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~A little Advice for the broken hearts~
You are afraid and hurt and you dont know what to do. You feel empty and alone, like the whole world has just ended. You have a hole in your heart one that feels like it can never be repaired, but just know that in time that hole will be gone. Getting your heart broken is like getting a deep cut. It hurts really bad, and no matter what you do you cant stop thinking about it because you know its there and its hurting, but with a few stitches and a little tlc (friends and family helping you through) and some antibiotic ointment (ice cream) soon that cut will only be a scar (a memory) it will always be there but it wont hurt anymore, you are strong and you can make it through this!!
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i am a 13 year old girl and i ahve been fingered many of times but not given HJ or BJ but i want to know and i want to have sex but i dont know what to do? could you give me some advice x
I agree with adviceman 13 is too young to be having sexual relationships (or really at 13 all you can really have is a sexual situationship) I definitely think you should wait. Take time to educate yourself on all the things you need to know about sex before partaking in sextracaricular activities. (I sound like my mother but it's so true) enjoy your childhood while you can. It's ok to be curios and learn about sex. But do it in a safe way research online teen sex information. Just be careful what you type and how you type. Ask an adult you trust for more information on sex, pregnanct, STD's and HIV. Please when you do have sex use proper protection. Sex can be fun for a minute but that minute isn't worth spending the rest of your childhood waking up every 3 hours to a screaming baby with a smelly diaper.
what is a painless and easy way to die?
Please please don't do anything to harm yourself. First, I am so sorry you're feeling this way and I wish so badly I could give you a hug and make it all go away. But since I can't do that please take my advice instead. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. What ever is going on now can be fixed. Somehow it will get better. You have family that loves and adores you and losing you would break their very existence. I love someone I love to suicide and I blamed myself for so long. Please don't put them in that postition. When you kill yourself your problems are over... but those who love you will be haunted and pained by your death for their entire lives wondering what they could've done different or why you didn't want to stay with them. Please call the suicide hotline they have people there 24/7 that can just sit there and listen to you if you need it Call 1-800-273-8255
Available 24 hours everyday
Please try it before anything if you need a friend to talk about your troubles please send me a direct message and if you'd like include your email. I pray you're ok and that you'll remain thatin good health
I don't think my parents love me rather my mom I'm always getting bashed for doing something "wrong" for example I'm on the computer when she says I cant be playing computer games but what I'm doing is I'm reading an article online I GET BASHED FOR NOTHING!!! and it really gets on my nerves what do I do?
Your parents love you very much. Sometimes as a paren't you get caught up in the day to day snuggle of everyday life and it's struggles and you forget to let the ones you love most know how you feel. Its easy to forget that the little things matter most to those we love. I think you should have a grown up sit down talk. Ask your parents for some separate time for you to talk to them about something important. Remember that the most calm you are the more calm they will be. When confronted sometimes people feel attacked so be sure to delicately explain. Let theme know that you know they love you. They provide food clothes a roof over your head and all the good things you have. And tell them you're thankful for the things you do have because of them (parents love being reminded thay they are doing something right) but tell them that lately you have felt a little set aside and that you're hurt and youre feeling the lack of love from them. Maybe ask for special "you" time every once in a while and ask what you can do for them to improve your relationship. I am so sorry you are going through a rough time right now but I promise you... it will get better.
17/f
I have quite a lot of freckles from the sun. How do I get rid of them or lighten them/make them less? I don't wanna nessasarly buy products for it so I'd prefer something natural but if there are products or someway you know about please let me know. I have clear skin acne wise so I just really wanna get rid of my freckles or just make them less so my skin can be flawless. I do wear sunblock everyday and do the things to avoid getting new freckles so don't need ways on preventing them just how to get rid of it
Try using lemon juice. Cut a fresh lemon and rub half of it on your face. Lemons have a natural bleaching agent that can lighten freckles and sun spots. Also start wearing a moisturizer with sunscreen to protect your skin :) make sure to do a skin test prior to putting it on your face to be sure you don't have any allergies to citric acid. Hope this helps.
