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Hello. The name is Sarah. I am 16 and home schooled at the moment. I am expected to graduate class of 2005. I am in love with the Fiance, Brandon. He and our relationship mean the world to me and more. We are getting married June of 2006. You can send me questions and I will be sure to answer back.

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i was at my friend's house and we decided to prank my crush (because he's the type of guy who would sort of play along). well when we called him, we couldn't stop laughing so well he couldn't really play along with that and hung up. he was sounded pretty upset (like when he was asking who is this). but i don't know, what if he recognizes me by my laugh? my friend said that i didn't exactly disguise my laugh but that it's ok-but if he knows it was me, wow i'm dead. everyone will definitely know i like him (trust me, they already suspect it!). and plus he'll like hate me, which i really don't want because he's like the sweetest and funniest guy ever!! i dont know what to do, please help!

Dear Prankster,
Pranks can be a little annoying but their easy to get over. More than likely your crush is already over the prank. There should be no reason as to why he would be directly mad at you. You weren't the only one and it was only a phone call. If he brings it up, confront what you did head on. Never lie. It will come back to you in the end and if he finds out, he will have a hard time trusting you. If he is such a sweet and funny guy then what are you waiting for? Guys like that don't come around too often, girl. Catch him while you can. Scared? What's the worst thing that can happen? Really? If you never take the chance then you will never know and you will always live in wonder. We could be talking about your future husband, right now. Do it for yourself and talk to him. Good luck!
♥Sarah and Brandon

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hey ok my bff is really cool and funny and awesome and i love her like a sister!! but sometimes she's sort of weird in a way, like i don't know it's really hard to explain.. for example whenever i talk about going on a vacation somewhere, if it's somewhere she's already been to, she says that she hated it there. and then wherever she's going on a vacation, she's all "OMG I'M SO EXCITED!!" unless it's a place she already told me that it sucks. and she goes to japan a lot because she's japanese and she's always talking about how awesome it is there-i've been there before and it is awesome but it's not exactly the best vacation spot ever though... but it's just weird. and then once i started talking about something i read in M magazine and then she said that she hated M, when it was her who first showed it to me anyway!! and at abercrombie, there was this really ugly skirt and i was like "eww that's ugly!" lol but then she started saying that she really liked it and actually started looking at the cost and was about to buy it (but she ran out of money)!! and all of my favorite songs of all time that i really really love, she doesn't like any of them, even though i heard from someone at her school that she sings them a lot (we go to different schools). i don't know, it's like she's always trying to be different, but as if she's wants to fight or something. i just don't get it, why would she want to be like that? there have definitely been a lot more times she's done that but i don't want to put them down because there's too many. but it's weirds me out sometimes and actually annoys me too because i don't understand what she's trying to start or prove!? can you please help me?

Dear Confuzzled,
The first thought that went through my mind after reading your problem was immature. It is obvious to me that the two of you are either very young or very immature. Why are you friends? Really, think about it. Why? You must find something great within each other to be friends. Right? Get over it. Move on. Vacation spots? Big deal. You think it's great to go to Hawaii? Then go to Hawaii and have fun. Your friends comments shouldn't mean anything if they are negative. Confront her comments and ask why she is hostile towards your taste in things. You may discover the secret behind her words. Good luck.
♥Sarah and Brandon

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I currently live in London and may be moving to either Philadelphia in America or Melbourne in Australia. Iv'e been to Melbourne before but don't know what it would be like living there. What the would be schools like, e.c.t.
Iv'e never been to America and have no idea what its like there. Could anyone who lives in Philadelphia tell me what its like? Also, I'm really fit and thin at the moment, but Iv'e heard that in America its hard to get hold of healthy foods. I don't like this whole bribe thing, but I will rate high for any good answers.

Dear Moving,
You should not be nervous. I am sure that wherever you move to, you will soon be comfortable with the choice. I do not live in Philadelphia nor have I ever been there. I live in California. Have you ever heard of MTV? MTV has a show called The Real World and currently their in Philadelphia. You should watch it sometime. It might give you a better understanding of what your getting into. I am guessing that people are different here than what you are used to. It might take some time to make friends. Some people might even be intrigued that you are from London. It is a very good conversation starter. Whatever happens I wish you the best of luck.
♥Sarah and Brandon

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heyy everyone. ok i was wondering if a guy is 18 years old and your 15 is it illegal to go out as boyfriend and girlfriend? because theres this really hott college guy and i really like him a lot but hes like i cant ask her out because its illegal. thanks yall!

