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Hi I'm a 13 year old girl, and I kinda have an imaginary friend... Is this ok? I don't really have any real friends, so I made up an imaginary friend when I was about eleven. It's not like I 'talk' to her in public, just when I'm at home, but is it wrong to have an imaginary friend when you're 13? Am I crazy or something? Please help me. :/
I don't believe you're crazy. I went through the same thing when I was your age. I'm an only child, had parents that didn't really let me go out/let friends over, so often times I'd be home alone watching tv and I would pretend like someone was there with me. I would talk out loud. And sure it seems silly but I grew out of it eventually. Like you, I wouldn't talk in public to them. So no worries, eventually you'll have company around so there will be no need to have that imaginary person there alongside you. Good luck!
I just went natural and I normally go to a salon to get my hair flat ironed. It's not really helping much because my hair still ends up in a ponytail. So instead I thought of using a product that will let meme west my hair out and curly without being really poofy. If you can name some product names that would be a great help! Thanks!
I went natural and mostly chemical free in the fall of 2010. It's been tough, but my hair has had time to heal and I don't plan on stopping. I strongly suggest checking out the naturallycurly website. They have forums for all different types of hair, product reviews, and a bunch of other stuff in between. Plus, you can find reviews on salons curly hair friendly. Personally, I have loose curls, and I just had it cut in layers so my longest layer is midback. I had to, as my hair was being weighed down by the length (lower back). I use lighter products because my hair gets weighed down easily. I use DevaCurl Light Defining Gel and their Frizz Free Volumizing foam, NOT at the same time. I like the volumizing foam more but it can get a little drying since it's like mousse. I also use AG Recoil for more curls, or JessiCurl's Rockin' Ringlets. Good luck! :)
I'm a 75 yr-old grandfather from wisconsin. Our son's ex-wife insists on being invited to our family functions such as holiday dinners. It is very uncomfortable with her at the table with our son and his new wife. Is it reasonable for to expect to be included?
Thank you.
Hello there!
It seems that your son's ex-wife got along very well with your family, and perhaps is on good terms with everyone, including your son. Does she feel comfortable with your son and his wife present? I would assume she does, if she feels that she can sit through family functions perfectly fine. Do they have any kids together? That might also be another reason why she chooses to attend the family functions.
Either way, the person who seems most uncomfortable is you. Do you mind her being there, or are you uncomfortable with her being there because you think the sight of your son with his new wife hurts her? It's definitely time to speak with your son's ex-wife is that helps you feel any better. Good luck, and I hope I helped!
Sincerely,
Uniq.
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i'll give you a little bit of background info: I have been on and off with my friend mark for about 2 years now. when we first met, he took me on a date and had a little fling before he went back to college. after i graduated high school i went to the same college as him and we still go there together. last year we would randomly hook up at parties and then at spring break he apologized for leading me on, and then we hooked up again a month later where he proceeded to ignore me again. i was extrememly hurt by this and would ignore him.
i have a class with him this year and on the first day he texted me which i ignored, and then at the end of class he pushed through a bunch of people just to say "hi" to me and now he always sits by me and my friends in class. we have gotten together to do homework twice and he even made me a pregame playlist randomly because i told him that i was running out of good music.
basically, i invited him to my date party for my sorority and he told me that he would go with me as friends only. he said he knows that we have a past together but just wants to be friends now. i'm really confused by this because of the way he has been acting towards me in class, and the fact that he initiates getting together outside of class/made me a playlist. what does he mean he just wants to be friends?! when we would hook up, we never had sex btw. i'm just really confused what he's feeling, it's giving me a headache. any insight would be appreciated.
Hey there!
In my opinion, it would be best to just be straightforward with him. He keeps saying he wants to be friends, so maybe it is best to treat him as a friend only. No hooking up, especially if your feelings are getting involved. It seems like he does whatever he wants, regardless of how he feels about you.
