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I have some questions about mostly everyhting that has to do with pleasuring your partner. I'm a virgin and unexperienced. Okay here goes...
Once you get on birth control or take the pill or whatever, is it possible for your parents to find out eventually?
Can your gyno tell if you're on the pill or birth control?
What are whipped cream & strawberries used for; like where do you place them and stuff?
How can you get rid of the odor down there? Are guys actually enjoying the smell of it? And if possible, is there anything you can eat/drink to make the smell/taste better?
What are the best type of condomns? Most effective?
Thanks in advance.
Not unless you are sloppy, and dont hide the pills when you have them at home. Your doctor, not just a gynocologist, is the one that perscribes them to you. You can make an appointment by yourself if you know how to do so, and get the perscription for you through your doctor. It is against the law for them to tell your parents ANYTHING that goes on in the rooms unless you consent for them to do so. Birthcontrol can get expensive though, so make sure you have a source of money before you hop on the pill.
Im not sure if what you are talking about is some kind of strange sex toy or the food, so I am just gonig to answer it like the food. I am sure they are just used as a type of foreplay, so the guy can have an excuse to lick all over you and suck. You can pretty much put them anywhere that you deem necessary, but try to stay away from getting it INSIDE the vagina.
THe odor is just part of your body. You can get rid of it by washing with scented soaps, try not to get too much actually inside of the vagina though. Alot of times its just sweat, i know it sounds gross but your crotch has to cool down too after being covered up all the time. Before you are seeing a guy, or he has the potentioal to go down there just shower before to get rid of the residual sweat and/or any other bacteria that may be hanging around down there making it icky.
As for foods to stay away from: fish and meats. It takes a LONG time for your vaginal secretions to change flavor though, probably 2 months at the least. And you'd have to nearly seclude yourself to just fruits and veggies to make it taste better. Smoking doesnt help the taste either. Also washing it regurlarly will help you with that as well.
I would assume guys like the smell, however not all guys like every girls smell. Its just a prefrence that some have, you are just going to ahve to be comfortable with the fact that you're not going to be able to please everyone.
All condoms are effective, however if you are
worried about sperm and pre-cum, try finding some that have spermicide in the lubricant. You might want to consult the guy about what kind is best for him to use, like what brand and all that. They also ahve different varities, like who gets the most pleasure and a way to extend the guys "going period". Really, id just say let the guy buy the condoms. But if you're on the pill for 2 or 3 months before you have sex, then you really dont need the condom.
does anyone know any programs that i can download that are kind of like jasc paintshop pro? i need one that is free, or atleast has a free trial! i rate 5's for anyone who gives an actual answer =)
I have JASC PSP9 if you'd like i could send it to you. Its a bootleg version so its not a trial and its fully loaded. COntact me n AIM, YAHOO or through e-mail if you'd like it. I also have Adobe photoshop if you'd like it too.
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0k, so I'm going out with this guy, and last night, he fingered me and ate me out.. He fingered me so hard that I bleed a little bit, and I was wondering, if there was any cum on his hand, like from the last time he jacked off, could I get pregnant? What are the chances?
Also, what can happen from being eaten out?
Chances are slim that your pregnant from that. The sperm wouldnt live long on his hand, besides, he touched other things before he touched your vagina and it would transfer to those things first. You probably bled because your hymen was broken, or torn a little. And if it was broken before that, it was probably his finger nail that cut you, or hemay have stretched the skin around your vagina out too much.
You can contract a number of STD's from being eaten out. More than likely, if he had a cold sore, you contracted that virus that caused it and may have herpes (although it is very slim since you are so young, that he even had it...). You could also get HIV if he had an open cut in his mouth and he was HIV positive, but like O said, that is probably a slim chance that he was. Although, it wouldn't be a bad idea to ask him about these things...
I hope things workout for you :)
does anyone think its bad to bring your bible to school or stuff like that? I mean my friend does and i want to but am scared someone might hurt me because of it! but i really LOVE god and want to like spread him with people but am scared to! thanks!
