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When I go to school I go to the bathroom and wait until class starts. How do I make friends?
Someone help I just wanna have friends make new friends I barley am around people because usually stay home babysitting I can't go out on certain days. The people I babysit are my siblings so it no problem I just can't join any clubs in school because of it I just wish there was a way I could make friends that understand my babysitting situation. I love bing there for others and talking to people but when I arrive to school I can't socialize I usually go to the bathroom and wait till class starts :/ I also have a boyfriend he understands but he also doesn't have many friends. The friends I have don't really have that connection with me :/
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I'll be your friend ;) Aha. If you want to get closer to your friends i suggest you spend more time with them, talk to them more text IM Email Facebook whatever.Another way would be to make friends with their friends. When you are hanging out with them and someone you don't know comes along, talk to them. Introduce yourself of start out with a complement for example."Hey i like your__"Making new friends is stressful but easy. Sometimes the only thing you have to do it say "Hi!" I made most of my friends that way. Good luck sweetheart XOXOXO
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You need to get out of your comfort zone. I'm assuming you're shy and that's why you don't have many friends.
Either way, the way to make friends is to talk to people. You don't have to be in clubs or anything to have friends. I never was in any clubs but I still had so many friends. I met a lot of them in my classes. I'd start talking to one, become closer to them, start hanging out with them and meet their friends and become friends with them too.
So when you have an opportunity to talk to someone, take it.
Be nice, be kind, be friendly and you'll make some new friends. You just need to take some steps to get out of your comfort zone.
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I am not sure if it is shyness that keeps you from making friends or if it's something in your subconscious mind so I am uncertain what to tell you. You state you love being there for others and talking to people so apparently it's not really a problem with doing it, just how to get conversation started? If thats right, let me know, and I'll send a saved document on here about how to overcome shyness cus it covers the missing beginning steps.
Obviously, you know hiding in the bathroom isn't helping so you need to stop doing that, but replace it with what?
What you need to realize is that the friends that a person makes during their school years starts in the classroom, friends aren't usually first met and made outside the classroom. The activities outside of school or clubs where you might meet someone with same interests are not as a rule where all friends are met.
So you'll need to learn to do the best you can with the time you have. You've made friends but say there's no connection. I know what that means to me, but not sure what you mean by it. To me, a connection means having things in common. The way we find out if someone might have some things in common with us is to engage in conversation. If during conversation after a couple of tries you find its boring to talk to them or they seem bored or neither of you are finding some things in common, then it's not going to work, move on to the next person. An entire school of kids is not going to have no one else that you can click with. You don't need tons of friends, just a handful of true friends you get along great with such as I had in high school. I don't want to repeat stuff you're already doing but its not working. So if you write me and give more details of what you try and whats happening, perhaps I can help. I have learned how to go from shy
with troubles starting conversations, to being very outgoing.
I also had to babysit as a teenager and know what it feels like. I was first born so I was always going to be the oldest and so I was automatically the one the parents asked to watch the 3 younger siblings. When my sister two years younger than i,reached the age I was when I started babysitting, they still wanted me in charge. It was more out of habit. When you have a younger sibling reach legal age to babysit the rest, bring it up. I did. And when the parents realized I was right, I got my freedom to go hang out with friends while the younger sister watched over the last two. Good luck.
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