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Well to start off my name is Shanei live somewhere in Texas
I like Music
I like Judo
I play piano and Saxophone like any asian would
i like giving long answers and typing with spaces like im typing right now
advice
so i have a boyfriend. and hes older by a year. he isn't the most attractive guy in the world. well he is the only guy i've ever made out with. so i wouldn't know if he is good or not. and since im 14 i shouldn't be in a commitment like this. cause whenever i break up with him, i want him back. then when were going back out, after a few weeks i just wanna break up again. should i end it or keep going out with him?
hahaha
im sorry for laughing
but thing is this on and off thing is saying something
you guys need to sit down and talk it down when you argue like adults
it might be boring but i thnk its better than arguing
make the first move no matter how much it hurts or embarsing or awkward. He'll give signals if he doesn't want to talk.
but i can't help you make decisions so wing it
goodluck
well i'm 14yrs.old in the 9th grade. i've never been kissed yet, or had a boyfriend.i don't know why. i think it's because of my personality or maybe because i'm not like all the other girls. why haven't i gotten kissed yet??[and please don't reply with" someday it'll come" or "when it's the right time it'll happen]
hmm
so lets see
were gonna talk the truth no bs in the middle or anything
so look at these factors
are you....
1.outgoing-do you like to talk to guys etc like saying hey whats up or sometimes it has to come with dares but remember your ethics and peer pressure
2.attractiveness-im sorry but guys are asses when it comes to this you have to be attractive most of the time when it comes to getting a good guy cause guys are that shallow (personally as long as shes decent looking and i can talk to her forever then ill go out with her)
3.parental control-try to look at if your parents restrict you to stop dating or anything or simply as if your parents dont allow you to do things as in go to the movies or use aim or myspace etc
and yeah you want to talk to the guy too
4.Dont be mean-i know guys like to flirt by being mean by like putting funny stuff on your back cause i do it too just make sure youre making a good first impresion or being nice overall
5.listen-male egos are bigger than anything, so you gotta give them attention cause i personally like talking with a girl that can keep me going and listens to me and gives her input
so try these five points cause these are the only things i can think of
aim-ShanePanPianoMan
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okay so im a girl...and i really like my bf. obviously and i know he really likes me but like i have alot of other just guy friends and im used to them giving me alot of compliments and i can really be myself around them. But with my boyfriend he isnt so upfront and easy going. he doesnt like give me compliments really and it seems like im always the one making the moves. haha but what should i do?
hmm
lets see
i know this is weird
but you shouldnt be the one making the moves
well thats what at least i think cause im old fashioned
the guy friends could just be guy friends and at my age there aint a great deal different from guy friends and gf and bf cause we arent screwing each other
excuse my french
but you know
you should talk to your bf about this cause communication is like the key
your guy friends could just be friends too you know
the thing special about boy friends OR girl friends is that basiclly you can make moves on them
im not asking what you do with the kid but you gotta think of everything
so im gonna give you some basic choices you could look at
these are my opinions you dont have to listen to them
if hes really bad wont talk wont make moves and is stubborn after a talk or etc-break up (this is worse case scenario)
If he listens and tries to change himself-Help him support him but dont get on his back\
if hes changing and stuff and he just does it in a snap-you should stay with him and that stuff
just remember what makes this man different from your guy friends and youll be on your way on making a decision
hahaha
btw you sound just like one of my best friends and her problem
aim-ShanePanPianoMan
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14/f
So this guy in my elective class likes me. & i know this for sure. I like him too, as a friend and sorta in a bf way. but i really dont want a boyfriend, right now. I like being single. So in your opinion, what would be the best way to say no if he asks me out.
Well
unforutantly theres no perfect way to do this
so im gonna try to give you the best way
When he asks you out
best way to say no is say that you like it as friends not as a bf gf thing
also say that you could never imagine him as your bf cause hes such a good friend
compliment him and etc after but thing is to not hurt his feelings
these things usually turn out fine cause at teh end the guy still has hope and keeps talkin to the girl and the girl is nice and talks back
im sure youll do fine if you have any questions
aim:ShanePanPianoMan
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I want to wish my crush happy easter, the thing is im afraid ill regret it, he lives very far away, ive had a crush on him for 4 years, we emailed regurarly for 3 years, and then i guess he lost interest in me, and now i havnt seen him online for about 6 months (i think he blocked me, dont know why) should i still wish him a hapyy easter? im afriad ill be crushed when he doesnt answer, is there any funny way of wishing someone happy easter (not too sentimental?) so he thinks im doing it as a friend and that i dont like him.. what do you think? should i?
