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I got in a fight with my stepdad
I got into a fight with me stepdad this afternoon. He really pissed me off and I freaked out and kicked at him and hit his stomach.
Now I'm afraid he will tell my mom when she gets home. What can I do?
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What you need to do is apologize.
I mean you shouldn't have kicked or hit him at all. That's wrong unless he was like hurting you by hitting you or something.
If he tells your mom, then you're just going to have to face the punishments. You learned your lesson that it's never right to hit or kick anyone ever no matter how angry they make you.
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The best, most wise, and most humble thing you can do is say sorry. Whether he does or does not tell your mother. We are all children to our parents and our elders. No matter what age a mistake can happen that we can learn from. Explaining that you have thought about your actions and even explaining that you have reached out for advice on how to mend the situation will show that you are being noble and true. Express yourself with the feelings of others in mind and you will be heard. Best of luck and keep your head up.
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This question needs some grandfatherly advise and since I am of that age I will of some.
To start with it is never right to hit someone which I believe you know that. So the first thing you need to do is to apologize to your step dad for getting so out of control. There is no other choice here, you were wrong to strike out at him unless it was in self-defense. If he was not trying to restrain you or hit you then you were wrong to kick at him.
Now for some additional advise. This man may not be you biological father though you are living in his home. He is supplying all of the things your biological father would be supplying if you lived with. You have food, clothing , shelter, medical and all the things a child needs growing up. For this alone he deserves your respect, he has earned that much.
Taking on the responsibilities of raising someone else's child is asking an awful lot of that person be it a man or a woman. He must love your mother very much and you in his own way love you too to marry into an instant family.
If there is a problem between you and him I suggest the two of you sit down and CALMLY DISCUSS WHAT IT OR THEY ARE. I don't know what the circumstances are as to how he became your step-father. If it is the result of your parents divorcing then remember one thing.
It takes two to tango. Meaning mom is just as culpable in why her marriage to your father failed. Your step-father may or may not have anything to do with your parents divorcing. If he didn't and this is one of the reasons behind you and he not getting alone. Then you are in the wrong.
I say this because this is why children of divorced parents and there step parents do not get along. You did not say what you fought about. Even so I can hear what you most likely said probably near the end before you kicked him. You said something like, "YOUR NOT MY FATHER, I DON'T HAVE TO LISTEN TO YOU." This probably hurt him more than the kick you hit him with.
Wrong on two counts. Just because he is not your biological father does not mean he is not raising you as a parent and father would. He is also an adult whose home you are living in which means you must give him the respect an adult deserves and listen to him as you would your mom or any other adult.
Now I've read a lot into a few small sentences that you wrote. I could be wrong about your relationship with your step-dad in which case everything I wrote is wrong, except the need to apologize for kicking him.
I've been writing on this site for a long time and do not think I am that far of base here. The best thing you can do for you and your mother is to settle things between you and your step-father. Talk to him, tell him and mom too if you think it will help what is bothering you.
Children do not come with owners manuals like a new car does. As parents we learn on the job. Your step-father, I would believe, has jumped in somewhere in the middle of your young years and has a learning curve to over come. Talking with him will help both of you.
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Nothing. The only way what you did would be considered okay is if were self defense from him attacking you which obviously this was not the case. And that's not incentive to lie about that, either.
You assaulted your stepdad, you should feel lucky he didn't call the police on you. "I freaked out" wouldn't cut it with the cops.
What you did isn't okay. At all. He's mostly going to tell your mother and there's nothing you can do about it. If he actually does keep quiet about it, well, that's that.
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