There is actually an ammendment/law against combining church (the bible..God...etc.) and state (public/legal facilites such as court rooms and public school). So it's not a good idea to bring it to school and flaunt it around (however, if it does make you more comfortable, bring it and read it in private). It is great that you are connected with your religion, but it is NOT okay to shove it in people's faces. Talk little to people about religion, enough to give them the idea of God and religion, but don't condem them to Hell if they don't jump on your band wagon, right away, or at all. It's disrespectful and very intimidating. Try to be put in their shoes also, would you like it if someone tried to convert you to be a different religion?
Try to bring your friends to scoal gatherings at your church, not necessarily the mass itsself, but just little pancake breakfasts, or cookouts if they are available. And if your church doesn't have these things, talk to your religious-ed coordinator (or the priest) at the church and see if you can get some started for kids your own age. It will be a good way to meet more friends who accept your views on God easier, and it will be a good way to introduce your friends who don't like God as much as you do, to the idea of religion slowly.
Good luck!
This question is very weird, but..
The innerlips on my vulva happen to be bigger than the outer lips. They hang a bit and cover my clitoris and vagina, and sometimes sort of stick together. I know this is completely normal, because everybody's vagina is different, but I'm scared that if I get close with somebody, they're going to be freaked out. My vagina is quite different from other peoples because of this and I'm scared that the other person is going to be turned off by it. I sort of think it's ugly, so I'm self-conscious about it. Any helpful advice on what to do?
If you 'get close' with somebody, and they DON'T accept every part of your body the way it is, then you aren't that close with them. Also, just because it's differnet doesn't mean its bad. Most vaginas aren't that pretty....but it doesn't mean that yours is going to gross anyone out when they see it. When you accept the way your body looks, espically your sexual parts, then the person you have become close with will start to accept them too. However, when you are self-conscious about them, you may have a tendency to bring out the bad points about your so-called 'ugly vagina' (or any other body part for that matter), and that person will start to notice them too.
So try to accept your body and the way that it has grown, and rather than focusing on the bad parts, or the ones you dont like that much....try focusing on the good parts of your body and flaunting those.
Good luck :)
i know this is stupid but this guy said they he would eat me out if my pussy was nice .. well i want him to eat me out but how do i know if my pussy is nice or not? please answer right and not try to be rude about this .. im being serious
find out what his standards of nice are, and if you are willing to change your body for him, then adapt to his standards. otherwise, ditch the jackass, he isnt worth your time if all he wants is a pussy to eat.
hey or the past couple days my voice has kind of been like cracking, but i am a girl. and my throat doesnt really hurt or anything, and i havent been screaming or shrieking a whole lot. any ideas what it is? or is it just normal? thanks!
~*jaimee*~
its probably your nasal passages draining into your throat. it used to happen to me alot during the summer, it will go away within a few days, sometimes it took up to 2 weeks for me. try not to talk alot, whisper when you can and it will help it out alot. also drink ALOT of water, to help clear it out.
I enjoy talking with this guy that comes to a lot of my clubs, and he asks me sometimes about my friends (who he sometimes crushes on) so I considered him my friend. Soemtimes, though, like if I tell him I bought some new CD or I went to the mall on Saturday, he totally flips out at me and tells me that no one cares. Sometimes I don't understand it- I mean, seriously if my friend told him the same thing he would laugh and talk about it with her.
Should I consider him a friend or not?
I wouldnt' If he completely switches and is such an ass to you like that, then he really isn't your friend. Regaurdless of if he cares or not, if he was really your friend he would listen to you alot more than it seems like he has been.
Be nice to him when he is nice to you, be civil towards him. But as soon as he becomes an ass you have full right to go bitch-mode too. Call him on his bluff, ask him why he's being a dick and tell him you dont think you deserve it. (he'll probably come back with a "oh i was just kidding around" in which you can say "thats bullshit" :D )
Dont just take it when he treats you like shit- espically because if he was a real friend he wouldnt be doing it- stand up for yourself and make it known that you're not a pushover.
