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I'm a 17 year old female living in South Africa. I have a boyfriend who I have been with for 1 amazing year and an ex boyfriend who I was with for 2 years . I'm all about boyfriends. But I have some girl issues .!! Here's some things :: 1) when I masturbate I watch lesbian porn or I think about a girl. 2) sometimes when I see a girl I'm attracted to I get so turned on and I dono what to do with myself. 3) there is 1 girl in particular I want to be with sexually and emotionally but I don't know what to do . Should I go out there and try it or contain myself? Biggest problem is I love my boyfriend more than my own life ! Please advise me on what to do !!
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Talk to your bf maybe he will want you to see what it is like at least sexually. Don't jump to emotionally yet...that would suck for your bf. I am like you with the porn though...I don't really like watching porn with males too much...but if you look up some studies a good percentage of females would rather watch other females and get turned on a lot more while looking at a female. I think there is a lot more beauty to appreciate looking at a female body apposed to a male. Don't be scared to like the female body. Most woman do...Its hot to watch girl on girl. Best thing to do is talk to your bf and don't just jump into lesbianism...emotions should not be in the equation when you are first thinking about this.
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its been a long process, i've went through a questioning period before but now i'm pretty certain. i just don't know how to tell my friends that are girls. or my boyfriend, whom i love with all my heart. i've been having sexual fantasies about my friends and i don't want them to think that i'm coming onto them or something. one of my ex friends did this, told me she was bi and then immediately asked me to go out with her. it scarred me and completely ruined the friendship. i've known these girls for years and don't want to fuck it up.
is there any way i can get rid of these urges, or at least tell them without scaring them off? (link)
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If you have a solid relationship with your bf telling him about your curiosities might not be a bad idea. Depending on your age and the nature of your fantasies I would say you might just be bi-curious which is actually not such a bad thing when you get into your college years. You are lucky to be a girl in this situation rather than a guy. It is a lot more acceptable for a girl to be bisexual than a guy.
I agree with the other people who posted that you should definitely wait until your at least college age to know...if you are college age which it sounds like you are not....you will be able to experiment to see if you are.
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hey im 17 and a girl.. ive been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half and i love him with all my heart when im not with him i miss him so much he calls me every night and i can tell him everything
but when im with him we fight alot and that started about 7 months into our relationship. i hate how easy we get into fights and how aggitated i get around him but i love him so much i dont know what to do and im scared that we might be falling apart sorta.. when i talk to him about this he just says sorry and that we will fix everything but then it goes back to being bad again.. i dont know what to do please help. (link)
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I had two friends that were dating but they absolutely hated being around each other because they were never happy together. They broke up multiple times only to get back together until finally they realized they were just not happy together and they broke up and have not really talked since and both of them are so much better without each other. Not all relationships have to end up this way. Question things you fight about. You say he agitates you...why? Do you need to spend less time together? Do you need to take a break? You need some happiness in the relationship or there is no reason to be in it. Sometimes taking time for both of you to mature on your own makes a world of difference.
Also pick your battles. Not everything is such a big deal. If there is something that irritates you, think about if it really matters all that much.
Try not to get it to the point that my friends did but know that if it's not going to work you should end it sooner rather than later.
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Around October, I met my best friend, which happens to be a guy. I've never had a guy best friend before, so I was excited to try something different. In time, we became so close, it was hard to pull us away from each other when we were talking or laughing. Around the middle of December, I changed. Every time he talked to someone, I would get insanely jealous, and my heart would ache. Anytime he wasn't talking to me, my heart would drop through my stomach. Everytime he hugged me, I felt like I was safe and he should never let go. And ever since then, I can't stop thinking about him, and I think I may even love him.
Since he is my best friend, he tells me everything you see? Now everyday, he will talk about how much this one girl doesn't like him, and he is constantly talking about her, and I can't help but to have my heart break.
I've tried to tell him multiple times, but I always backed out making an excuse such as 'I love you...like a brother.' I have a feeling that he won't like me, because I'm not the thinnest girl in the world, or the prettiest. I'm not the smartest, and I definetly cannot compare to the girl he likes. I'm confused, can you please help me? (I've tried my best to explain it, it is rather hard to explain in more ways than one)
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My best friend was a guy too. I was in the same situation as you even down to not having any guy friends before. I am now married to my best friend and it is the best thing in the world, but it is not to take lightly. You not only need to be ready to date him but to fight with him and potentially lose him. Whenever you have feelings for a good friend like that there is huge potential in losing him but there is also the potential that you will be together forever. If your relationship is strong enough you will be able to keep as a friend if it doesn't work out.