25/f. I have been dating a guy for about 2 years and we have had a wonderful, beautiful relationship. Yesterday he asked me for a loan and it really really hurt me. I have never had a single friend in my whole life... up until him, the only people who were ever willing to spend time and get to know me were paid to do so. (Teachers, therapists, etc) I am quite well-off, my parents give me full financial support and folks I know have frequently asked me for money for this and that. It always makes me feel so worthless, like I'm an ATM machine or something. I really hoped that Eric would be different and it just makes me really really sad and disappointed. Should I just leave him now?
I don't really think this is a reason to leave him. Unless he has asked to borrow a ton of money. If yall have been together for 2 years and this is the first hes asked then why is that bad? It probably took a lot for him to ask you as well.. Fearing you may react as you are now. Sometimes people need a little help and its hard for them to ask for it. If he has a good reason behind it, then be happy he could come to you with anything.
I'm in the process of wanting to commit suicide as I want to be with my son, I haven't got anyone at all, my partner ignores me blames me for what our son did, he wrote me a letter blameing me and how much he hates me and he wished I was dead instead, I'm having nightmares and dreaming of being with my son so so much, iv tryd to get help and I cant get any at all, I'm on medications and it makes me feel even worse, I sit up each and every night now as iv planned my suicide to the end, as I vet left at him on my own quite alot and i know I wouldn't be found till.i am dead, I need help and I cant get it so what's the point, I wouldn't be missed at all as I'm always on my own anyway, I tryd it last year and it felt so good as it took the pain away what I was feeling, cant believe I am still here, please help me or vive me son advice to help me please, next time I'm going to go somewhere very spe ial so I has to be right I do t want to wake.yp I'm done and fed up, iv found homes for my pets tht iv raised and they don't need me now, thank you for reading
I understand how you feel. I lost a son too. My baby was a stillborn and it hurt immensely I never even got to meet him outside of my tummy. So I can't imagine the pain of raising my boy and then losing him. I am so sorry for your loss. I know you are hurting and I know you want to go be with him but you are still here on earth because you are still meant to do something. It's not your time yet and your son is there with you every night when you are sad he holds you while you cry. He loves you and he lives on through you. So something great in honor of him. Maybe tell your son's story to someone and maybe that will save their life. There is no problem with asking for help you can always call 1-800-273-8255 it's a suicide prevention line they will talk to you as long as you need and refer you to different places that can help you in your area if need be theready are people answering phones 24 hours a day. If you don't feel like talking on the phone you can always go to suicideproventionlifeline.org and click live chat where you can text or chat online with someone instead. They can help you either talk it out or get you some therapy and even provide you with coping skills until you get into your first session. I am so sorry for your loss I promise you that you can and will get through this. Until thenow feel free to write back any timevent if you need to talk.
So this guy and I met online. He's from Korea, he moved to Canada a few months ago. He's 17, I'm 16.
So we've been talking for about a month now. Whenever I had any problems or anything, he would always listen to me. He told me his problems and I would try and help in any way I could.
We would talk about our crushes in real life. He told me he's really tired of his crush for whatever reason. I told him that the guy I like is a complete douchebag.
^^ He comforted me by saying the guy that I like "lost the most perfect girl in the world".
He would always text me Merry Xmas and Happy New Year first and stuff like that. He likes my posts and stuff like that.
He has been calling me "pabo" lately, which means idiot or stupid in Korean.
