I'm a 15 year old christian guy and i have never had a girlfriend i am not ready for a relationship yet i want to wait until i'm older maybe after high school, i just want to live my life serving jesus he's more important to me than anything i just want to wait until i find the right girl i love jesus with all my heart and i am putting him first above everything, there's nothing wrong not wanting to date until im older is there?
I'm a 15 year old Christian girl and there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to wait to have a girlfriend. I understand where you are coming from and I encourage your wishes. Stick close to God and don't let people get you down about your beliefs. Thank you for your time.
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Hi I was wondering about masturbation I have been having sexual thoughts I am 14 a devout Christian guy but I'm not sure if I want to do it I hear Christians say it's a sin i don't want to go against God's word could it be a problem if you masturbate a lot? I don't really want to have sex or do anything sexually until I'm married I'm not sure if it's right for me what do you think?
I'm 15 years old and a Christian too. It IS a sin to have sex before marriage and masturbation is very healthy. Just masturbate and try to stay clear of porn, okay? I really hope that I helped.
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im girl 17,i told my classmate(boy) who is also my crush in the concrete i gave him a note, saying i like him..two days later, i asked him to talk about it bc he didnt give any respond and i wanted to how he feels ,during school,i asked him if we could go and talk somewhere private , he said it is nice that i told him about my feelings for him,he also told me that he know how hard it must´ve been for me to hide my feelings from him.then he said he doesnt have time for relationship bc he has activites besides school (he plays guitar, he dances)and also he told me he firstly wants to develop more spiritually..(if that makes sense) bc we go to catholic church ,and then he hugged me saying that we should continue to be friends and then i deleted him from my friends on fb during summer holidays bc i was always checking if he is online.now is new school year and he found out i removed him from my friends on fb, and he texted me why i did that, and if he did something wrong he is sorry , i told him i did it bc it hurts me and that i dont want to be friends, and he said it´s ok, i thought it would hurt less, but it hurts me more ,now i ignore him bc i dont know how to act to him..he sent me friend request on fb but i didnt accept it yet..he was good friend to me before i told him about my feelings..please help me should i be his friend again or not? if yes what should i tell him,why i suddenly accepted his friend request on fb,and also today is his birthday, should i wish him happy birthday even i removed him from my friends??..thanks for help :)
A healthy relationship will not always start off just as that. It all starts with friendship and if you want him then be his friend. Something similar happened to me but it turns out that he's just a really nice guy even thought I really thought he liked me. You need to take a breather because you are a big girl now and writing notes is kinda unacceptable. Just lay back and be cool about it, make him think you don't care anymore because that is what really gets them. I hope I helped.
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hi,
I read your advice and thanks so much....he doesn't wear a ring, but seeing that he is a bus driver I don't think id wear mine either...the way he is extra giddy towards me when he sees me...I don't think he is with anyone...and the sighs to me is saying you still don't get it.....im attracted to him, not just his to his teeth...lol. if I was to say anything to him, id rather do it when the bus is empty...but I guess I could take a chance....when I see him again...well, I think ill take your advice and push it a lil bit further and see what happens...thanks so much!!!
I read this fast but if he's married then don't do that. If he isn't then go for what makes you happy because everyone deserves to be happy, I hope everything turns out okay.
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How can I forget the girl I love the most?
You never will. Just take it one day at a time. I'm sorry about that and I'm kinda in the same situation
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My alcoholic mother neglected my education from age 5 by "unschooling" me (it's code for lazy parents who are too prideful to admit their failure in homeschooling) I'm going to be 18 next year and I've never been so depressed and hopeless.
I tried to motivate myself to catch up academically years ago, but it just made me too upset to even open a text book.
I have no idea what to do. I feel like I have no future.
I am sorry that I could not answer soon enough. I have no idea of how to help but go online to your school district and see what you'd need to know to be a 12th grader and study what you need. I really hope I helped.
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Hello, I'm freaking out and don't know what to do. I'm completely out of money and overdrafted by -$10 in my account.
I'm a college student who just moved off to college less than a month ago and found a new job three weeks ago. It turned out though that in the first two weeks my job didn't give me very many hours as I was training so I only wound up with about $110 for the first week and haven't been paid yet for this last week and won't be paid for this week until next Thursday or later.
My issue is that I have a car payment and car insurance which totals about $425 together and my car insurance was taken out this morning, which is what overdrafted me.