If I were you I would put yourselves in situations where you can show your affections without being to weird. Like watch a movie and cuddle with him...if he is your best friend that shouldn't be to weird for him. If you really think you are willing to lose him, or if you are sure you will be friends no matter what you should tell him. Maybe bring up a hypothetical about you two dating once and gauge his reaction.
It is always best to be in a relationship with your best friend I believe. So if you believe it is the right thing to do, do it! Just try to make sure it is right for both of you because you do not want to lose your friend.
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im 18/f and basically i cant fit tampons in...it only goes up so far??? i dont know what i can do. plus me and my boyfriend tried to have sex and we couldnt because his penis wouldnt fit. is there anything that i can do to help loosen it? thanks (link)
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best thing to do is four play! relax your muscles by him fingering you.
What I did with the tampon issue...I waited until I had sex a few times than used the tampon...I figure...If I can handle a penis I can handle a tampon.
There are some questions you should try to answer though...like is it just too tight or is there something that may be blocking it. Have you had a pap smear? cause if you have and they haven't said anything about it I am sure that isn't the issue. If you haven't had one you should and just tell them the situation. they definitely won't judge you.
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You know those random freckles on your body (could be black colour or brown colour) like one on your face or a random one on your arm? I have a few little ones on my face but there's this RED one that's not too far under my eye and because I just really looked at it, I noticed that it's red and not one of those normal freckles.
I don't know if they are blood clots (there are 2 more around it but miniscule dots like a pen dab); I looked up pictures of blood clots on Google but those pictures are hideous and nothing compared to three little dots on my face.
The red freckles, I've had them this year in various places on my body. It could be one on my neck and then in 5 days it'll disappear and might appear some other time somewhere else.
I don't know if I should go see a doctor for this because it might not be important and could be taking up someone else's time that really need it, but the one red freckles I get disappear within 5 days and the ones under my eyes have lasted about...3 weeks?
Have you had them before and had something done? Or have any relatives that are in the health profession that can clear this up for me? (link)
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You could maybe call ask a nurse...if you don't know what that is, it's a hotline where you can ask them if they think going to a doctor would be best.
Or there is webmd, it might have an answer for you.
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17/F and my boyfriend is the same, except male. We've been. Going out for just over a year. Ok, backstory complete.
First off, if you're here to berate or belittle me, please leave. I'm scared enough as it is. Also, don't tell me I'm too young to be having sex. I'm in very stable and loving relationship in which we always take the proper precautions. Secondly, please don't ask me to go see my doctor. That's not an option for me...
I hope that didn't sound too mean! But, here's what happened: I got my period on the 12th (right on schedule). It was super light, like at the beginning of every one of my periods. It's usually light for the first two days and then on the third day it gets pretty heavy. Alright, so, on the 13th I woke up and my period was kind of gone. I thought this was a bit weird, but I didn't really worry too much about this. My boyfriend came over that same night and we had sex with a condom. I guess somewhere in the middle the condom broke and my boyfriend finished in me. We didn't find out until after. Now, normally I would be really scared. However, I thought I had started my period. I know when you have your period, you can still get pregnant... but it's rare, and I felt ok about it. Well, on the 14th my period didn't come back and today, the 15th, it didn't come back either. I'm extremely confused and very worried. Something's not right. Could I be pregnant? How likely is it that I am? And if I am, do you guys have any advice for telling my parents? Thanks so much in advance! Xoxox (link)
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Well I don't know if I am right but I don't think if you got prego during your period it would effect your current period...it just doesn't make sense to me but I am not a doctor. lol
Yeah I agree though test is about all you can do.
I hope it works out
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i don't think this is in the right category. but whatever.
the lifetime movie augusta, gone never comes on lifetime anymore. and i used to be able to watch it on youtube but it was deleted.
does anyone know a good movie website that i could watch it on? i've already tried "watch-movies-links.com" but its not on there.
thanks in advance. (link)
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tvlinks.cc
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I'm having sex for the first time, ever. All my friends have and they say it hurts A LOT, and sometimes you bleed. ( depending on who you are ) Well, usually do guys just stop once they notice the blood? Or keep going or what? ALSO, what position would be best for me for the first time. I want as less pain as possible! Help?! Thanks!! (link)
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I guess it depends on the kind of guy...if he is a virgin he might get scared but more than likely he won't notice till after...if your worried discuss it with him.