I told him "Bye" once and he said "Whyyy? No, you can't leave" and I was like "Why, will you miss me?" (
The only way to be sure is to come out and ask him. Let him know how you are feeling and see if he has any feelings towards you. It sounds like you both have a great friendship and he may have intimate feelings toward you but might be afraid to mention them knowing that you have another person in your life that you are attracted to. Best thing you can do is mention that you arent sure how he feels let him know how you feel and then go from there. Be confident and it will all work out. But be careful. Online dating can sometimes be dangerous not everyone is who they say they are. Please never try to meet up with someone alone. Good luck and best wishes to you both
I live in NJ and I am under age of 18 and I had sex would I Be aloud to get a pregncey test?
you are able to buy a test under the age of 18 but if you are not pregnant I would suggest a form of birth control. I know its not what every teen wants to hear but trust me I was a young mom. Please check out www.teensource.org/birth-control you can get information on sex, birth control, and protection against STD's good luck and best wishes for the future
Shes 16 and she used to be bulimic when she was 13. She goes to bathroom everytime after she eats. Whats ways i can know if she js bulimic
The best thing to do is ask her if she is having a problem. Or maybe talk to her parents. I know you wont want to go them but this is a serious illness that could take her life. If she does have this problem she needs to get help. If you need information about eating disorders please visit
www.halfofus.com/condition/eating-disorders/
best of luck
I am 14 year old gal i want 2 start having sex i just feel insequre and i fuck my self with a toothbrush.this man was wiling 2 pay me for it wat must i do i mean its worth it cause i need to break my vigirnity hardcore
Here is the thing... You say you're 14... well I don't really believe that. 14 Year olds don't say "gal" either you really are a pervert that needs to be sitting in jail for even thinking about a 14 year old child like that or if you really are a 14 year old "gal" you need to go do your homework and stop that foolish behavior. Im sorry im usually nice when I am giving advice but this is just sickening. If on the slight chance this is really a 14 year old you need to go get some help dear and your parents need some major parenting classes because they are failing you.
My friends did the challenge but we didn't know we had to say charlie charlie can we stop? before we could stop playing! Are we all going to be haunted until we die or just the person who first asked to summon the demon?
SCARED PLEASE HELP!
Charlie Charlie is just a game. Its actually gravity and the delicate position of the balancing pencils that make it move. Charlie is not real. You're not cursed everything is going to be just fine :)
It's gross, especially when it's overt and/or persistant. I thought a relationship was meant to be between 2 people? Why do some couples try to get other people's attention? I noticed yesterday at the mall. There was this interracial couple all over each other, as we stood in line at this food place, and i'd focus on other things but they'd sometimes look back with this look on their face line they want their relationship to interest people, incite anger or jealousy, etc. it was awkward for me, directly behind them, and others in line. I have no problem with any couple, interracial, gay, lesbian, transgender, one young and one old, etc. I'm happy others can find love and be in relationships. I'm not jealous either, it's just uncomfortable to essentially be viewing foreplay without consent. There were children in line, too. Some people seem to get a sexual thrill out of people seeing their pda and that just seems sick and self centered. It makes me understand why there are countries that ban it.
Most likely they were not doing it for yours or anyone else's attention. When two people are in love they want to show affection to each other. Its reall a matter of if you dont like it dont look. Kissing, hand holding, cuddling ect. is not a form of "foreplay". That is a couples way of saying they love each other. Its not really a cry for attention or them saying "hey look at us"
No matter where you go you are going to find people who chose to show off their love in puplic. Someday when you are in a relationship you will show affection for your signifigant other as well and you will undestand. Good luck and best wishes to the future.
please tell me how i can make the voices stop! they are scary and say terrible things that i can't blocl out of my mind. how do i make voices in my head go away?
You need to go see a doctor. This problem you are having needs to be properly evaluated and medicated. Dont be afraid or ashamed of this problem. Getting help is a good thing. Try calling crisis they can give you information for your area. Good luck
Crisis hotline
(877) 437-7513
I am a junior in college, 20 years old. The guy this is about is 23 years old and a senior in college but is staying an extra semester in college.