I even sold a watch that I loved to make money ($80) but I sold it online and now I won't get paid for it until the buyer gets it and accepts it, but who knows when that will be when I just shipped it today.
My car payment ($316) is due on the 26th and though I have a grace period I have no idea how I'm going to be able to make this!!!
Fortunately, because I am a college student I at least have a meal plan so I can depend on that for food during the week. However, I have no money for food on the weekends or anything else I might need. I'm also 100 miles behind on an oil change in my car so I don't even feel safe driving it and it needs a synthetic change which is $60! I don't know what to do, I feel like everything is a giant disaster right now!
I can't ask my mom or dad for money because they don't have any to spare and I'm stuck on campus without any friends since I'm new here.
Please help me with some ideas!
I honestly have no idea of how to help. I'm only 15 and I've never had a problem like this by myself. I don't know if you're religious but I'll pray for you and hope everything gets better. Just focus on your school work and everything will fall into place. Thank you for your time and I am very sorry that I could not help.
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So me and my friend are in the 8th grade, we were in my room working on a project and I left for a few minutes to do some stuff.
When I got back she was asleep in a funny way, like she was asleep on the bed but her feet were sticking out on top of the desk. Because we were making this poster for history class but her feet were on top of it.
So I started working again but I kept getting distracted, because her feet were on the poster and her toes kept wiggling a lot, so I started playing around with them.
For example when I push her toes a few times, they would start wiggling by themselves =P. Then I would hold them still to make them stop.
I think she was probably dreaming about dancing the whole time since we’re both in cheerleading. Because her toes keep wiggling to the beat of the music on the radio =P. And they follow instructions too, like if I push her toes faster then they would start wiggling faster. And if I whisper "point your toes" then she does the tippy toes like a ballerina =P
Anyways so is it normal that I was amused and liked messing around with her feet when she was dreaming? I just thought they’re way cute because she has long toes and always keeps them pedicured. thanks!
If you two are friends then no it's totally fine. When I have friends, they're the silly type so we normally do all kinds of crazy stuff to each other. Like one time I sat on my guy friend's lap and he held my hips. It doesn't mean we like each other but that's just how close we are. I don't know about your sexuality and I won't ask or pressure you to think about it but don't worry about it. It's completely normal and there isn't anything wrong with it.
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My life kind of started to end on July 15 2014. My wife of 52 years and I were sitting on our deck when we looked at each other and said, You know something we got it made. That was because I had finally retired and we had moved into our new house in the mountains. That was around one pm when we spoke those words.
That night around seven we got a call from one of our daughters (Barb). She told us that she had just left the doctors and they had told her she had stage four ovarian cancer, and that she had 1 to 5 years to live.
This as you can imagine floored us. The next morning my wife (Elaine) and I packed her suitcase. We decided that my wife would move in with Barb to help her as much as possible. Barb lives three hours away, so we thought I would drive down on weekends and bring our dog with me.
After three months of Elaine staying there and me coming down on weekends, the stress got so bad between my wife and I. You see, Elaine is 71 years old and she was taking care of Barbs whole house. There are four in the family, Barb, her husband (Jeff) daughter (Kristin age 21) and son (Jeffery age 17). She looked like she was 90 years old. This was killing my wife. Well after three months had gone by, Barb went back to work, so Elaine decided to come home and we would go down on weekends. This lasted till 1/10/16 when Barb passed away.
When my wife came home, I was relieved that she could rest and try to get back to somewhat of a normal life. Well that did not happen. From the minute and I mean minute Elaine walked in the door I was accused of having an affair. I could not believe my ears. Her reasoning was she found Cialis in my bureau drawer. After her throwing this at me I showed her that it was a sample with my name written on it. The funny part of it was, Elaine was the one that picked it up at the doctors office. By the way our doctor not only wrote my name on the box but the date 1/16/2012. Four years before we moved to the mountains.
That was the end of that session. But two weeks later she told me my girlfriend stole five pair of her jeans from the closet. I could go on an on about the accusations but to name just a few. Cigarette butts found in the street meant my girlfriend was standing there watching the house. I was told while we where both out shopping together that there was blood on our mattress pad. When we got home the blood had disappeared. Now remember we never left each others side.
I won’t bore you with more details because there is over 50 accusations made. None of which were true.
Anyway last week a new neighbor moved in and you guessed it I was having an affair with her.
Well two days ago she left me, drained our bank accounts of over $125,000. Leaving me not only with my wife of 52 years but without a penny.