Good luck with that :)
I have seen my report card since 8th grade (I'm now in 11th). Ever since my sister started high school (she's a year older than me) she started throwing away both of our report cards because she doesn't want my parents to see them. My parents did notice at first and called the schools and everything and they schools told them that they don't know what's going on because they've been sending them. So, my parents kind of forgot about it. I didn't really care about it but now I do! I have no idea how I'm doing in school. I think I'm failing half my classes but I don't actually know. I have no idea what my GPA is either (we get it in about 3 weeks but I don't know what to expect). It's completely unfair that I don't get so see my report card because my sister doesn't want my parents to see hers. I've told her before to just throw hers away and not mine but she was like "No, then they'll figure it out." I've also tried asking her to at least just let me see it and then she can throw it away. She agreed at first but then "accidentally" threw it away. She already got into the college she wanted to get in and my parents are all proud of her and whatnot so I don't get it! What else should I do? And no, I won't tell my parents about it. Other than this, my sister and I are really close so I don't want to do that to her.
Go to your guidance counsler and ask them for a copy of your transcript. it has everything on it including all your semester grades, days absent, and your gpa :)
they should hand it over without a problem. say its for college applications if they ask why.
I hope your doing well :)
I have a 5 year old male miniature dacshound. His problem is that he pees inside the house on the carpets when we want him to go pee outside. He is potty trained but still goes to the carpets like he does not care. We smack his bottom whenever he does and sometimes spray a dog and cat sour spray in his mouth to basically tell him "no" but nothing seems to get through his head. If I don't get to controlling his actions soon my parents are seriously considering sending him to the pound. What should I do?
I have a miniature daschaund and we have the same problem. Most of the time he is okay and goes out when he needs to, but when we are not home he obviously cant go outside. We have even tried hitting him, rbbing his nose in it, and all that other stuff but really it all boils down to one thing:
Small dogs have small bladders.
They cant hold it longer than bigger dogs can, so when they have to go-- they have to go, and NOW.
Try using POSITIVE enforcement rahter than negative. When you leave the house, reward him with a treat if he does not pee or poop inside. Then Immediatley let him out, the poor thing is probably about to burst. When you are home though, give him treats when he goes outsdie and he will know what is good and what is bad then. It may take a while to get him used to that routine but it will be worth it.
I know my daschaund has bascially a routine. He gets up at the same time nearly everyday and needs to go out, and usually around the same time he needs to go out everyday too. Watch for patterns like that in your dog so you know when he has to go and you dont have to make him wait.
I hope it all works out and you and your dog do well together :)
hi i've been with my boyfriend for quite a few years now, but unfortunately, everyday i start to think to myself that i should leave him. why is because every single time we get into fights, he never is willing to stay and work it out. he either hangs up the phone and ignores my phone calls/messages or says "just drop it" with an attitude. he also calls me names like bitch when he loses his temper, and personally, i've had enough.
but as you can imagine, i have grown emotionally attached to this guy. i fell in love with who he once was, a sweet, considerate, man. but now it's like i don't know who he is anymore and lately it's just the only thing i can think about is how the quality of our relationship is slowly crumbling beneath us.
i personally do want to call it quits, or at least take a break from each other for a little while, but he refuses. he says things like he can't live without me, and if i leave him he'll kill himself. in a sense i feel that i'm forced to stay in this relationship because i don't want to live knowing i made someone commit suicide over me.
it's a really sticky situation, and i don't know what to do anymore. i do love this guy, but i feel as though i'm falling out of love with him for the person he has become.
please help...
Let him know that things have to change. If you both are willing to work on the relationship and stay together, a comprimise has to be made.
As an example : Say, if he stops calling you names or treating you badly, that you will stay with him.
If you really do want to take a break though, just do it. What he is donig to himself seems like it is going on because of something other than you. You arent the one in the wrong, so dont think that. He is threatening himself when you havent even left him yet, so clearly it is not you.
Weigh each side: pro's and con's. What has he done to make you feel good lately? and What has he done to make you feel bad lately? If the list is lnoger for the con's you really shouldnt be with him. He cant keep treating you like crap when you dont want it. You ultimatley control what you do-- not what he does.
I believe that you love him- but people change. You loved what he once was, not what he is now. Tlak with him and make him realize that. Be calm about it and try not to get into a fight. If a fight feels like its going to start, calmly say "i dont want this to escalate into a fight so lets just calm down" and if he is unwilling to work with that much then the conversation needs to end.