Mine didn't hurt either because my hymen broke from fingering...yes slow is best...missionary is the best for first time...and just relax
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I believe that the music you feed your mind becomes part of how you yourself think, feel, comprehend, etc. So I have decided to make a playlest on my ipod Of all Uplifting, powerful, insperational songs and I was hoping you guys had some suggestions.
I Like all Types of music, Mostly R&B but there is no type of music I dislike. Im big on lyrics so if the song holds meaning I will enjoy it
I'd apriciate it alot. Thank you. God bless (link)
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well this one isn't as much insperational but the first time I heard it I smiled and felt extremely happy and it happens everytime I hear it...it's 1234 by the plain white t's
Bethany joy lenz: If your missing come on home
Story of the Year: Sidewalks
Three Days Grace: Never Too Late
Simple Plan: Crazy and Perfect
Train: Calling All Angels
I would suggest you listen to the music that is on the television show One Tree Hill. I think it has some of the most powerful songs, there are so many of the songs on there that just touch my heart.
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About breakup: I cared very much about him, but he said he needed space/wasn't me it was him/need to get a better job, etc.
I am heartbroken, but I figured if he really cared about me, he wouldn't have cut me off like that, and it is time to move on.
I've looked around for other people to date, and it is probably too soon. I keep sabotaging anyone I talk to with either talking a little while and not responding, or making up some excuse not to go out with someone.
So to give up on it, I'm tempting myself to get a seasonal job at a ski resort, to throw myself into some good hard work in order to get over it. I thought if I was in a place that was fun, that I could choose later what I wanted to do.
The thing is, I don't know if I'm being impulsive or not. I have a decent place to live and a job now, I just feel down and I thought the change of pace would be better.
That, and I think I have the slightest hope that the ex might call and say he made a big mistake and wants me back. If I'm in Colorado or someplace else, it'd be harder to just move back. So I wonder if I'm holding myself back or not.
I've always been 'with' someone. Since I was 18, I've always had that guy that took care of me. I don't need taken care of now, but I just feel very alone.
Is finding new work in a new location going to be helpful? Should I consider doing something else?
I guess I need a sounding board on what I should do next. (link)
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Well it seems like he maybe needs to find himself...depending on his age he might feel overwhelmed by having a relationship like you have. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you it just means he is less mature than you are and just needs to evaluate what he wants in life.
But I do think if you can afford to leave you should. You don't know the next time you will have the chance to do something like this. If he wants to be back with you he can wait until you come home. You are an independent woman and you should not wait around for him. Go and have fun while you can!
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its rather embarassing but the other week my boyfriend and i (who have been together for quite a while) decided to have sex.
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he couldnt get it up?
nervous or something else?! (link)
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If it was his first time it is very likely that he was nervous. Try different ways to make yourselves comfortable and lots of 4 play. Have a heavy makeout session before to help him get relaxed and turned on...it should be fine! good luck.
ps: if it wasn't his first time he might really like you and is scared to hurt you or get your prego
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15(almost)/f
okay so i am like cupid to all of my friends. i mean they love me for it. but i can never.. ever find a way to be cupid to myself. its to the point where im not even happy for my friends that i set up because all i want to do is find someone for me. what can i do?!? (link)
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Well my answer probably won't make you happy but the best thing to do is embrace being single and to stop looking for someone. When you get to the point in which you don't care if you have a boyfriend then you might just find that a boy finds you. Enjoy being single for now...he will find you when the time is right!
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okay.. so theres this kid, and we went out for a long time.. and its been a couple months since we broke up and idk everytime i think about him i get butterflies and its just like no one can compare to him.. it just seems like he was so perfect but now its like i never knew him .. i havent talked to him since old home day! and that was in like august! but yeah i mean i know you probably dont know what to say and i mean i cant talk to my friends about this cuz theyd be like YOUR STILL NOT OVER HIMM???? but yeah whateverr i just needed someone to like.. listen to me!
sincerly,
dont know what to dooo! =/ (link)
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Why did you break up? Is it something that could be solved? If you can solve the problem between you two that would be awesome, because it sounds like you really like maybe even love this guy.
If it is a problem you can't solve between each other all you can do is wait. It takes a long time to get over someone like that. You have many options to choose from to try and help yourself on the way to recovery: you could fully invest in having fun with your friends, find a hobby to keep your mind away from him, delete everyting things that remind you of him (facebook or myspace profiles, phone number, msn contact)or you can start dating again and maybe find someone who will help you get over him.