I can’t do this anymore. As much as I love her I want it all to end. I can’t stand the pain. I sit here and look at a bottle of pills the doctor gave us for depression and can’t stop thinking this would end my pain. I was a strong willed man all my life, a rough and tumble construction worker. Well I am a broken man now. She broke me and took my will to live.
Hey sweetheart, I could never understand what you're going through but I'm here for you. All I can do is tell you to pray and I'll pray too but you need to take this into legal matters. She has no right to take all the money okay? And from what I'm hearing, it sounds like shes the one cheating on you because nobody would be so emotional over something so obviously false if that person wasn't guilty. Write me back and tell me it's you so I can give you my kik or number if you need anymore help.
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I am a girl, currently in Grade 12, and I have had a crush on this one guy in my grade since halfway through first semester grade 9.
He is really cute, and he loves singing and history. He is really funny, but can also be quite serious. He tends to be quite loud in class(he is in no way shy), but he is so sweet and kind and honest that the teachers rarely get mad at him.
I am quite(extremely...) shy when in a group setting, but one on one I tend to open up a bit. However, I only ever see this guy in class, in choir, and when our two friend groups (occasionally) hang out together.
He is always hanging around with this one group of girls, but he would never date any of them, so I know that's not an issue. The problem is that he's always with them. I get along well with all of them, a couple are even sort of my friends, but it would be awkward for me to just join their group when they are talking or whatever. I have in the past, like if they are in my class and my regular friends aren't but its just a little awkward...anyways yeah I feel too awkward to get closer to him that way.
He jokes around a lot, and when we are in a small group of people together, he sometimes/often teases me more than the other people in the group. In class the other day, he came over to talk to me, and he asked me about why I had been late for class that morning. He has done similar things a number of times in the past.
Also, just to point out, he is straight. I know this for sure. The girls he hangs out with have been his friends for years, they are like sisters to him...
Another problem- I am scared to tell my friends I like him. I told them a couple years ago, but they laughed and told me we would make a really awkward couple (probably because I'm 5'9", and at the time he was super skinny and like 5'3", but he's grown since then). I would love to have their support, but we don't really talk about guys much, and I feel like I've been lying to them for years about this guy..not that I ever lied...I just didn't speak up...
Also, casual out-of-school meetings are difficult because he lives in a different city than I do, although we go to the same school (it's a private school). I can't just casually invite him to do something with me like randomly on a Saturday because he lives like a 45 minute drive away..
I guess what I want to know is: do I have any chance with him? and how do I got about getting that chance?
Hi there. My thoughts on your situation are very brief. I think you should take things slow and push back a little. Refrain from telling your friends everything but go straight to him and tell him you need to talk about something. Say it under cover like you're talking about someone else but throw in hints that you're talking about him and if he gets it and likes you back, you will know.
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Hi. I just want to know if it's normal when i cry for no reason? Not that I'm depressed or stressed. Its just that I cry at the corner of my room without tears that's falling. Its like tantrums? I dont know why i'm being like that.
Yes, it is very normal to cry for no reason. Every human has experienced irregular mood swings and or unexplained emotions in their life. I think it's your brain's way of releasing stress before you even notice that you are stressed about something. The best thing to do is get a journal and record your everyday feelings and what you think caused it. Do this for a full month and then look back at your data. Do it for another full month and compare your data with the first month to see if anything changes. If you read this, thank you for your time.
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Now I'd like to start off that I have depression, for a few years now, I am 17/female. I don't know how this plays into this well enough or has little.
Anyways, for thepast month my depression has gotten hard on me, all the whileI've slowly detached myself from my boyfriend, and with trying to converse with him during those weeks has made him irritated from my lethargy and dealing with me, and soon I called myself off from him and became distant to him. My feelings just started to fade, feelings for him and also I couldn't very well identify my own emotions. It's gotten worse between us and before any of this problem I had made a new (male) friend. I had no intentions to have feelings for him but now they're starting to form little by little. It's all a bit too confusing. Now getting out of the hard hit of depression I had gotten now I'm trying to work it out, but I feel like I'm rejecting a bunch of things out of fear of what'll happen. My boyfriend is sweet, caring, and I'm completely comfortable with but then, sometimes he is just so messy and disrespectful to his parents, embarrassing and boring at times. And then with this other guy, through out my worst days, has managed to make me laugh, talking almost non-stop. While my boyfriend has made me feel pushed away, like what went on inside didn't matter, now all I can explain is "I don't know what's going on inside, I'm sorry" and its tearing me apart if its just depression dampening my emotions or if its legitimate, any of them. Thank you if you read all of this.