Dont feel like you are forced to do anything you dont want to do. If you want to leave him, THEN DO IT. He is only bringing you down with him. Let him know that you just need emotional time by yourself. Let him know you still want to be with him, but he has to change for things to be able to work out. Take a break, and come back to him. If he hasnt changed, then get rid of him. This isnt fair to you, you arent getting what you need out of this relationship, and with the way his threats keep changing, it doesnt look like he is either. But ultimatley you need to keep one person in mind-- yourself. Do whats in the best intrest for YOU. You have catered to his needs for far too long. Do what YOU want to do. Not what HE wants you to do.
I really hope this does work out for you for the better-- whatver you choose to do. But keep in mind that you are also getting hurt in here, and he is the one doing it.
Good luck with all of this.
How do you start a conversation with the guy you like? What makes the conversation interesting? What should i talk about? And how do i keep the conversation lasting? Answer all please! i rate 5s and comment
Well first, if its a guy you like, you have to know what he likes, right? Or something that he likes. Maybe he has a sticker for a band on his notebook, or hes wearing a sports jersey... start a topic about something that you notice he likes.
If he's a sporty guy, talk about the school sport event that just happened. If hes a musical guy-- talk about a CD from the band that he likes that just came out. Stuff like that.
Making the conversation last isnt the hard part. Just talk about things he's going to like-- not necessarily just what you like. Also, know what you're talking about. Dont just pull some random topic out of your ass , that he likes, that you know nothing about because then it will end really quickly. Be smart about it and start a conversation about something you have intrest in(you dont have to necessarily like it but just know about it) so you dont seem fake when you bring it up.
Do what comes natural to make it intresting. Random fun facts about the things that he likes, or just talking about it in general may keep it intresting. Having a common intrest with someone is the key thing for a good conversation.
I hope I helped you out. And I hope if you do start a conversation with the guy you like, that all goes well :)
My mom gave me a pair of earrings a while ago. I wore them all the time and I loved them. The problem is, I lost one of them somewhere in school. It was a total accident and it must have came off while I was running/playing sports. I have still have one of them, but I don't know whether to tell my mom. I have alot of other earrings and the lost earring is probably already stolen. Should I just let it go or fess up to my mom? If they were expensive, I would be in deep trouble. Also, my mom would think I was very irresponsible and wouldn't trust me with anything anymore.
Go to the office first, and see if anyone turned it in. No one steals just one earring-- why would they want to wear it? Chacnes are though it got swept up after school, but I know some janitors are good about turning stuff like that in. SO first, check and see if it got turned in.
Second, if it hasn't been turned in, tell your mom. Yeah, she will be upset, but at least she will know that you are being truthful and it may come in handy down the road. Building a big trust issue with your parents is good and by telling them little things like a lost earring is a good place to start.
Third, your mother wont be too upset if she is at all. She probably wont think your irresponsible because you took the credit for what you did and you 'fessed up. Dont make up lame excuses if you are going to tell her though. Just say, it fell out, I didnt notice it and by the time I did, it was too late. I covered my tracks and will continue to look for it, but I know these were a gift from you and I wanted to let you know what happened to them.
Earrings fall out all the time. They just werent designed to stay on your ears, (ive lost alot of earrings and I came to that conclusion)and I am sure your mother realizes this. She knows that accidents happen and I'm sure she doesn't think that you delibratley pulled it off your ear and dropped it.
SO after this long thing of advice, to sum it all up: tell your mother. The damage wont be as bad as you are imagining it will be. She may even respect you more for it
Good luck with that and I hope it works out for you
Does anyone know a good shampoo or soemthing for your hair that would dry it out because my hair is always reallyyy oily. thanks ♥
try not to wash it everyday.
My hair is really oily and i use garnier fructis and it usually works pretty well and doesnt get greasy that often. Also, i know it sounds crazy, but the less you was your hair the less oily it gets.
( i answered a similar question to this one, look through and see my reply)
Okay.. i need some way to cover a hickey.. i have a huge one on my boob.. which is no problem.. but if i get one on my neck.. i need a way to cover it while im around my parents.. Is there any special make up for it? I've tried foundation and concealer.. neither worked.. If you know of anyway to hide it.. besides covering it with my hair.. lemme know!!
Thanks!
P.S. I'm female.. so I have access to all kinds of makeup
okay, theres this stuff -- im not sure what its called, but its green. Kind of liquidy-- all kinds of make-up labels make something like that.