Dear Illegal,
I am not too sure on this one. I think it depends on which state you live in. I am almost 17 and my fiance is 18. We have been a couple for almost a year now so I do not look at it as being illegal. You might have to keep the relationship on the down low if the two of you end up together. Please make sure that he is not just trying to get into your pants because you are 15. There are guys who will do that to you because you are younger. If he respects you and cares about the relationship, see if he can go without any sexual activities for a while. That will tell you whether or not he is worth it. Good luck.
♥Sarah and Brandon

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ok, i'm not ugly, but i'm not exactly beautiful. does anyone know if there's a way to make me look and FEEL prettier? and by "pretty" i dont mean "slutty"

Dear Beautiful,
You have to feel beautiful within yourself to make you beautiful. The most beautiful girls can have bad self-esteem issues and not believe in their true beauty and could look ugly to others because of their low personality. Pick yourself up from off of the groud and feel confident in yourself. Look in the mirror each morning and say to yourself "I am beautiful". It will make you feel confident throughout the day. You have to have it within yourself first to actually play the part. Your beautiful and you know it. Go and show it off.
♥Sarah and Brandon

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im 18 years old and my boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year and were thinking about having sex.. if we do, do i need to see a gynocologist (sp?). thats what ive heard but i need to know if its really necessary and how i would set it up. and what would happen there if i went?

Dear Not Sure,
Just because you have been with your boyfriend for almost a year does not mean that you have to have sex. Sex should be special. Make sure that you are ready because sex is not something that you can take back. I am 16 and I have already visited a gynocologist. It is recommended that you visit one by your 18th birthday. I am a very modest person so when it came to someone checking me out down there I was a little nervous. You have to understand that the doctor you are meeting see's woman on a regular basis. If you have seen one vagina, you have seen them all. When I went, I got a Pap Smear. That is where they examine the inside of your vagina with a sort of long Quetip. They take a few smears and send it in for testing. You are also given a breast exam, which is not bad at all. The Pap smear was uncomfortable; but not painful and lasted less than 3 min. I recommend going to your regular doctor and getting a refferal to a gynocologist. Your doctor will know the best doctor's in your area. All you have to do from there is call and make an appointment for a check-up. Good luck.
♥Sarah and Brandon

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hi,
my girlfriend was late on her period by 2 days and then we had sexual intercourse. she is still late 5 days after we had sexual intercourse what does this mean? im sure the condom did not split and everything went fine but im still worried. was she most fertile then or least could you please tell me?

thanks,
rob

Dear Rob,
There is a chance that your girlfriend might be pregnant. Some girls have irregular periods, expecially after having sex. Sex could either slow it down or kick it up a notch, depends on the girl. Girls are most fertile before their period and after. I would recommend she take a pregnancy test. That way the both of you can know the truth and be more at ease. Good luck.
♥Sarah and Brandon

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Is there a way to stop a pregnant woman from drinking? I don't understand why it's not against the law. It's aginst the law to supply alcohol to minors, but it's ok to posion your unborn child?

Dear Drinking Mother,
The hospital can take the child away from the mother if she is suspected of drinking while she was pregnant. Alcohol can cause many birth defects in which the hospital knows of. I would recommend finding help for this person or comfronting her about the danger she is putting her child through. Good luck.
♥Sarah and Brandon

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this is my first time to put a tampon in and i was just wondering if i can pee while having a tampon in. please help!

Dear Tampon Help,
Yes. I thought that I could not when I first started using tampons; but you can. You have to make sure that the tampon is inserted properly or you will have difficulty using the restroom. Yes. It is possible. Good luck.
♥Sarah and Brandon

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hi i'm jw but whats it like being homeschooled? arent you lonely all the time? do you even truly learn anything? and if your homeschooled, how did you meet brandon? i mean you don't even go to school!

Dear Curious,
I was in a public high school for both freshman and half of sophomore year. I got along with most of the people there but I was not satisfied with the learning cariculum. I also was not too pleased with all of the drama that was going around. It got to be too much. Now that I am home schooled, I am able to work at my own pace. I have decided to speed up my work so that I can graduate this year, my junior year of high school. I finished all of the work for my junior year within three months and now I am just finishing up my senior years work. Home schooling can get really lonely if you do not participate in activities outside of your homework. I was lonely when I first started home schooling, so I got a job last summer working for Albertson's. That is where Brandon and I met. When Brandon learned that I was home schooled, he signed up the following year. He is a senior this year. Thanks for the question. I hope that I cleared everything up.
♥Sarah and Brandon