oh yes you should
even if hes not looking for a relationship im sure hed love it if you dropped by and said hi
And of course dont worry about if he thinks you like him or not just be friendly which im sure youre good at
the secret is to just accpet whether he blocked you and hasnt talked to him in forever cause i know that can be crushing when someone blocks or ignores you on purpose
so just keep an open mind be ready for anything that comes your way
and i dont know any funny ways to say happy easter
well
this made me laugh haha im retarded
http://youtube.com/watch?v=BPb0po2jzfg
well of course if you need any help
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aim: ShanePanPianoMan
I am a 14 year old girl from canada, and i was wondering wat is it a guy really likes in a girl?
so
im too lazy to retype so this is one of my old answers to the same question so here
omfg im a guy so i can answer this question
well
guys like personallity wise
is attention
the male ego is larger than anything
just talk to them and give them attention like on aim/myspace/phone etc.
not too much though find a happy medium like i always say
you can always hang out with them
also
make inside jokes
thats something nice to have
so you both can laugh when it gets brought up
Hmmm
yeah
unfortuantly looks do matter cause guys are just that shallow
just get his attention
not like sexy slutty but something nice
heyy im fifteen and i was just wondering what do most guys look for in a girl? I know that every guy is different but it cant be THAT different.
like girls want a guys whos nice, funny, and not messed up.
i dont really understand what guys want and its annoying haha. Personality? or Face?
This is Me: brown hair, grayish eyes, like 3/4 asian, not fat not skinny. and
my personality: i laugh a lot(at a lot of stupid things...), to say the truth i can make fun of people but in a funny way (who doesn't),i can be serious and im not stupid, i might be lacking the fact that i can be sweet,im sometimes sarcastic, i get nervous easily.
i like this guy, and im just wondering what guys look for in a girl. Ditzy girls? funny girls? nice people? Immature girls?
slutty ones? pretty ones? sexy ones?
THanks
well
as that guy said it depends but i can give you a pretty broad thing to go by
youve gotta be bold
guys dont like prude girls
its such a turn off
im 100% asian or a twinkie (yellow on the outside and white on the inside) and i think that girls that are whorish are gay and deserve to get whipped the old Catholic style
anyways
if you get nervous just talk
if you make yourself look funny im sure hell laugh cause its funny when girls do that
give him some attention not too much like your obbsesing
of course all the sterotypes are bad cause you have to be a combonation of the good ones (not the slutty and sexy ones)
like looks get the attention but personality keeps it
just dont keep quiet all the time and dont be over spoken and annoying
thats bout it good luck
Theres this guy that i kind of like.. nothing big but i do.. and i'd really like to "grab his attention" like when i walk by in the halls.. i want him to notice me.. and when i talk to him online i want to be able to stand out in his mind out of all the other girls... how do i do this?
HELP!
Yes
attention helps a guy know that youre intrested in him
one way that i know is that she'll start hanging around me alot more
and when youre around him
complement him as in
what cologne is that?You Smell great
What sport do you play?You look athletic
etc.
also alot of physical contact is an attention graber
sit in his lap
grab his hand
fix a wrinkle on his shirt or something
online thing is about the same cause you want to be nice to him and just talk about things that happen today
most of the time girls are the talker so you might have to come up with some stories to keep him intrested
always just talk with him like anyone else
something that you might talk about to keep him intrested is who you or he has the hots for
but just remember with all of this
find a happy medium
be touchy but not a slut
attentaive but not annoying
hope i helped
well this guy rides my bus ;lets call him Bob ;so anyway. so on Valentines Day 2006 he asked me out. i broke up with him maybe 2 weeks later ;so him and i have a "history". well he moved to my school this year (i knew him through friends)well on the bus he tickles me and such. and today he was making me give him all these hugs ;nothing more. but im not sure if he likes me ;he kinda holds my hand sometimes.. like he'll grab it for a second and like play with it and such and then let it go. and he always looks into my eyes. i look back into his and we kinda "deeply star into eachothers eyes" and i get the feeling like i wanna kiss him \ or he wants to kiss me ;everyone says bob and i should go out but when i tell gim that people say that he and i just laugh. i like bob ;but i dont wanna say anything cuz i dont know if he likes me. does he like me?