If I were in your shoes, I'd just tell him "Look, it's time to stop playing games. Are you into me as more than a friend or not?" He needs to be honest with you. Put yourself first. Good luck and I hope I helped :)
Sincerely,
Uniq.
I haven't felt as if I lack confidence in a very long time. I've been with my lovely boyfriend for two years now, and he's always telling me he loves me as I am, and I can sincerely see that he does love me and my body the way I am.
I'm not overly-confident, but I'm happy with myself (most of the time) and I do get checked out and complimented every now and then.
However, I recently discovered that he watches porn about twice a week or so; at first I found it hard to cope with- but now I've gotten over it. I know he's looking at the sex- not the girls themselves. And he has reassured me that he loves me and he's not looking for something else or someone else.
I've known throughout our whole relationship that he's into boobs. I'm myself a small C, but I like my boobs, and he seems to be liking them too.
But then I was using his laptop the other day and his latest torrent search was just "boobs" (showed up when I typed in the torrent address myself) and since then I've felt a little lacking in confidence in myself. I don't have big perfect boobs. I also don't have a perfect body to look super cute in everything and so on. If I've spent the night with my boyfriend, I generally wander around in my undies and then a t-shirt or a hoodie. My boyfriend seems to find this sexy and he'll say so too. But after coming across a Tumblr page that had a lot of artsy-type pictures of girls in their underwear, etc, it really has made me feel like my body is horrible and I'm definitely far from being as confident as I was maybe a week ago.
There's been no change in my boyfriend, my friends, or the people around me. Just today a man asked me for my number and told me I'm pretty. But I still can't help but feel so imperfect and well..boring..ordinary. Hard to find a word to describe how I feel.
How do I get back to my fairly confident self, and learn to love my body again? I hate feeling this way...
I really, really wish I could answer your question. Unfortunately, I have the same issue. My boyfriend watched porn, and I would get so upset! It literally hurt my feelings because I'm most definitely not close to perfect, and lets face it, they are checking out the women. There's no way he's watching porn without checking out the women. Without getting into too much detail, I just want you to know you're not alone. I sincerely hope someone provides you with the answer you're looking for. In the meantime, know that you're not alone, and many women can understand you. Good luck, and sorry I can't answer your question!!
Uniq
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I really, really would like to do something to do with modelling. I don't think I'm pretty, or have that great of a figure, but I really would enjoy it. Everytime I see models on TV, I wish I was one. My parents laugh, they don't believe I'm serious, but I really am. What should I do? I want to pursue this, and I have told my mum and dad I'm serious, but they don't think I am.
Hello!
I'm not sure where you live, but you might want to start off looking on modeling forums. When I have questions about serious things like a potential career, or cities I want to move in, I go to forums where people have experience in it. I would suggest googling 'modeling forums'. You may have to tweak it a bit to find the right forums to read. The reason is because they can tell you how to differentiate a scam from a real modeling agency. Perhaps where and how you should start a portfolio. Etc. Hopefully, you can get someone here at Advicenators who might be a model :) Good luck!
Uniq
i sorta like this guy..but i dont think all my friends would approve of him because i heard them talking bad about another girls boyfriend like "hes not goodenough for you" or "hes ugly". i know i shouldnt care..but their opinion matters to me and i dont want them to talk bad about me or the guy behind my back. what do i do/say?
Well if they're passing judgement on someone's boyfriend based off their looks, they're not the correct people to be passing judgement, period. It's understandable if the guy had a history of being a cheater, or an abuser, but if they're saying he's not good enough for the girl because he's 'ugly', then their opinions definitely shouldn't matter to you!
Is the guy you like handsome to you? Is he nice to you? Does he treat you right? He should have more pros than cons if you're considering dating him lol. If he's worth the chance, forget about what your friends think. And if they say rude remarks, you stand up for yourself and say your taste is different than theirs. While they may like brown eyes, you like blue. Why should YOUR boyfriend have to fit THEIR standards? It just shows their lack of maturity. Good luck!