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let the rain come down and wash away my tears. let carrots be free to the other animals when carrots reproduce. carrots go through puberty sometimes in their life. it's common, if you think about it.They start around normal human being's age about 13. The only reason that most carrots dont get puberty is because usually they get eaten. Unless the owner of his/her/heshe carrot has forgotten you in the fridge for years.And my fellow carrots, like human beings, you don't have to use tampons. All you have to do is get a pickle and put it next to your face and breathe slowly until your breath smells like pickle.(perhaps maybe you mnight be able to eat it). When your breath is pickleish, the smell goes through your stomach and provide and push to the strawberry juice that comes out of your butt. (not blood for carrots.) Also another thing that most people "DO NOT" do is, getting a huge blob of pudding and jam it thgrough your throat. This will help the jelly go through your stomach smoothly and then blob on the strawberry juice so it gives more push. When jelly and pickles collide with each other, they make fart. Which will really help. You are probably thinking "why not just drink milk." But that is not the key to the answer because carrots cant drink milk. The reason is because a long time ago in the 15th centuries, carrots and cows had war which was called the, "COWROTT WAR" Thats how for the carrot religion, they can't Drink milk. Now your probably thinking, "why not eat cheese?" But no. Because in the 16th century, the prime minister of cheese named ,"JoJomA LoGOLa" and the carrot president, "President Abraham Carrocoln" had a major conflict of whether not to put a piece of TIK TAK on a piece of air conditioning material. So now its against their religion. So back to topic, carrot puberty is very important for our natural studies to make hope for them to again unite with the cheese and the cows. We need to convince them to break their religion. HELP ME WE NEED TO GET TOGETHER AND HELP THEM. so it wont be late like the jewish being badly treated by the germans. First everyone thought it was crazy but later when they realizied what a problem it was, it was too late. PLZ JOIN ME IN MY "HELP CARROT PUBERTY CLUB" thank you! UNITE WITH CHEESE AND COW!! THANK YOU GO GO!!! GO FIGHT WIN CARROTS! PUBERTY!

Dear Annoying,
You have way too much time on your hands. I will not post anymore of your entrys.
♥Sarah and Brandon

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hi, uhhh its kinda hard to talk about this but, I dont know what to tell my boifriend, I mean he asked me if I was a virgin or not n i keep aboiding the question, you see when I was 13 I was rapped, what should I tell my boifrien? should I lie or tell him the truth, do you think it will effect the relationship?

thanks so much (I rate well!!!) HaLeY

Dear Haley,
If you have not already, you need to tell an adult about what happened to you. I am so sorry. If you are comfortable with your boyfriend than you should tell him the truth. Never lie, it will only get worse if you do. If he loves you than he will understand. Once again, I am so sorry that happened to you. That is one thing that you can never get back and I am sorry you had no choice. Good luck.
♥Sarah and Brandon

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bananas dont even grow in kenya thats why

Dear Um,
You most not know to much about where you live because according to this website, Kenya grows banana's: www.jambokenya.com/jambo/location/central.htm.
♥Sarah and Brandon

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well i have lived here in kenya for months and i used 2 live in india. i moved here before the tsunami hit which was pretty lucky. Kenya is great but we do not have much good stuff. So didnt india. But when i moved here i had to leave a lot of stuff including all of my food and supplies and stuffed animals. Well now that i came here to Kenya, we somehow dont have any bananas around which is bad for me cause banana is my favorite fruit. i had to leave all of my fellow bananas that always rescued me from my problems of being allergic to peaches. So i want y banan as back to meh beh beh. i have not eaten bananas for a long time. im very hungry for bananas and im starting to go crazy like trying to do a handstand on a Fire Hydrant or trying to get a old man to strip and make him stand on top of the roof and making him sing My boo from alicia keys and usher. BANANAS WERE MY LIFE BABY BANANAS WERE THE ONLY HOPE TO MAKE MY HOPELESS BODY LIVE. PLZZ AFTER U REPLY, GIVE ME A WAY TO TRANSFER DIFFERENT KINDS OF BANANAS FROM OTHER COUNTRYS! THANK YOU. THANK YOU IM A BANANA FAN AND I WANNA LIVE TO WORK FOR THE BANANA COUNTRY BAYBE!! THE STORE BANANA REPUBLIC WILL HELP! THE NAME BANANA IS THE BEST MY NICKNAME IS BANANA. MY MIDDLE NAME IS BANANA MY FUTURE KID'S NAME IS GONNA BE BANANA

Dear Banana,
I find it strange that your country has computer's but a low supply of banana's. Hmm...? I do not know how I can help. Here is one tip: get a life. Good luck.
♥Sarah and Brandon

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Okay I'm 15 and my boyfriend and I have been talking about having sex. Well I have a few questions....