Well im thinking it most likely is he does like you
im pretty sure if you flirted back with him like laughed a wee bit more he would sort of kind of get the message if hes smart.
Yeah the physical contact sort of implies the liking cause friends really dont do that
best thing to do is get someone on the inside like one of his friends
hope it helped
okay i reallllly likke this guy. When ever i think about him i smile and i get this weird feeling in my stomach, its not like butterflies though. He just makse me so happy =D. when ever i talk to him i feel like i can tell him everything and we are the only two people in the room or something, Its just such a great feeling :d. we hung out the other night with a couple of other people and it was SOOO fun. while two friends [ girl ] went off with there boyfriends, me my crush my best friend [girl] and my other fiend [boy] just stayed together, it was really great. Then my two friends left cus my friend thats a boy had to go get somethintg and they left me adn my crush alone, it was soo perfect, we talked and laughed, and flirtedd :-*! We even held hands for like a couple seconds! i almost dieddd. i could keep typing foreverrr
Well
hormones are the things that make you think someone is hot or that you wanna bang someone
so im guessing its prety much not hormones
i dont think you could call it love YET
but
get to know him
or tell him in person up to his face
im sure hell get the point and ask you out
but it seems pretty good for the going
good job :)
I have a boyfriend and hes awesome and everyhting and we KNOW we are SO gonna have sex VERY soon and ya any tips or advice 4 the first time over here :$ lol haha ya I'm 13 yrs old and my bf is 13 and we're both virgins
I don't want you to say you should wait you're making a mistake your too young blah blah blah Please just some advice for a virgain
haha you guys make me laugh
but on the contrary
be smart
use a condom
SOME gas stations might have vending machines wiht them or the mall
unfourtuantly i live in the suburbs of Texas and condoms are not sold anywehre cept pharmacies
but its illegal for a place to deny the purchase of a condom
also
communication
thats important ot if you kids are just really into it
if it doesnt feel well you might wanna give him some tips like whispiering cause yelling it is a total turn off
probably being self conscience as i was youll most likely change what youre doing
basically, i like this guy. & i THINK he might like me back. either way every week he finds a way to come up to me and say hi, then he just stands there. but that's it, he doesn't talk to me much besides that and whatever i decide to say. & it gets so awkward when that happens.
the question is, why does he say hi then just stand there?
& should i start the conversations, or let it just be awkward and stuff?
I think you should really just talk back to him
when the convo stops keep talking cause communication is the best thing
something that keeps everyone going is who you have the hots for cause im sure if he does like you he'll start talking....alot
haha
try that
but even if you do or dont like him i dont think itll hurt to have a new friend
okay i really don`t know how to talk to my crush. my friends know that i like him and they say that i have to talk to him for something to actually happen, and i agree with them, but how do i talk to him? i mean im not going to just randomly go up to him and start blabbering. that might freak him out or something. what do i do please help.
haha
okay depends
cause theres a variety of guys from gays to jocks
well
if hes on the more nice side you should just talk to him
im sure he would like an extra "girl" friend
cause im sure youll do fine
if you do start talking and mess up be like i suck at talking and im sure theyll be like haha okay
if hes a jock
(i hate those kids)
you should get your friend to like hangout with him and you and yourfriend
and be flirty otherwise hes not gonna notice you
What does a guy really want in a (14 year old) girl??
omfg im a guy so i can answer this question
well
guys like personallity wise
is attention
the male ego is larger than anything
just talk to them and give them attention like on aim/myspace/phone etc.
not too much though find a happy medium like i always say
you can always hang out with them
also
make inside jokes
thats something nice to have
So my best guy friend, we've been friends for 8 years. He left for Europe a few days ago, and I CANT stop thinking about him and how much I miss him. And I don't know if I'm just missing him because hes my best friend and I'm used to him being here and talking to him all the time. Or if I'm missing him because I like him a lot and am just realizing I like it. Agh, its confusing.
