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Why is my grandma racist? Is it because she isnt from this generation?
My grandmother is mexican and I think she is racist. She used to talk bad about my mom in spanish all of time. She stopped when she found out my mom speaks spanish and her and my mom have had arguments. She told my dad that she didn't want him to be with my mom because she's black. This just really bothers me. I don't like to be around her cause I think she's racist and she doesn't like my mom. I don't like to go to her house, but she is my grandma. Should I ignore her?
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Having a grandparent who wants to spend time with you is a wonderful thing. If shes not mistreating you, only be concerned about your relationship with her. You are part black, so it's highly unlikely that she really carrys any bad views about black people. Right from the start when your dad began to date or intend to marry she didn't like her and didn't want him to marry her. You weren't there then. So you can't know what was really said, whether she just didn't like your moms character or skin color.
If both your parents have told you or you over heard them mention the fact grandma actually did say she didn't like black people when she was first introduced to your mom, that may have been the case then but that may not be the case now that she has gotten to know your mom through being a part of the family. Lots of people have 'preconceived ideas' about someone different than them whether its color of their skin, their religion, their sexual orientation or preferance. But for many, once they get an opportunity to meet someone with one of those differences and really get to know them, they find the people is just as cool as them and there's nothing wrong or different about them at all. Out of embarrassment, some people would rather not bring up how they used to believe and how they now have changed but they just carry on without asking for forgiveness. Its not asking for forgiveness that shows they have accepted what they once shunned, it's how they now embrace it. Her and your mom may still not be very close or have much in common as people but that shouldnt stop you from enjoying grandma.
You have a wonderful Mexican heritage to learn about from her and have passed down to you. Take interest in her and her family background. Ask her questions and get to know her. What are some of her favorite family mexic an recipes. Would she teach them to you? Or show some other such personal interest in her. She may have some valuable things to teach you. Enjoy and learn while you can. Grandma won't be around forever. By time you're a grown up with a family of your own, likely grandma may not be around anymore.
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This is a really tough question to answer as there really is no answer as to why someone is a racist. There is no reason for racism today or yesterday but there is racism anyway.
To ignore your grandmother because you believe she is a racist would be wrong. To confront her and tell her she is a racist would also be wrong. As long as she is a loving grandmother and does not impose her view upon you or try to turn you against your mom; you should return the love she gives to you.
If lets say your grandma says something to you about the race of someone you're dating and indicates that it is wrong for you to date that person. Then it would be proper for you to tell her how you feel on the subject and why. Still you do not outwardly tell her she is wrong.
Times were much different when your grandmother was your age. Blacks and many Mexicans were looked at as one people. Because of this many Mexicans suffered as did the Blacks the humiliation of segregation that still existed in certain parts of the country.
It is wrong to judge a person by the color of their skin. All of us Black, White, Red, Yellow have all made important contributions to our freedoms and way of life in this country.
I do not at this moment remember the mans name though it was a black man who developed blood plasma. The lifesaving gift used in Emergency rooms around the world savings millions of lives each year. It were black men who escorted our bombers to Berlin when the white flyers turning back. There bravery helped shorten the war in Europe.
It was Native Americans in the Pacific talking in their native tongue that helped win the war in the Pacific. They were called the Code Breakers. The Japanese had never heard the native tongue of the American Indian which allowed these code breakers as they were called to relay messages in the clear, during battles between one another, eliminating the need to code and decode messages during the heat of a battle.
I have many more stories about people with different colored skin and their contributions. The moral of the story is that judging a whole group of people because the color of their skin does not match the color of your skin is wrong.
To ignore your grandmother because she has racist
views would be just as wrong.
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You defiantly shouldn't ignore your grandmother but it is something you both need to discuss. I have dealt with a racist grandmother before and I approached her and talk about it. Explain to her at the end of the day we all bleed the same color and look the same on the inside. Does you're grandma realize there are people racist against Mexicans? How does that make her feel? You have to put yourself in other peoples shoes to judge them
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