My sophomore year of college:
I met this guy through a mutual friend of ours. I got his number one night, we had talked everything will day the person who even fell asleep first during the night would be the person to respond to the last text sent from the night before so the conversation would never end. He has a very flirty sense of humor and I really enjoy his company and talking to him all the time. His friend was turning 21 One night and they were all going out to the bar to celebrate, he asked me if I could pick him up and bring him back to his place because he knew that he would be drunk to which I was happy that he would be smart about that to ask me to do that so I told him yes. So he texted me around 2 o'clock in the morning when the bar closed, that he and his friends are ready to leave. So I left my place to go get them and when I went back to their place and we all hung out and talked for little bit, he pulled me in his room to tell me that he did not want to be with his friends that night because they were all much more drunk than he was so I offered for him to stay at my place. He said yes and after he left his room, he told his friend goodbye and we left to go back to my place. Now, I work for housing so I had a early desk shifts around 6 o'clock in the morning, we got back to my placeat around 230 in the morning and we had talked until about five, I fell asleep for about 45 minutes and when I woke up from my desk shift and got out of my bed, he woke up too. I told him to go back to bed. After my desk shift, I went back to my room and he was awake watching tv, saying he couldn't fall asleep with me and then fall back asleep without me so I went back to bed and we fell back asleep. When we woke back up, we stayed there for a few more hours just talking and then we decided we qere hungry. I got up to go to the dining hall and he pulled me back down to my bed and kissed me and then said thanks for taking care of him and being there.
Fast forward to junior year:
He and I talked all through the summer and everything but at the start of school he started talking about a girl he works with at home and how she will be attending our university. When his texts started getting more sparce a month into school, I saw on Twitter that he was dating the girl he told me about. I wasn't mad they were and I wasn't even mad he stopped talking to me.
About a month ago, he texted me and asked if I knew this girl and sent me a picture. I knew her so I told him yea and he started grilling me asking me how and all of these things trying to set up a time we could all hang out but he wouldn't tell me why he was asking me these things so I got mad and stopped answering him
About two weeks ago, he texted me and asked if I remembered the argument we had about the girl he wanted to get to know. I said that yes, I did remember and he told me he wanted to clear the air that it was his girlfriend that texted me and wanted to know because she had a weird girl crush on that girl and wanted to be friends with her. He apologized a lot and told me he knew it upset me how rude she was being and he wanted me to know that he would never intentionally upset me like that and he wanted me to know that it wasn't him.
This past Saturday he texted me and asked me what I was doing. I told him I was playig with my friend's pet duck. He told me he had a cat before with his girlfriend. I told him I know and that I rmemeber that, he had to return the cat because they felt after his attitude hasn't changed in the couple weeks they had him that a college campus wasn't a suitable environment for that cat so they took him back to his owner. When I told him that I remember, he then told me that it was a different cat and that his girlfriend took this one home because they broke up and he left her have the cat but she couldn't keep it on campus since she lives in a dorm. I told him I was sorry for the break up and he said "Why do you think I told you it was her texting you that night and not me? I didn't want you to be mad at me."
Since then, it's been like before. We haven't stopped talking. We talk and reminisce about the night he stayed with me after drinking with his friends, we talk about how much fun we used to have hanging out, we talk about his best friend's deployment, everything. He's since asked me to hang out too and the one night I was sick of caring for my drunk friends, he told me to drop them all off at their respective places and if I needed anywhere to stay, his door was always open.
However, I don't know how to feel. I mean, I like it that were talking again, I did miss him. But I kind of feel like I'm only good enough for him when he's single. Or that he's got ulterior motives, that he maybe wants me to be his rebound. I haven't hung out with him even though hes asked and I don't know if I should, he misses his ex girlfriend (she broke up with him) and I don't know if he's just talking to me again for him to get over her.