I understand every bit of what you're going through. My last relationship was with a guy named Tristan and I thought he was my everything. It turns out that things weren't as good as they seemed and there were so many lies coming from his part. I have been depressed for two years but I met someone just like you did that takes away that pain I have. I don't cut anymore because of him. Your boyfriend seems to be the total jack ass and I know you're loosing feelings for him and gaining them in this other guy. What you should do is tell your boyfriend that it's over and just focus on the guy that makes you happy. But, make sure that guy feels the same way before you make any moves on him. I really hope this helped you and thanks for coming to me and taking the time to write that and trust me. Merry Christmas!
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Lately i have been getting sexual thoughts and i get horny a lot i am 14 male and i'm a christian i don't like having these thoughts about sex i know it's normal, but i don't know what god will think and i don't want to have sex until i'm married, i want to live by god's word so do i pray more or how can i stop having these feelings and stay pure until marriage?
I am 14 too and I share the exact same feelings. All this means is that you're growing up into a man and you're having manly feelings. Just find a group of people who share the same values as you do so they can help keep you strong in this situation. Just keep praying but don't give up. Masturbation at your age is also healthy so that's something you could do to help cool these urges. I know that once you give it away, you'll never feel the same and that is why I want to wait. I hope my advice helped you and thanks for your time. Merry Christmas.
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Me and my bf have been together for 2 years. At the moment he's gone to a different country on a lads weekend to celebrate his 21st.
He's not bothering to keep in contact with me but I feel like I need to make the effort with him when he gets back and do something nice.
However I feel very much like a second option that he values his mates more than me and thought he'd have a better time/celebration with them than me.
His birthday is tommorow but he's upset me so should I even organise anything when he gets home in two days or leave it?
let him have some space. Maybe he thinks you're too clingy or maybe he's just one of those guys who just loves his friends more. Let him breathe but when he comes back, sit him down and tell him how you feel but don't loose your temper. I'm going through some things at the moment and I know where you're coming from a little. I can only imagine how you feel and I know that it does not feel good to be excluded by the one you love. I hope it really works out. Thanks for your time.
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I am creating a faux research proposal for a class and my stats background is very limited.
The study I am creating has to do with parental empathy and child's conduct.
Parental empathy is measured by coding a parent interview and dichotomizes empathy as either high empathy or low empathy.
Conduct is measured by a teacher questionnaire and is again dichotomized, high conduct problems with low conduct problems.
What statistical test should I use to compare these two dichotomized variables?
I would love to help you with this but I have no idea of what this is. I thank you for coming to me with this question because I enjoy a challenge, I suggest that you go on google and compare answers to get the best outcome. Thank you so much for your time and I am very sorry that I could not help.
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I don't know why I don't shoot cum during masterbation. Ever time I get to the climax I get hot and numb and can't open my eyes. Then I cum. I forgot to mention I use lotion as a lubricant. When I cum it's the color of sugar water with some solid white parts. But it only oozes instead. When I cum its only enough to fill a thimble. Is there something wrong? Please help.
There is nothing wrong. You're only 14, you still have time to develop. Don't do it so often and just wait for it to build up so when you do ejaculate, it's enough. You might not be able to ejaculate enough to satisfy yourself until you're in your twenties. You are still growing, take it easy and don't worry so much. Focus on your life and school. I hope this helped and thanks for your time.
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Hi first off I'm a female adult, but still a young one living at home attending college. And I apologize for the long inquiry
My entire life I've been abused ( physically, sexually, and emotionally) by people my own age that I trusted. Ever since I can remember I've preferred associating with people older than me, they treat me better, make me feel safe, and I relate better to them. This also counts for guys I am attracted to. Unfortunately this has become a very big issue with people. People I know close to my age, and even my own mother, have started degrading me for my feelings. I'm called a slut for liking older guys (yes even by my mother) and pathetic for having older friends. My mom makes it a weekly point to remind me that none of my older friends like me, because what could they see in me, and that it's pathetic that I think they do....Are they all right? Am I really a freak for preferring older friends? A slut for liking older (10-15 years) guys? I can't tell anymore.