Uniq
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Hi, im a 15 year old girl.My boyfriend is 17years.
At first he was my friend and I always said I will have a boyfriend when i finish school, unfortunately that did not happen.we now have sex, he always wants money from me and I would give him.I love him so much and i think the reason why i feel like I cant do without him is because i do not live with my dad and theres no proper father and daughter cummunication.my mom
does not live with me either. he told me he will show me the love im not recieving from my parents,but this demanding way of him steps in some time and ill have to give him money or what he wants.What should I do ? leave him.
He's no good. Plain and simple. First of all, I'm sorry that you're going through this. I understand where you're coming from. But my advice would be to stop seeing him, even as a friend. Cut him off completely. He shouldn't be taking your money, especially because he's manipulating you, knowing you're in love with him, therefore, you won't say no. Please, stop seeing this guy. I know it's hard because you're in love with him, but I know if it were one of your friends in your shoes right now, you would advise him or her that he isn't in the best interest for her.
You are 15 years old. You're so young! And full of capability. You have time to date, to meet new people, to figure out whether you want to work, school, or travel after graduating high school! You are limiting yourself at this moment. I guarantee you, you WILL find someone better than this guy. Someone who loves you, respects you, and will give to you more than he receives. Someone who will provide you that love that you deserve. All you have to do is better yourself. Keep going to school, get great grades. Meet new people and have healthy supportive friends. Along the way, whether it be a year from now or 20, you will meet someone who will fill that empty space in your heart that desires love. This guy won't. He doesn't respect you, judging by what you're telling us. I wish you the best!!!
Uniq
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My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year and 3 months. He is 18 and I am 16. We used to be the happiest couple around. We argued like every couple but we didn't do it all the time. I started talking to another guy but all i wanted was a friend, this other guy wanted more and i knew but i never told my boyfriend. Things got bad for a while but we decided to put the past behind us and start fresh. We were at a friends house and i was talking to him about fixing our relationship when he cut me off cause there were boobs on tv. And he is always talking to me like i dont matter anymore. What is really the problem?
Hello :)
In this type of situation, I'd say he is just being rude. But, Voiceofreason has a point. There is a possibility he's losing emotional attachment, thus, not caring how you feel. You should talk to him. Sit him down and seriously discuss this. Ask him how he feels about the relationship. Assure him you'll be calm and want to know the truth, no sugar coating. It's important to know whether he is happy in the relationship or not. Because misery loves company, and if he's miserable, he's most likely going to bring you down with him whether he realizes it or not. Communication is definitely key. We can only advise you, but we don't have the definite answer. Good luck, and I hope everything works out for you.
i'll try to make this short: i'm going to school to become a medical assistant next month. i have a choice to either do the 9 month diploma program or the 2 yr. associate's degree program. my friend recently got her diploma and has a good job with a medical clinic. which program should i complete? my goal in life is to just work a couple years and then become a stay-at-home mom. i feel like 2 yrs is a long time and i'm not getting any younger. would i be able to get a decent job if i just went for the diploma? thanks to everyone in advance.
Hello! Im currently going to school for my associate's in medical assisting, though right across from the strert is a program that is muuuuch cheaper and shorter. To be honest, here are the reasons why i chose to take classes at college instead of a diploma:
-the professors are RN's and very experienced
-i get lecture courses and labs where i can practice in students and dummies with equipment used in hospitals, clinics, etc.
-some employers like to see what courses you took in order to obtain your higher education knowledge and how you did in class.
-my school provides a 3 month externship where you use your knowledge on real patients in a real workplace. Paid.