14/f
hmm
thats a pretty bad situation right there
yeah that happened to me before
my ex moved back to Brazil after i dare say we fell in love
somedays i cry myself to sleep wishing she was back but unfortuantly it wont happen anytime soon
if youre just friends you just miss him as you wont get to talk and that stuff
if you like him youll sort of think of him like a best friend and physically as in nice abs (something like that i cant rate guys) and
but i think the best think you can do is either email/myspace/aim/phone etc
try to find like a calling card if youre calling to europe for cheap calls
thats how i call brazil now and then
okay. so like when my crush ims me hes like ehy cutie =D what do i say? do i just say hi or?
play with it/go along with it
if hes flirting with you i think you should do it back
cause im sure youd love to righte?
anyways point is if it feels good, do it
but find a happy medium with that
although crack might feel good to smoke its gonna feel like hell when you stop
Ok, i am 13/f and i like a 13/m. I like him a lot because of his personality but he isn't so great on the looks. I am not the kind of girl who goes for a guy just for his looks. I think he may like me too but i am not for sure. Sometimes when i look at him, he is looking back at me. I want to give him hints that i like him but i don't just want to come out and say it. Does anyone have any hints i can do? thanks!
Well
im pretty sure you two are pretty good friends
just hang out with him
or talk to him on phone myspace aim etc, whatever floats your boat
Personally for me i start noticing a girl likes me is when she laughs a lot and when shell talk about anything to you
im sure if hes a good person he wont be perverted but just talk
you nesseciarly dont wanna just tell him i love you lets make out or anything
just think of all of this as youre trying to find a happy medium
Talk to him often not be annoying and not to ignore him
Laugh when he makes a joke or does something funny, not when he says a sentance nor be dismal and look at him constantly
another great hint if youre up for it and got the courage
is to tell your friend
to tell him
that she has the hunch you like him
or simply tell your friend to tell him that she thinks you like him
unfourtuantly i cant put it in a simple way but ask again if you need some more help
well i have this problem with my dad. it would take a while to explain so im not gonna get into that but ill just tell u somthing that happend. i have been getting good grades for a while now and that never happens to me and my dad never said good job or anything to me and he always compares me to my 'perfect' sister she was good at everything and im just not. he makes me think that im not good at anything and i sometimes believe it. but lately i have been being a real bitch to my bf and i just cant help it. i dont want to take my anger out on him but idont know how to stop or how else to get rid of my anger..i cant really just talk to my dad about this. so what do i do? i really love my bf and i dont want to loose him because of this and it seems like that is whats going to happen if i dont knock it off.
hmmm
lemme tell you about my relationship with my dad
its prety damn similiar to yours
oaky
ive been doing excellen in life as in
Judo state champion for 2 years in a row
Top Pianist of the state
and he says nothing
he yells at me for not doing the simple things in my life
and im saying this isnt normal yelling
its yelling like you deserve to die
youll never go anywhere in your life you have nothing it all came from me
etc....
so this one time i was feeling so pissed so sad and depressed i told my friend i was gonna kill myself
being the awesome bastard of a friend he is he called the cops
cops came and only me and my dad were home and he asked him to move out of the way
were asian so thing is he really didnt understand and he was like no so
they had to tazer him
he got out on bail and the first thing he did was go to school and tell me that were not son and dad anymore
but thing is
hes your dad
no matter WHAT he does he still loves you
and your bf
talk to him about this
if hes a good bf hell listen and understand
There has been recently a bomb scare at my sister's high school. A custodian found on the wall : MHS WILL BLOW UP 3/22". Now they are investigating the whole school, screening backpacks, and sending in bomb sniffing dogs. Should we let my sister go to school on the 22nd? Or stay home for a few days because it might happen on another day.
thanks
of course
you wanna call the school officials on this stuff cause you cant really be sure cause you dont know EVERYTHING about this and frankly im sure you dont want to
but you should for the week anyways
cause losing a life isnt cool aint it when its your sister and it couldve been prevented by a stay at home thing
It seems the schools are pretty cool with this and doing the whole protocol on what to do but of course
i think you should just get more info cause you really cant just judge it on gossip
sometimes the news will help but keep in mind they might blow it up to something big
Okay there is this guy in my class and I really like him... as a friend and I would like him as a boyfriend and he likes me too but I don't really want to go out with him.
I know that could be confusing but please help
thnx
well
theres always these questions in life
this or that
the BMW or the Lexus
the White or Black
some may seem pretty different or some may seem the same
i can see both of you guys have the hots for eachother but you really dont have that much feelings for him
theres such things as a best friend of the opposite sex
the only real diffrence i sometimes see between dating and best friends is the physical contact and ocasianlly the "i love you"
personally i say i love you to my best friends but
do you wanna make out with him
or
do you just wanna hang out with him and have someone to talk to about all of your problems to
you can tell pretty clear cut the boy friend and the best friend option but its what really you want
if he feels that you guys should go out 190% sure
you should talk to him about it
im SURE
he wouldnt mind best friends