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Stop being a wet lettuce?
17/f,
So I was wondering as I know it happens to everyone at some point, how do you like overcome getting talked/bitched about?
Today, theres this girl I knew from school a few years ago (we didn't even talk) and as soon as I sat on the computer next door but one to her in the library, she started OBVIOUSLY talking about me to her friend. Within a minute, I made sure I gave them a 'look' to know I knew they were talking about me, and I got up and went downstairs. When I got home I deleted her of my fb friends. But I don't know why she was bitching?
I can't ask her why, because she'll just get her friend to gang up on me, and I really really dont get on with her friend as it is-she always used to bully me. Incidently, after the computer thing I went to the toilets and cried my eyes out. So how do other people just 'get over' what other ppl say negativly about them?
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next time fart in her face when you walk off and tell her to go f*** herself...
people always going to try to drag you down, F*** em'. you dont need people like that in your life, ignore her and go about your buisness.
no more crying either, i used to draw pictures of people who bullied me. like them driving a car off a mtn, i dunno, whatever i wanted. it helped
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I agree with everyone else. Most people just don't get over what people say. I've cried plenty of times because of what people have said.
You just have to realize they're wasting their time talking about someone they hardly know.
You don't have to ask her, just find good friends and move on from this. That girl is most likely just jealous of something. Some people feel the need to talk down people to make themselves feel better. They really aren't worth your time and to show them that, ignore them and be happy around them.
When someone that you don't like is happy, it irritates you. So I suggest just let this go and make yourself feel better.
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Whatever it is that you do, have, or just are, they are obviously jealous of. So they feel the need to make you feel bad about yourself. Just remind yourself that whatever they say is only their opinion. They don't truly care about you if they talk about you and not to you about something they want you to change.
Just remind yourself that after these years that you have with them, you will MOST LIKELY never see them again in your life. It's pointless to keep letting them be your jury.
Form a soundproof bubble around yourself that only lets in people that are trying to help (teachers, parents, GOOD friends) and forget about them. They're irrelevant.
And next time, instead of showing them that they bother you (giving them a look) just turn around and smile, or smile and shake your head as if you pity them. Because you should, they are irrelevant after all.
Keep your head up.
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There is no reason to ask two people, who don't know or give a shit about, what or why they were saying about you.
So don't stress about that: You are right. You can't really ask her why she was bitching. The only thing you can do is be the bigger person and let it go.
The truth is this: Very few people 'just get over it' when others say nasty things. Most of us cry it out in the bathroom sometimes, even as adults. It doesn't make you weak (giving in and trying to be a bitch or a bully back at her THAT makes you weak, cause she's way better at it than you are.)
So don't give yourself such a hard time. If the bullying crosses the line to you getting ganged up on again, take it to a teacher. If it's just nasty whispers, take a deep breath, cry it out if you need too, and keep on learning how to let it go.
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