I live in nyc, so i don't know if its different in other states, but iknow many employers here require you to be a certified mrdical assistant, meaning you need to sit for the exam. If im not mistaken, only people who have attended an accredited collrge or program can sit for this exam. You really should do your research before choosing, because money and your future are two things are extremrly important. Ask around your doctor's office, speak on forums.... You will really benefit from it... Especially if you network because you might find people who are experienced in your area and can ease you into the healthcare field! Good luck and im sorry i couldnt provide more info, im on my phone which explains my typos lol.
-uniq
My boyfriend had several partners before me, I had only one, I feel so intimidated and unconfident.I have even had someone come up to me and told me I looked like his ex, which made me feel even more like a replacement, or a just another disposable girl. He cried for her after he dumped her, then claimed that he was about to break up with her.
Is there a way to build my confidence and accept his past that is the complete opposite of mine.
Hello!
Firstly, don't feel like a replacement or disposable. You shouldn't ever feel that way. I'm assuming he doesn't put you down or anything, causing you to feel this way, so just remember that he's with you because he's interested in the person you are.
My concern is how long you two have been dating and whether or not the relationship is stable enough for you two to take it to the next level. Don't let yourself get pressured by him... Take things slowly and I'm sure along the way you'll start feeling confident enough. To be honest, guys are more interested in feeling up and doing than deed, as opposed to your special moves... If push comes to shove, just go with the flow and do what feels nice! Do your research, that might make you feel better. Find out how to do this, where to do that... It might give you some confidence in the fact that you're more knowledgeable! I hope you feel better, and good luck :)
-Uniq
I will be married to my husband 2 years in August. We have two children. I work full time he does not and its a major problem since ive known him he will not keep a job. he had a job end of jan. and quit the begining of april. He doesnt even look for a job or help around the house. Ive pleaded with him but he acts like im kidding about it. we dont talk much anymore or it seems like it we hardly ever even kiss each other. he doesnt hold me. i work pretty much monday - friday some weekends 8-9 hours a day but im usually home by 3 pm plenty of time to spend together. i asked him to clean up the yard 2 months ago and hasnt even attempted. i love him to death i just dont know what else to do. alot of the time i just want to ask him to leave and give up he and my son are always in to it (his step son) he seems to favor my daughter which is both of our child. he he is constantly spending what ever money we get and just takes it out of my wallet then denys it but i know he did.
Hello!
Although I'm not a marriage counselor, here's my take on the situation. Although you two have a daughter with each other, this lifestyle cannot be led anymore. Your husband needs to help out, in fact, I personally believe it's his obligation to work and provide just as much as it is yours. I can understand if he were going through something really troubling at this time of his life, perhaps a recent death of a family member, or some sort of injury. But he's taking your hard work for granted. Not only is he dismissing your concern over him not looking for a job, he uses your money for unknown reasons. You really need some sort of evidence of him taking that money from your wallet, like a videotape. Because if he denies it, you'll have the proof. I'm not sure how old your children are, but if he is not listening the nice way, you're just going to have to hit him where it hurts the most. Take your children and leave. He needs to make an effort for his daughter at least. He's not setting a good example for her. Your son obviously doesn't like seeing you work hard as opposed to your husband who stays home doing ...?
Talk to him one last time. Put your foot down. And if he doesn't look for a job, tell him you're done. He'll just keep taking advantage of you if you don't. If he says he will look for one, tell him he needs to stick with it. He can't jump from place to place... stability IS needed. And let him know if he doesn't keep his promise, things are over. It is unfair for him to keep doing this. And if you can, look for a marriage counselor. I'm sure they can help out way more! I hope I've helped in some way, and good luck.
-Uniq
Hello!
I'm about 8 weeks pregnant, and my baby's father, as well as my boyfriend whom I am having unprotected sex with, has just quit using meth. I know meth stays in your system for up to 6 months. I'm just wondering if he is ejaculating inside me, if this can effect the fetus? He has been clean for a few days now, and is staying quit. I just need to know if we should use a condom for a while?