I would definetly do the deleting. It is so much easier to get over someone when you don't have him looking in your face all the time and easier because you won't be tempted to get ahold of him. If your friends say anything say that it takes time to get over people that you really liked.
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Friends, I am in desperate need of help, I am 40 happily married and a lovely family but recently on a long haul work related trip I badly rather we badly fell for each other that is me and my friend/colleague since the past 20 years. He has always been been my close friend, very trusted and we would share our worries and actually grew our families on each others experiences. But this new feeling is devastating, I know I am deadly in love with him and he too is. The attraction is so obvious that we would be lying if we deny it. I do not want to leave my family neither does he, but we love each other as well. It was a damned moment when we argued on something simple and he apologised and we felt how anything we do and say reaches our hearts. Later on we even talked about it, held each other and realised there is no future, and we do not want our families to hurt, but we do not know what to do.
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I somewhat agree with the pervious person. It might have been a fling which I am sure you know the feeling is very similar to the real thing. But if you really are in love with him it will happen one way or another, so if you don't want to hurt your family you should probably stay away from him...hopefully you will get over him without too many ramafications. good luck!
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OK, so im obviously in college.. I just recently took into being a full-time student, but im still taking the first classes of college, such as Computers, Speech, Comp102, And algebra...Anyways i have this semester left to think about what should i major in..Im kinda undecided..What are really good paying jobs that i can take up on?.. I love to travel, help others ppls in getting help or advice, the outdoors, working at a office,& love animals. I HATE math, so nothing under that. when reading about what i like to do, what can be a good major for me to study?..thanks! (link)
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If you like helping people maybe you would want to be some kind of counselor or theripist? What kind of helping do you like? For example: I like to help people with their romantic relationships so I am going to be a couples counselor. Or maybe make a list of those things you like and bring it to your advisor and see how many of those interests you can combine into a dream job for you...like someone who travels in order to help people less fortunate...that would combine your love of travel and love to help others.
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I found out i may be pregnant around 2 weeks ago, its 2 days before my period should show.. and i had sex today and started bleeding, and its not like my period. It is practically done bleeding now though. Whats wrong? Miscarrage? Or too rough, and made a tear? (It hurt pretty bad during).
Ahh whats wrong? (link)
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I had this too...if it was after sex it is probably hormones. Sometimes when you fool around in there for some reason it starts to bleed. just calm down on the sex for a little while and then you should be fine.
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14/F.
me and my friends all did the ouijea board together. i kind of didnt trust the owner of the board cause i thought she pushed it . because everytime she'd ask something everything would always come out good & it lied a couple of times when we asked about future events. But i decided to push it just to test if anything bad would happen and then after we kept feeling cold spots all over the room. was it bad that i pushed it ? (link)
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most of the time spirits cannot tell future events. The only way I think the quijea board works is if there are spirits in the room and if they are willing to play with you...they use the energy of you and your friends to move the pointer in a certain direction. That is why you maybe feel weird sometimes while using it...you can feel the energy going through your body and into the pointer. Pushing it will not piss them off more than likely it would make them want to mess with you even more. They think it is funny to mess with you more than hurt you. of course there are those out there that can and might hurt you but more than anything if they do anything it is because they are bored and like messing with you. That is why those weird things sometimes happen in peoples houses...like tvs turning off and on. they think it is funny that living people are scared of them so they play with us.
Yeah I know that I sound crazy but that is what I have come to believe...have fun with spirits...don't be scared of them
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15/f
Well me and this guy ive been going out with for 3 months already had sex for the first time after the 3rd week . Is that too soon? (link)
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Do you regret it? is so then yes....if not no!just be careful please you do not want to get prego
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15/F.
ive gotten into the habit of smoking weed ALOT. like i need it now, and ive told myself im going to quit but when i come around it i have to have it . But the other day, i was in p.e and i had to run a mile, i couldnt even get halfway i felt like i was going to pass out . i go up the stairs at school and i still get out of breath . is this normal? oh and where can you get the detox stuff? Thanks :] (link)
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The reason you think you need weed is because you enjoy the feeling it gives you. There isn't a physical way you can be addicted to it. If you can get over the mental addiction you can quit.
You should really quit or cut down before you really hurt your self...at 15 you shouldn't feel that out of breath! You don't want to die early do you?
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