still angry for what he thinks is a violation of trust...and it's like the kind of anger that's matched with shock. He probably felt the deep love that you're expressing for him before he saw that text. I think that your friends may be right about waiting, but if you wait too long, he's going to forget details about what he's forgiving you for, then when you tell him, it will rehash the feeling of "betrayal."
Once you've waited for a small amount of time, you might want to talk to him. Your little brother might appear to him as someone you asked to defend you to him....this may make it look like it was something more. Maybe if there's some kind of a mutual friend that you & your boyfriend share that's equally trusted by both of you, that friend could help you make some headway in revealing the harmlessness of all this. Whenever you talk to him, (this should come from you), tell him that whatever it is that makes him think you're really cheating on him is nothing to worry about because you're not his ex-girlfriend(s), one of which probably cheated on him somewhere along the line...causing him to be very close-minded to your story, in fear of being hurt again.
If you express your concern as clearly as you can, at as many opportunities as possible, you should be able to get through to him.
But, of course, you know this guy better than I do because I don't even know who he is. If he's withdrawn & sensitive & seems hurt about this, tell him that you're not out to hurt him & all the text business was whatever...If he's more insecure & loud, & seems angry, then apologize. If he conveys an expression of hurt & anger, try both.
I'm sure you already have tried both, but persistence brings results...just not too in his face, because then he'll feel smothered. Also, if you seem too overbearing in your attempts to convince him, it will seem like you're just trying to get this behind you as quickly as possible, as if there's something to hide.
Patience & persistence.
In the meantime, you might be able to text him hello or something...but he needs to rationalize it out because he thinks it's something big apparently.
Rather than use statements, when talking to him, that fault him, use statements that express your confusion...even though you may not be confused.
example:
NOT "You never told me I couldn't text guys, so how should I have known?" or "You never told me you'd overreact like this....you never were this easily hurt before."
BUT "I'm sorry, I didn't know texting this guy out of town would cause so many problems...Had I known, I wouldn't have done it. I won't do it again, if it bothers you, because I care."
Just word choice is important, yeah.
Good luck.