Btw, I don't need anyone to tell me that I shouldn't be with him, because he was using drugs. I've heard it before & you don't know our situation. I just need advice on this, please and thanks :o)
Hello!
As a disclaimer, I used Google to search some information on this question. It is an interesting question because I've never thought about it. What I found was that yes, it is possible. Now, don't quote me on this because you never know if these people are just making assumptions lol. Your best bet would be to A: Use a condom until you find a sure answer to your question and B: discuss this with your Doctor, simply because he or she will know what is best for your and your baby. I hope you find the help you need, and congratulations on the pregnancy :D
-Uniq
im 18 female and i cant seem to find any way to pleasure myself. Ive tried fingering myself and touching myself but its not pleasant to me at all :( the only thing that seems to give me any sort of pleasure is 'pillow sex' where you basically rub yourself against or ride a pillow. Even then i cum but i can never have an orgasm. Im worried that (being a virgin) that the first time i have sex or let a guy finger or go down on me that i will be left with a very embarrassing situation, and that i wont be able to orgasm in any form of sexual activity. I do however know that a large percentage of women arent able to have orgasm through penetration, and that it usually involves foreplay to make a them orgasm. But i dont know if even that will work on me! Im also worried when the time comes that the guy im with will ask me how i can get him to pleasure me, and i wont know!
help :(
Hello!
You have nothing to be embarrassed about.. If you do a Google search, you'll find that many women do the same thing you do to help them orgasm! In my opinion, if you're worried about being with a guy and not being able to orgasm, try the 'cowgirl' position. Do a Google search on the various positions women utilize to help them climax. I can tell you you'll find many useful articles. Good luck!
Uniq :)
Im 17, male, a senior in high school about to graduate.
Just last night my girlfriend, who is a freshman, broke my heart, when she said that she wouldnt anytime soon. We talked this whole week and everything was just perfect. But suddenly, her whole heart changed overnight and she told me that she was losing feelings for me. The thing is, that since shes a freshman, her mom doesnt allow her to date, so that was why she broke it off with me because she was sick of sneaking around. It wasnt because of me, its all because her mom.
I was broken, but i at least wanted to spend my senior prom with her. And then she told me she couldnt go. It all happened yesterday, and i was shocked that i lost the best girlfriend i've ever had, and lost the chance to go to Prom. and prom is so close by that it's too late to ask anyone.
MY heart is broken and she is all i can think about, and everything seems dark to me. And what is worse, is that she seems completely happy on facebook and she's talking to a bunch of guys. I always have bad luck with this, and it always happens to me.
PLease help. How do you heal a broken heart?
Hey there,
Firstly, congratulations on the fact that you're soon to graduate HS :)
I'm sorry that you're heartbroken, but here is my opinion on it. She's young, and although she might have had fun times during the relationship, she's most likely not mature enough to handle a serious one. You say that she seems happy on facebook, talking to various guys. This means either she is trying to hide her sadness with friends, or she's becoming friends with all these guys and flirting (trying to see any potential boyfriends). Unfortunately, I think it's time you move on.. It can be hard, and may take some time, but I believe that you can overcome the heartbreak. Go to prom! Even if it's with friends... don't miss out on the event if you think you'll regret it later on.. I didn't go to my HS prom, but I definitely don't regret missing out.
Engulf yourself in a sea of friends and/or family! Improve any talents you may have, or learn more about something if you're interested. You are 17, you're just starting your life. Especially if you will be dorming out in college. Or perhaps you're planning to get a full time job, where you can meet more people and become more independent. You have endless possibilities, and that's how you need to see it. Positivity is the key... I don't know much about your plans but I hope I helped.
Take the time to meet more people as friends... who knows, you might meet someone special soon. So relax, think positively, because I promise you will soon heal over the break up and possibly find bigger and better things along the way. Good luck!!
Uniq =]
Just curious for people's thoughts.
Yes, I do believe there's someone for everyone :) And sometimes, there's more than 1. That's when things get tricky though.
