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virginty loss for male
what is the fastest way i can lose my virginity i am a male
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If you're over 18-go to a club. There are many girls there looking for a hook up.
Um, could you please add your age because there are other ways but I don't want to say in case you're under age.
Then I'll answer your question better.
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It would help to know your age. If you are a young teenager the answer is slightly different than if you are a 40 year old virgin.
Today's definition of virginity is never having penis to vagina penetration. For a female this could also mean the loss of her Hymen if it is still intact. Also in a female first sexual penetration will most likely leave evidence, damage, to the vaginal walls after sexual contact.
For the male there is no Hymen to break and generally no evidence left behind to show that his penis has ever entered a vagina. In reality for the male all there is to losing ones virginity is having sexual contact with another person whether of the opposite or same sex.
One could say if you have received a blowjob or handjob from another you have already lost your virginity. If you want to stay true to the definition then you will need to find a willing female to have intercourse with.
Now if you are a young male, just entering puberty, which I believe you are. Having intercourse with someone is and should wait until you are much older for many reasons. The first and most important reasons are these. You are and most likely your partner are not mature enough to understand the consequences of the act. The girl even though she may have all the womanly curves of a female she is still developing her sexual organ. Sex for her at an early age will be at the very least painful if not impossible.
To answer your question: It all depends on your definition of virginity.
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To give you an answer, I must ask you a question first. I don't need you to answer me. Its just to give you another perspective.
At what point in our sexuality do we lose 'virginity'. Is it when we masturbate? When we have oral sex, or is it when we get to the penis in the vagina stage? Most will answer the last stage. Probably that is what you have in mind. If we really lose something called virginity at that exact point, and here's the big question....
at what point then do gay couples lose virginity, they either have 2 penis'es or 2 vagina's.
If penis-vag. sex is all that counts in our minds, does it make sense? If putting something into the vagina constitutes as a girl losing her virginity, then does she lose it when she uses a tampon the first time, or a dildo or vibrator? If a penis entering something is considered losing virginity, does he lose virginity if he enters an anus or anything vagina shaped that he can stick his dick in? See? Virginity is not a solid explainable word. It is not based in reality but on concepts created at a time when paternity tests were not yet known.
So in reality... we are not actually losing anything because once a person goes through puberty and the hormones are flowing, from those days onward, anything they experience sexually even masturbation is a part of ones sexual experience and sexual debut. You are not losing anything, but gaining experience along the way.
So the truthful answer is that you have already experienced your first step on your sexual discovery path, masturbation...so if you want, you may equate that with having lost your virginity.
If you are asking about any one part in particular, I think You'd have to spell out for me what it is you are thinking of so we can give you some of our thoughts on it. Because the sexual experiences have many stages, I can't assume which one you are at. If considering anything that requires a female partner, there is no fast way without complications.
I don't know your age so if under the legal age for consent in your state, even if you found a willing partner, if someone wanted to be nasty and exposed the fact you've had sex with a girl, there can be trouble for you. If older and the girl is too young, you can go to jail. If no protection is used, or only condoms are used, or if you figure to leave it to her to get her own protection and not discuss it first, then again, a whole sh*tload of possible scenerios could become your living nightmare.
You need to know your potential partner, know if she wants her sex partner to be someone who has deep feelings for her, loves her, or if she doesn't care and just wants sex for sex sake. Depending on where you're at, and since you want fast, may I assume you don't care if you have any feelings for her, you just want sex? If this is the case, it's not fair to pretend to love a girl to get sex for the first time. Find a partner who is okay with sex with no strings attached. But for this, you must have to have some conversations that have occurred with a female, in which this and birth control and any possible STI's STDs or herpes which the greater majority of people are now all carriers for...be discussed.
Even if there will be no penis-vag. sex but the plans are for lots of other play, blow jobs, fingering her, if any pre cum or cum gets near her vagina opening, or some may be on your or her fingers and that goes near or inside her, then the chances of pregnancy are greater if she's at that fertile time in her cycle at the same time.
So if you are not looking for a steady girlfriend, some one who could end up being your steady romance, love and sex partner, but just want to go for the one time big event of seeing what its all about, then I suggest you ask your male friends if they know of any girls who will have sex with no strings attached.
On the very slight chance that you are a much older male who has somehow gone years and years and still never had your first sexual encounter with a female, thats another story...to get past the stigma of your age and not having had penis-vag. sex yet, and past any possible fears, you may want to think of hiring a sex surrogate to help train and coach you.
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