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What do I do?!?!
theres a guy that i really really like and ive know him for 3 years but im not sure if i dhould ask if he likes me, or how to say it. we do kind of flirt but i font know if ne really likes someone like me.
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While some guys might flirt for flirtings sake just cus its fun and not be into one girl, most will not flirt unless they are already interested to some degree.
I don't know how regularly you both talk or if you have each others cell numbers. If you haven't done anything in the 3 years conversation wise to get to know him better as a friend, then that is where you need to start.
Have a fun convo with him and at the end of it tell him you've always enjoyed talking with him and you'd like to switch cell numbers so you can do so more often. Then see where that leads you.
Or be more direct, if you have talked together a fair amountup til now, tell him that you enjoy his friendship, like the flirting and are beginning to develop stronger feelings for him and are wondering how he feels about you.
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It's the guys job to pursue the girl... not the other way around. I definitely think you shouldn't ask him if he likes you. Don't worry so much about trying to chase after people. People will come to you, when it's the right time. Don't try and make something happen, that shouldn't. Just focus on enjoying life and not getting caught up in trying to figure out who's interested in you and who isn't! If he likes you, then great! I'm sure he will make an effort to let you know! Hoped that I could help.
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Define 'someone like me'? Is there any reason why he should NOT like you? I'd guess over three years you'll have gathered a fair bit of info on each other? He's still flirting with you. Keep your eye out during these flirting sessions, soon as you see an opportunity to 'call his bluff'...CALL IT. There's always a bit of bluff, bit of 'cat and mouse' in flirting, right? Look him full in the eye and respond in a way that says 'OK...now what are you going to do about it?' Then let it go, let him think about it for a while. Next time you get together you'll almost certainly see a difference. Cooler, you've probably lost the gamble. His loss really, you did your bit. There'll be other guys. If he's keener? MUCH keener? You're IN! Roll the dice mate, it's the only way you'll find out. Big mistake for you girls to think guys are always the more confident. We have our fears and insecurities. About ourselves, our abilities, about how we come across, about asking girls out. Specially about asking girls out! We often need a bit of a push. Something to work with. Remember, full in the eye, cool and level relaxed look, massive dazzling smile. And whatever you say make it something he can't help but get the message that you're interested...loud and clear. Good luck. X
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Well it's always worth a shot to ask about it! But if you can't, maybe get a friend or someone to ask casually for you? Or you could just ask if he likes anyone, kind of hinting around and such. But you should definitely go for it!
Hope this helps~
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