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Should i message this guy on Facebook?
Me and my neighbor started talking again like 3 weeks ago but we only talked like 3 times and then i went to his youth group and he totally ignored me. Should i message him on Facebook or should i just keep ignoring him like he is ignoring me? I was told to just send him "." and say it was on accident. Should i do that? o.O Also i like him and ive known him for about 8 years and we used to be best friends!
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There may be one or many reasons to why he has ignored you, you just don't know why.
Sending a "." can be a pretty obvious way of telling him that you acctually did mean to send him that message because it's just random and uncalled for.
Be straight-forward about the situation. Since you want to know why he has been ignoring you, simply ask.
You never know what is the responce that you're going to get. He might not tell you the truth, he might keep ignoring you (who knows for how long), or he might just have the courage to tell you why.
From the sound of it, you guys are pretty young. Sometimes the most simple situations get turned into complications because one or more people aren't mature enough to communicate with eachother.
Try talking to him and telling him how you feel about him and about the whole situation. If you notice that he continues to awkward just know that you guys are still young. He might be shy, he might not like you like you like him, or who knows.
Ask and you might find out exactly what you're trying to know.
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Well you don't know why he's ignoring you. You don't know if it was just a misunderstanding and he really didn't feel the need to speak to you or what. So you might want to clear that up first.
Whoever told you to send "." to him on Facebook, not a good idea at all. He'll most likely ignore that and you'll end up feeling stupid. Most won't try to have a conversation if you accidentally messaged them.
So if you want to talk to him, then talk to him. I do have to say that it's better to talk in person because there can be miscommunication through texts and the internet.
So if you want, talk to him in person to see how he's doing or maybe clear up that you wanted to know why he didn't talk to you at his youth group. Of course, maybe he didn't talk to you because you didn't talk to him.
Or you can just message him and say, "Hey, what's going on?" or something.
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Okay, some background information? When he ignores you does he go out of his way to ignore you? Is he talking with other girls or just seem to not even notice you? If he is going out of his way it's because he wants you to say something first he's kinda shy. If he is talking to other girls he is probably trying to make you jealous in which case I would move on. Who needs the games. If he is just totally not interested doing his own thing avoiding you he's not interested and you should move on as well. Don't play games though like the accidental message. It's a waste of time. I think I would tell him exactly how I felt and what I want out of the relationship. If he wants the same then great if not then move on. Trust me this time next year it'll be someone new no matter how you slice it. Your're too young to get tied down to any commitment. You need to experience life different friends personalities and see what matters to you most. Years down the line if it were meant to be you will end up together but you will both change so much from now until then.
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What a perfect opportunity to learn more about how guys think, what their actions or words actually mean to them, not how you guess at them or interpret them. A female is not going to know how to understand a guy automatically and the only place to really learn, is from a guy.
So tell him there's some things that in your mind you don't understand and since you've known each other a long time and been friendly, you want to ask him cus it might help you understand men better. What you are interpreting as him ignoring you may not be whats going on. There will be in his mind a different but logical reason for his actions that may or may not have anything to do with you.
Don't do any silly stuff on facebook.
Just ask him in person...he's a neighbor so it must be easy to go see him for a face to face chat.
Guys will eventually learn over time from girls what things they say or do that make a girl think they're made at you, tired of you, needing their space...etc... in the meanwhile the only way to know is ask.
Good luck.
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You never know why he's ignoring you. Maybe he's nervous. You should just be straight up. Talk to him like you;ve known him for 8 years. If you just send him "." he will think that you weren't trying to actually talk to him and maybe you don't want to talk to him.
Always be straight forward, don't be shy. A guy will appreciate someone that they can talk to openly much more than a girl that acts aloof or hard to get.
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I say go for it! but take it slow at first. Just try making initial contact but if he seems to go with it tell him you want to become friends again. I wish you luck!:)
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