I recently met this guy 2 weeks ago, I barely know him and he recently had a bad previous relationship. He sometimes talks about his ex, and he says that he doesnt want her to get hurt and all that stuff and about her bf. Then he told me that I should learn how to kiss and be a grown women and im only 16 and he's 23..I know!
but then again, he says that I'm really important to him and that he really likes me. and I'm falling in love with him really badly
Hello,
My first question (if I were a friend) would be why are you going out with a 23 year old guy! But, I am not here to judge you, I'm here to offer you a piece of advice :) In my opinion, he should NOT be telling you that you're a grown woman, because you aren't. And being a grown woman does not consist of kissing expertly. This guy is clearly trying to mold you into the girl he wants, since you're young and have yet to discover who you want to be. Plus, it's ONLY been two weeks! He is a stranger, already trying to change you, and that's a big no-no.
As far as talking about his ex, this means she most likely had a big impact on him. Whether it be good or bad, he needs time to get over it, and stabilize his life. Honestly speaking, do not get involved with this guy. Not to mention (I believe) he can get arrested for this. I myself went through this phase, except he was a pathological liar. He molded me into what he wanted me to be (I was 14 he was 18) and in the end, he cheated on me and humiliated me. I didn't know any better, and now I do. If someone could have given me this advice that I'm giving you now, and actually KEPT me away from him, I would probably be a much better person. Please, stay away from this guy. Stick to your friends in HS, you'll have plenty of time to go to college or work and meet new people. If you even said 'im only 16', that means your brain knows this situation isn't right. I hope I've helped. Good luck
:) Uniq
I've always been told what a good person I am and it's become a characteristic that has defined me growing up. I've always been fair, helpful, and honest and kind. It's very important to me to be this way. I've never really had many friends or a big group I should say, because it's hard to find people that are the same. I've always had few, but close friends that I loved and valued very much, but I'm a very social person and I always wanted to meet a group that I fit in with well.
Mostly, and throughout high school, it was always me and my best friend, and we got along great because of how open we were with each other. However, as it got close to our senior year I started getting the feeling that she wasn't very genuine. Not to me, or in a sense where she was dishonest, but to others. She would constantly copy me or try to outdo me in everything we did to people and it became vexing. We went to different high schools but whenever we hung out together I would notice she would constantly say and act to people in a way that was naturally me. I felt that there was nothing I could do that was unique to me anymore because she would always emulate it and adopt it and claim to be better at it. It became extremely vexing because of how pretentious she was. I let it go because I felt bad telling her I didn't think she was authentic, but it truly got at me, and sometimes, it would come out in the way I treated her. I became a bit passive aggressive towards her, I didn't mean to, but I really was getting so upset over how she became. We ended up going to the same college but not rooming together and so in college I decided I was going to take my space, I wanted to see how she would be if she didn't have me in her life to emulate. She ended up resenting me for it and we actually finally talked about it and I told her how I felt. I knew I had to be honest if anything was to be fixed. She understood, but of course no one wants to hear that, so I think she sort of put it out of her mind. She also got her first boyfriend (I was on rocky ground with mine) and got busier. We were okay, but we just were never the same. I got out of my old relationship and found a new, amazing guy who introduced me to a great group of people and I finally had everything I ever wanted. The close group of friends, the sweet relationship, the adventures, the parties, the young life I dreamed of. I would see her now and again but her boyfriend is much older (like my previous one had been -__-) and she was living a completely different life than me. It continued on until today, when she comes to talk to me and tell me that we just are not the same anymore, and that she noticed it when we were all at dinner the other day (me her and her bf and two friends) and I was on my own wavelength that she couldn't even talk to me. I was actually very happy that night and talkative, but I had to leave early because I was going to an event (which I invited her to) and I had to leave before dinner was over. I put down