1) I'm not a virgin but I told him I was. The 1st and only guy I had sex with was very small and I was wondering if my (virgin) boyfriend would be able to tell I wasn't.

2) Also...after sex do things change between the two people?

Dear Lier,
I do not think that it is right that you are leading your boyfriend into thinking that you are a virgin. Imagine how upset he will be when he finds out and hopefully when he does, you two have not had sex already. It will be his choice to decide whether or not he wants to have sex with you. What if he wants to lose his virginity to a virgin? I know that might be upsetting, I have been down that road before but it is his life and he deserves the right to know the truth. I made a mistake at not telling my fiance the whole truth about my sexual relations and when he found out, I was lucky that he still wanted to be with me. Please tell him. Once you do, you will feel better about your relationship. If he really cares about you then he will stick around. Remember that sex is not a crime and that it is alright to not be a virgin. You should not look down on yourself for that. You asked whether sex changed people or not. You tell me. Your not a virgin. You would not be here asking that question if you had not had sex, so has it changed you? Good luck.
♥Sarah and Brandon

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I am goin to see the love of my life this weekend! im sooo excited! but im not sure how far i should go with him. we have talked about it and we want to wait for things like sex, but im still not sure on how far i should go. i am 14 and he is 16. he means the world to me and i want to show him that! how can i show him that other than sexual activity but still let a little activity take place?

Dear How Far,
If he cares about you as you do him and he respects you than you should not have to prove your love for him. Do whatever you feel comfortable doing. Do not do anything you are going to regret later. Tell him how you feel about sex and if he does not understand than maybe he is not the love of your life. We cannot tell you what you are ready to do, we can not tell you how far you should go. Ask yourself and your partner. Have fun and be safe. Good luck.
♥Sarah and Brandon

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Ok, I'm not entirely sure if this is the right category, but yeah. So I was sitting with my Girl on the porch, and she was kinda Lying kinda sitting on me, with her back toward me, and I had my arm around her, and she grabbed my arm and put it down her top onto her breast, (This is while I was nibbling on her ear... I'm 17 and not really skilled in this area.. What am I supposed to do?

Deat Confused,
You do not have to be skilled to please a girl. Just ask her what she wants. Girls want a partner who can pleasure them the way that they want to be pleasured. Once you know the details, go for it. She is your girl, so do not be shy. In the meantime, you can also inform her on what you want. That way you both are satisfied. Good luck.
♥Sarah and Brandon

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I am 14 and a female. There is a guy at school that I think is really cute. We both have history together and I will sometimes see him looking at me. I want to talk to him so bad, but I have never said anything to him before. What should I do?

Dear Chicken,
You are becoming a strong women. You can handle a silly boy. This is how I look at it. If you like someone and never tell them, you will never know what could have been. I say that you should speak up before it is too late. Think about it. What do you really have to lose? He might even be interested and if he's not then get over him. No boy is worth any fuss unless he is willing to fuss over you. You can do it girl and you are no chicken. Good luck.
♥Sarah and Brandon

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I really need some help. For the past almost 6 years of my life, i have been looking at porno. I am addicted. It is literally ruining my life. It takes time away from my hobbies, my family, and my relationship with God. Can someone please advise me on how to stop this addiction? Please dont ban this question either. I truely need help

Dear Addict,
You have made it obvious that this is something that you would like to stop and that it is an addiction. This would be considered an addiction and unhealthy because it is taking time away from your everyday life. You need to seek counseling as soon as possible. Your alternatives could be taking up a sport or joining a club at your school. In which would take time away from watching porn. Good luck.
♥Sarah and Brandon

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I have the weirdest problem. Everytime I have a little sickness, I think it's huge. Like if I have a headache, i think it's a brain tumor. If I have a stomach ache I think I'm gonna hurl or that I have the flu. Yes, I know it's weird and freaky. But I need help!! i wanna stop. Please help me

Dear Paranoid,
My fiance has the same problem. You are just paranoid. You need to sit down and think about what hurts or how you are feeling and go from there. If your head hurts, take some tylenol. If your stomach hurts, maybe you have to go to the bathroom. You need to go over the obvious possibilities. If you really feel that something is wrong with you, then you need to consult with your doctor. I hope that you feel better. Good luck.
♥Sarah and Brandon

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