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How to tell my parents im Bi-sexual
I want to know how to tell my parents that i am bi. All my Friends know But no one in my family does so how do i break the news to them?
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Breaking the news to your parents that your bi can be hard. To start with, you need to put them in a good mood so they won't be so hard as to yell at your or kick you out or anything like that. Now hopefully they wouldn't kick you out anyway--but you need to do something that they will enjoy. Maybe that them out to eat or do a barbecue. To start with they may think something is up, so keep this going for about three or four days, and when they are in their best mood, let them know ahead of time that you don't mean to make them mad, and it's something you just havnt been able to control, then break it to them that your bi. It's best to start out saying you think your bi, that way their first reaction won't be "how could he choose to do this!!?" Instead it may be "I can't believe he's bi." Or something to that nature. Thy won't automatically jump on your case. On the bright side, your not actually gay, so your parents may think that you will still end up with a girl, and it will be easier for them.
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Not that it's a bad thing to keep it from them, but parents are parents and will tend to try to get you to conform to what their idea of a proper person is and that may include sexuality. Unless you have parents who are very open minded and constantly talking about any subject at all including sex around you, then go ahead and let them know.
Otherwise, There are parents who will automatically have negative reactions to anything regarding a childs gender id or sexual preferances being differeent from their own. They can claim to be open minded and may be with others but when it hits close to home as with a child, they can easily act differently. No reason to take that chance and have to face a hassle. If you want to tell them, do so when you are 18 or on your own already as an adult and let them know as you'll probably have both girlfriends and boyfriends to bring home for Thanksgiving and Christmas.
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To be honest with you at 16 years of age I would hold off telling your parents you are bisexual. Even telling your friends your bisexual was a bit premature.
It may very well be that you are bisexual and if you are there is nothing wrong with that. Some doctors and scientists are of the opinions that like Gays people that are bisexual are born this way. If you are truly bisexual you would have had these feelings long before you become sexually aware.
This is why I am saying you may be a bit premature in in labeling your sexuality. It is a rite of passage for teenagers as they become sexually aware daring puberty to experiment sexually with someone of their same sex. There are many different reasons for this among them are it is safer, parents do not questions two teenagers of the same sex being alone in the same room together or even sleeping in the same room together.
Fact is many parents try to forget that many if not most of us learned about sex thorough experimentation with the same sex. Now how far each of us went with these experimentations differs greatly depending on each of us and our partners we experimented with.
Before you tell your parents make sure you are truly bisexual. When you know for sure then embrace your sexuality for it is who you are. This will sound a little strange but; "You are who you are because you are who you are." as far as your sexuality goes you parents have nothing to do with how you ultimately manifest sexually as it is ingrained in you at conception. Remember that fact and try to calmly remind them of that fact when you do decide to tell them.
As to how to tell them? I have always found that being truthful and straight to the point is the best way. When the time is right sit them down and say; "Mom, dad I think you should know that I have found my sexuality to be bisexual." Then say no more and wait for their reaction.
I will offer this as well. If you know your parents to be avidly against homosexuality then it may be best to keep your sexuality in the closet. Why? As far as I'm concerned your sexuality is your business and given your parents feelings, if they are avidly against homosexuality. Then it is in your best interest to keep you sexuality unknown to them until you are old enough to move out and live on your own.
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Bake some kind of cookie, put the word "bi-sexual" iced on the cookie, go up to or gather your family around, make sure they read the cookie, and say, "you are what you eat," and then eat the cookie. If you don't like cookies, do some other dessert.
That's just one option, but there are others out there.
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