some money on the table, said goodbye, and left. In retrospect I see how it was very rude to do so but I would have felt even worse leaving without paying, even though I only ate desert. In any case she was telling me how she just didn't even want to go with me because I was in my own world etc etc. Oh and how her boyfriend (who i was friends with before they started dating) strongly dislikes me now because of the fact that she tells him how she feels and he of course takes her side to the point where it even annoys her. She just told me all these things about what a bad friend I have been and its true, I can see it, but at the same time, I just wanted my space because of how upset I got at her behavior and the fact that she wasn't herself, she was me. Constantly. Not anymore since I wasn't hanging with her as much of course. Regardless, I see that I was a bad friend, but it was all subconscious because of how annoyed I got with her. I explained this to her but I don't feel like she fully understood. I hate how she sees me as a bad person and she even told me you're very passive aggressive, etc. And I really have been very happy in my life but this makes me feel terrible, I don't want to be a bad person and leave her behind, but I cannot stand the way she is sometimes and the fact that I feel this way makes me feel even worse. Overall I don't know what I should do about this.... I apologized to her boyfriend for that night, but I don't know, I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. I feel like now that I am so happy with a great group of friends, I may not be such a nice person, like maybe that's the price I have to pay? I'm just so confused. Advice?
Hello :)
In my opinon, you shouldn't be sorry for anything. It's natural for you to get new friends, lead a different path than hers. I believe she's attached to you, and needs to meet new people. I think you and her should sit down, and talk this out. Let her know she's still your friend, but that she also needs to discover herself. It's fine to have a boyfriend, but she needs new experiences, diversity in her life. Maybe that's why she's a bit resentful, maybe you're experiencing what she wants to, but she doesn't know how to attain these experiences on her own. That is just my opinion though.. Good luck, hope I've helped!!
-Uniq
Okay so last night me and my boyfriend were talking. I asked him what he first fell in love with, and he said it was my personality. He said I'm not cute, but I'm pretty, and later said if he was in this relationship for looks, he wouldn't have said yes.
I am an over examiner. I think too much over tiny things. But what he said really hurt. It makes me feel like I am ugly. I am so self-conscious now. I don't want to feel that way. He's my boyfriend! I should feel my prettiest around him! I told him I was confused and he said, you're not ugly, just not the prettiest girl I have ever seen.
Which confuses me because he calls me beautiful and sexy and fine and I'm like ?
He's really got me stumped. Is he saying I am ugly or am I over examining?!
Ahhhh yes! You are over examining the statement. But you know what, you shouldn't. When he calls you beautiful and sexy, it's not always about your looks. Yes, he might be talking about your looks, but your movements can be sexy. Your thoughts can be beautiful... Think about it! :)
Unfortunately, there will ALWAYS be someone prettier than you and I. Why? Because each person has their preference. Your boyfriend might like short and skinny girls, while mine may like tall and chubby. I might think brunettes are prettier than red heads, but you might think that red heads are gorgeous. He is your boyfriend. He loves you for who you are. And he will look at other girls. It's the truth. Keep being the person you are, because if he's still with you, and enjoys your company, it's because he loves the person you are deep down inside. And if you need a confidence booster, dress up. Do what makes YOU feel pretty, whether it be putting on make-up or volunteering and helping others. Make yourself feel good, so you can exude that confidence and happiness and others will notice it! Hope I've helped!
-Uniq
i have to post a 5 minute video on youtube...but i have no idea how to even make the video! I have a digital camera that can take short videos, and i was hoping to be able to include some pictures as well. I have a dell computer with whatever basic programs came with it...i don't have any fancy movie software....help please!
I'm not sure if youtube let's you post a five minute video when you don't have much viewers. Yeah I've never posted any videos lol. But, as far as shooting the video I guess you can make short videos since your camera doesn't allow you to film for a long period of time. Use windows movie maker, and play around with it. In that program, you can put videos and pictures together, incorporate music, etc. Hope I've helped!