I absolutely LOVE older guys. You are not a slut for that. People only say that because they see you are finally approaching a breakthrough in your life and they don't want that for you. You keep doing what you're doing and don't look back. You're a college student so have fun and work hard. Be careful, there are total creeps out there that could seriously hurt you. You said it yourself, you're an adult! They have no right to pry into your life because you're a grown woman now. Assert your dominance over your life and stand up for yourself. Tell your mom how you feel and tell her that you know what you want and she can't stop you from having it. Show everyone how grown you really are and take control over your life. Don't let their words get to ya, stay strong. Thanks for your time, I hope I really helped.
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I've come to this because. The pain is greater then what's causing it ,I just WAnt some happiness not what she is doing. To me fuck it I got 12 hours before. I start the next chapter. Sorry. I just had to vent see u on the other side
Hey, I hope i'm not too late. I know how you feel, honestly I do. I suffer from depression and I know what its like to self harm. I honestly do believe there is a way out, you just have to keep pushing. I'll pray for you. Thanks for your time.
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Me and my ex broke up twice and then last year april we started speaking again almost everyday and hanging out once or twice on a monthly basis and yes we do have sex but recently he just stopped speaking to me and i dont know why,sometimes he would just text me randomly asking how iv been and if im alive eventhou i text hm so much he would rhow up unexpectedly...but this past week ive been texting him alost everyday but he just dont want to reply back to me i even phoned hm but he didnt answer..a few weeks ago when i saw him he told me he likes being around me he just dnt like how clingy iv gotten cause his not keen on clingy...He ignores me like i dont exist anymore and i dont know what i did wrong and i dont know what to do..any advice? iv decided to stay away from him and make myself vanish from him like he never knew me..I dont mean to seem clingy and i dont mean to bombard him with all those texts everyday,i just want to speak to him...do u think his silence and ignoring me is his way of saying leave hm alone and move on,im done and bored of you cause you are clingy..do you think he will show up again and speak to me again wheneva..today i msgd him saying im sorry for always texting hm so much i dnt mean to im just ona other trip and i feel really bad and stuff and i hope hes not mad or anythng..i thought he wouldv replied but he just read it so now i havent heard from him for a week now..isit my fault that he dnt wana speak to me anymore cause i seem clingy lately and iv pushed hm away cause its a turn off...im just worried cause this is the longest he hapnt spoken to me and i dnt knw why im being so ignored..i dont knw what to do anymore,.if i distant myslf and stop texting him do u think he wil show may..im so confused
He still wants you but don't be so clingy. Just back off of him and act like you don't care. Trust me, he will be all over you. Don't constantly text him because it is very annoying. The fact that you are having sex with him is actually unhealthy for any relationship because you're not married yet. Just move on. I really hope this is a lesson so you won't be clingy anymore. I think he has moved on but still wants sex from you because he's a typical guy. I really hope it works out. Thanks for your time.
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girl, grade 8
so...i have a classmate lets call her S. i have another closer friend lets call her T. and T always teases me about the crush i had in grade 7. well not really teasing but just when hes around (lets call her M), T will like point at him or something to make it obvious that i like him. so recently T told S that i like M and i was denying it of course. to be honest, i still kinda like M but im just afraid of admitting because im pretty sure he doesnt like me back and i dont want to have tht awkward feeling when hes around. but well thanks to T, S told M i like him and M told me he knows that i like him. at first i was like who?? because i really had no idea but then i guessed it was S, and S messaged me, telling me that she told him that i like him. to me, i kinda know its her and i dont want to be mad at S so i just shrugged it off.
now theres 2 problems:
1) should i still be friends with S? do you guys think its worth it? i mean she apologised but i think it will be awkward at school.
2) i sent M a message saying "is it S that told you i like you" and he just seen it but didnt reply. although i denied to S earlier that i used to like M, i still kinda do. i want M to chat with me because i think i still like him but i just dont want to confront it. should i start the conversation or wait for his answer that i already know?
3) since i still like him but i lied to S that i dont, do u think i should tell S the truth? all i want is M to chat with me again.
thank you for reading this long rant
1. You should still be friends with that person but dial it down a bit. Don't be as close.
2. Do not start the conversation if he didn't reply to the last message because it seems to him that you might be desperate. Guys like to dominate girls. Act like you don't really care about him and that might weaken his dominance over you and he might even start the conversation first.
3. This part is really up to you. If you don't want to let anyone know then don't. But, if you like him, let S know. But then again, S already knew and blabbed about it. Do you really want to be embarrassed in front of your crush again?
Thank you for your time. I really hope this helped you.
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