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Should I Tell Him I Love Him, even though he is my best friend?
Around October, I met my best friend, which happens to be a guy. I've never had a guy best friend before, so I was excited to try something different. In time, we became so close, it was hard to pull us away from each other when we were talking or laughing. Around the middle of December, I changed. Every time he talked to someone, I would get insanely jealous, and my heart would ache. Anytime he wasn't talking to me, my heart would drop through my stomach. Everytime he hugged me, I felt like I was safe and he should never let go. And ever since then, I can't stop thinking about him, and I think I may even love him.
Since he is my best friend, he tells me everything you see? Now everyday, he will talk about how much this one girl doesn't like him, and he is constantly talking about her, and I can't help but to have my heart break.
I've tried to tell him multiple times, but I always backed out making an excuse such as 'I love you...like a brother.' I have a feeling that he won't like me, because I'm not the thinnest girl in the world, or the prettiest. I'm not the smartest, and I definetly cannot compare to the girl he likes. I'm confused, can you please help me? (I've tried my best to explain it, it is rather hard to explain in more ways than one)
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My best friend was a guy too. I was in the same situation as you even down to not having any guy friends before. I am now married to my best friend and it is the best thing in the world, but it is not to take lightly. You not only need to be ready to date him but to fight with him and potentially lose him. Whenever you have feelings for a good friend like that there is huge potential in losing him but there is also the potential that you will be together forever. If your relationship is strong enough you will be able to keep as a friend if it doesn't work out.
If I were you I would put yourselves in situations where you can show your affections without being to weird. Like watch a movie and cuddle with him...if he is your best friend that shouldn't be to weird for him. If you really think you are willing to lose him, or if you are sure you will be friends no matter what you should tell him. Maybe bring up a hypothetical about you two dating once and gauge his reaction.
It is always best to be in a relationship with your best friend I believe. So if you believe it is the right thing to do, do it! Just try to make sure it is right for both of you because you do not want to lose your friend.
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Well it's clear that you really love this guy. Just because your not skinny or really smart does not mean that a guy can't take interest in you. Look I had a guy bestfriend to and I loved him as well and I'm not the prettiest girl in the world trust when I telll you this and guess what he's my boyfriend and yeah before I didn't want to tell him cause I was scared of the out come but once we talked about it and I explained the situation and put things clear we made a decision so talk to him telly him how you feel.
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