It makes me feel iffy that he isn't using me to get over her because he calls me friend a lot in his texts. He did that before but I think he's doing it a lot more now. But he is asking me to hang out and he went right back to how we used to be as good friends. I even told him one night that they could all go to my friends place to hang out me and then I told him I fast tracked that if he was with his ex, I didn't want them to since I know she didn't like me and I knew she was the reason he stopped talking to me all those months (to which he agreed that she was the reason) and he was quick to text me and tell me that she wasn't with them if I wanted them to go to my friends place to hang out, they could.
So my question is, am I thinking too hard about this? I missed him. I like how we mesh together so well. But could there be ulterior motives? Should I be mad that he stopped talking to me?
Been there, done that! I know you don't want to believe it but if he really wanted to be with you he would be. I was in a similar situation before. He was with me and while with me he was talking to another girl. He was just with me until he could get her. After he succeeded in getting with her I didn't exist. Then when they broke up he wanted me again... that is until he found someone else again. When they broke up he was trying AGAIN but of course I wasn't dumb enough to go back. Don't let him use you like that. If you feel you are only good enough when he is single. Chances are you are right. You deserve better. If you want to try it out then talk to him and let him know you are not just the in between or the rebound. But be careful guys can be vicious at times. Go for someone who really wants you for you and always wants you around. S
OK...so when you put the tampon in and push it in...do you pull the plastic out and leave the cotton stuff in? This is my first time using a tampon and I was just nervous. Got any stuff that might help?
You do need to remove the plastic. Below I posted a link to a website that had a video and picture directions as well as written step by step information on how to use a tampon. Good luck!
http://youngwomenshealth.org/2012/09/27/tampons/
I have lied to my boyfriend his car handle fell off so I try to fix it with some super glue he came to my house that evening and asked me if I tried to fix his hand on his car with super glue and I stood in front of him face to face and I said no so he said well I'm going to call my son and see if he done it so you got a hold of his son and his son said no I didn't do it look at the cameras that you have at your house and it will tell who did it. So the next day when he left for work I text him that I did ithe forgive me for that stupid lie but he still broke up with me because I did it face to face if you truly love somebody you shouldn't have to lie to him you should tell them the truth what should I do I asked him for a second chance but he's not listening or even talking to me
Honesty is very important in a relationship. Telling such a silly lie so easily makes him wonder if you could lie about much bigger things just as well. He is probably feeling like you arent sorry you lied, and that youre only sorry you got caught in the lie. Once trust is broken its hard to build again. Try to talk to him and ask what it would take to prove you are truly sorry. If you love each other maybe you can work it out. If he is this angry over something like this chances are your relationship is just... well over. Its hard to accept but you not only lied to him but you also got his son in trouble by doing so. And parents are very protective of their kids. So you dont just owe him an apology but you need to apologize to his son as well. And next time something like this happens dont try to cover it up with super glue and lies. Go tell your boyfriend what happened and apologize right away. Good luck and I hope it all works out but if it doesnt, you can read advice about heart break in the about me section on my column.
This guy likes me and keeps talking to me and I want to make sure I'm not accidently flirting with him. Can you tell what not to do? Thanks
Any type of kind behaviour can be mistaken as flirtatious. Why not just talk to this guy and let him know how you feel. Tell him you just want to be friends. Avoid physical contact like holding hands, snuggling up together, laying your head on his shoulder... things like that can send mixed signals. Also try not to compliment too much. Like telling someone you like their outfit that day is fine but things like you have a gorgeous smile, i love your eyes, youre cute... that is flirting. Good luck
hey, so there's this girl. AMAZING and i am so in love with her, and she has known for a long time. we have had drama and stuff about us, it all just seems like one messed up fairy tale waiting to come to an end. a few months ago, she told me that she liked me but wasn't sure if she would date me yet. i was fine with that answer and was determined to get her to love me the same, until the day she told me she chose another guy over me. that's when the drama started, but we've moved past that and she is still my great friend. Now she's thinking about breaking up with the other guy, but I'm not sure if it's for me. She said maybe one day soon her love for me will grow stronger, so I want to win her back. I even got into a fight with her bf tonight haha. anyways, i just need help on how to do it? i would prefer a girls advice please because i need a girls opinion on what they would do in this situation thanks and sorry that it's so long.