Basically--it minimizes the redness, tones it down because it is darker than the red. Then you can easily eough put some foundation, or powder over it and really minimizes the intesity of what was there.
Im not sure how well that works, since ive never had a hickey before, but it cant hurt to try.
Hope that helps ya.
A week months back I was informed my friend gave someone else a hand-job. She's 14. I know, to some people this is normal, but we live in a nice small town where nothing like that ever really happens. Here it's different. I asked her if there was anymore and she 'swore on her music' I told her to never let him back in her house again because she claims he forced her into it. (She's in love with music, anything that has to deal with music). SO, naturally I believed her. Yesterday I found out new information. She had given a hand-job twice, a blow-job one, made out alot and let him feel her up. She never told me. She claims that she's scared, I would be too. I'm so mad about her not telling me. I'm her 'best friend'? Why don't I feel like it?
Well, your friend is growing up, and wether she believes that its okay for her to do these things isnt really up to you. Let her know that you're worried about her and that you dont appreciate that shes been keeping things from you. Tell her that you're not comfortable with her doing these things with the boys that she hangs around with and that you're just trying to look out for her.
Since shes so young, I can see the issue here though. And if it gets any worse, i would go to her parents about what shes been donig. Its really not healthy for a young girl to be donig this that advanced sexually. Let her know that you would go to her parents though, don't use it as a threat-- just let her know you are concerned
Ok, my computer is really messing up. I just recovered it, usually after I recover, it does just fine. But now, when I go to an icon website, the icons never move, I refreshed the page, and restarted the computer, icons are still not moving. On this website, or any other, every other word is turned into a link, when I click it, its just a none existing website, and I'm just not understanding any of this, does this mean I need a new computer? Or is it a program I'm installing? I have AIM and Jasc Animation Shop 3 installed, so, I'm not sure ifd these could be it, because I've never had a problem with them, thank you, I rate!
That is what we call spyware. When the links are like that, thats bad. I used to have that and about 2 weeks later my comptuer went into melt-down mode.
REFORMAT don't do a system restore.
Hope that works out for you
When I was ill recently, I really relied on my partner, and he was wonderful at looking after me. I've told him how thankful I am and how much it meant to me, but I'd really like to show how grateful I am and am really stuck for what would be appropriate. Would a card or gift be tacky/inappropriate? I saw a book I know he'd enjoy, but it doesn't feel quite the right way to say 'thanks' for all that he's done.
Basically, I'm just looking for opinions - should I get him a small token like the book, or is it more appropriate to just talk to him about it as I have been doing?
I think you should go for the book. It a nice gesture to know that someone remembers little things like that when they are looking for a gift.
I'm sure he would like any gift you got him although here are some ideas:
Cook a meal with all his favorite foods, rent his favorite movie and cuddle up watching it for the night after the dinner.
Give him the choice of where to go one day when you are out-- pay for everything-- and make sure he knows its for the thank you :)
Hope those work, and good luck!
can you get birth control without your parents knowing? and how much does it usually cost?
yes you can, go to your doctor and ask them to be put on it. or if there is a womens shelter in your neighbor hood,or something like a planned pregnancy building, i think they give them to you for free.
if you go through your doctor, the cost varies through your insurances. It will probably be around 20-40 dollars though.
The reason your doctor cant tell your parents is because its illegal to tell them-- they have a doctor/patient privelidge and they cant brek it.
ok well my dad is an alcholic and he drinks like every night and like a month ago he got pulled over for drunk driving he is in jail now and gets out in a few monthes! but before he went in he would always hit me and my family (not my mom tho)!! it gets me upset and dont no what to do!! and he only hits us when he isnt drunk so its either hes drunk or really mean does ne one no n e thing i can do w/o my mom knowing cuz she would freak if she found out that i tell ppl!! ~kel
well your moms stupid for not wanting to help you out about your father hitting you.
second, who cares what your mother thinks? this is for the benefit of YOU! YOU are the only one that matter in this kind of situation. Go to the police, or call them next time he starts to hit you.
It's never health to have that kind of relationship with anyone and if you dont break the cycle now, chances are it's gonig to effect you later on in life in major ways.
Tell a guidance counselr at school, ask them not to contact your mother, but rather ways you can go around her if it really means that much to you to defy your mother like that.