You sound like you are quite smitten with this girl. Maybe you should talk to her and tell her how you feel. Let her know that you are in love with her and you would do anything for her. Even if it means waiting for her to love you back. Be confident but not cocky. Tell her what you love about her, why you fell for her in the first place. Ask her to give you a chance to prove to her that you are who she is meant to be with. If she doesnt feel the same way than maybe you should move on and find someone else who will love you as much as you love her. You deserve happiness and I pray you find it. If it doenst work out though go check out my column there is some nice advice on how to deal with heartbreak...
But i hope you end up together.
A little hint.. girls love flowers!
Good luck
So um my ex that I went out with once...we broke up because of my bestfriend telling me he was talking to another girl..so I flipped out on him and then realized it wasn't true and he stopped talking to me and of course he started talking to my "bestfriend" who by the way is really really easy. A week later they have sex...I confront her about it and she told me the truth of course..I was upset so I went back to hang out with my friends and my 2015 resolution was to cut them out of my life...it worked till our friend died... He started to come around my house and my friends more and lucky for me..my friends hated the bitch so she never came around..recently him and I have become closer,a couple people have told us why don't you guys date? And my stomach drops but I tell them "ew no" or "he's too ugly for me" which I said yesterday and he heard me and smiled and shock his head..a couple days ago I guess he thought I was going to a gathering and I didn't show up and obviously he probs flirted with other girls but at the end of the night he texted me telling me I never showed up..normally he either snapchats me or facebooks me, but it was a text asking why I didn't show up..and yea.last night I spent all day with him shooting guns..and he drove me home leaving my bro with my parents and took my bros friend with us to go to my house and we all had a convo about a really annoying person that he would never hang alone with..so I came back with..you're annoying to sometimes and I still hang around you..his response was " I'm not going anywhere no matter what" and before that he was mocking one of our friends snapchatting both of us..saying you guys should date and he was like " hey! Renee! I guess we should date now because everyone is telling us too" I was like "nooooo"..he tries to fuck girls in our circle but it never happens like at another gathering he would go flirt then come back an hang around me for like 30 minutes also he said he'd take me to the zoo☺️
I'm so confused I'm starting to miss my cuddle buddy but he fucked me over and shit..I like being close to him as a friend but I kinda wanna be more but then I don't . I dont even know what to do..he's there for me, he talks to me. More now
Sounds like you have a lot going on! You are in love with someone who hurt you. But I have to tell you a little secret... No relationship is perfect. If you really love this guy then you have to find a way to forgive him and move on from the past. Best way to do that is to sit down with him and have a talk. Let him know exactly how you feel about the situation. Let him know how you feel now. Get it all out and then forgive him put it in the past. But tell him that that kind of behaviour is unacceptable. Then try again if he wants to.
If it doesnt work out or you dont want a relationship with him then you need to stop spending time with him so that you can get over him and move on.
I hope it works out best for you
Good luck!
How do I fully grab his attention again? How do I get my cuddle buddy back? How do I get him to like me again... That would make my day..how would I get him to try for me again after the shit he pulled with my "bestfriend"
To bettdr answer your question I would need a little more details on what is going on. But from what you typed it looks like he cheated on you in some way with your best friend. Stuff like that is hard to get past. But if you really love this guy and you want your relationship back you are going to have to let the past stay in the past.
so sit down with him and have a talk. Tell him exactly how you feel about what happened and how it effected your relationship. Let him know that it will take time to build trust. Let all of what you have been holding in out. But then after youre done, forgive him and let it go.
If you cant do this then its time for you to move on and cut him out of your life. You cant expect things to be normal if you are still angry. Good luck.