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Never had first kiss, hugged a boy, dated, nothing! bad?
im 13/f, im 85 pounds, and i can call myself pretty(: its okay to think your pretty and fit right? Never have i ever hugged a cute boy, dated, had my first kiss, made out, lost my virginity, humped, nothing! is that bad? im 14 in 5 months. i feel like everyone has! especially dated, hugged, or had their first kiss! i havent, is that bad? plus my parents are super awkward, and i would never talk about boys in front of them. if i dated though, it would be a secret. should i be worried?
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Im 13/f too! Its ok if you have never hugged, dated, kissed, ect. You arent alone. I just got my first boyfriend and we've only hugged a couple of times. Dont worry about other people, you will get to one day :) Dont be worried about anything, I definatly would say its good that you havent lost virginity yet :/ Lol, you will have your first boyfriend, kiss, and hug with a guy soon. Or, you could maybe get a good guy friend and hug him. Either way, good luck :)
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Your more normal than your friends are. Most of whom are doing more bragging than actually doing. This is normal for many teenagers your age; to brag about doing things they haven't actually done that is.
Your 13, you have just entered your teenage years give yourself to grow, mature and experience the world around you. Most of us didn't just jump in the pool and start swimming, we had to learn how. Dating, kissing and sex all have a proper time and place which is different for all of us.
You say your parents are super awkward and if you dated you would keep that a secret. I have to advice against that as it is not safe for you to do so. As a parent and someone old enough to be your grandparent it is extremely important that parents know where their children are and with whom they are with, especially with their daughters. This is for your safety.
If you feel that their awkwardness is over the issue of dating I have to confess that I too would be very restrictive on this issue at your age. As I said above you just can't jump into the pool. Group dating such as mall dating and group movie dating or bowling and ice skating in groups would have to come first. Their is safety in numbers.
It is not that you parents or I do not trust our children. We don't know the boys therefore if we are going to error we will do so on the side of safety. So so will give you a chance to learn what dating is all about by being restrictive in how, when and where you may socialize or date. Yes there is a double standard here. A daughter will always be her fathers little girl even when she is married and has children of her own.
As for sex; that is a whole other subject. Something I would hope you put off doing until your older and much more mature than you are know. Your body may be capable of adult sexual relations. But your body and you have not matured to the point of being ready for sex. As I said this is another subject. One I would be glad to discus with you in another message.
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DO NOT WORRY! I am also 13 (14 next month) and I have not had my first kiss, made out, lost my virginity or humped. I do have a boyfriend of 2 years and all we have really done is held hands and hugged, trust me it may seem like fun to have a boyfriend but it is so much easier being single. You may seem like the odd one out when it comes to it but when those things happen for you it will be so much more special and meaningful BECAUSE you have not done them before. I know personally how it feels with awkward parents, but DO NOT keep a boyfriend from them! If you do that they WILL find out, they always do and that will lead you nowhere. If it comes down to it, I know it seems hard, but talk to your parents, see where they stand, trust me it IS important and DO NOT over think the situation! You do not NEED a boyfriend, it is not an obligation for you, no matter what people say. If you like a guy and want to date him by all means go ahead, but if you are not ready for any of it then do not do it just to fit in. And, unless your hugs are tight and sexual, hugging is not really something to worry about AT ALL. Keep your head up and remember STOP WORRYING AND DO NOT OVER THINK IT!!!
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Nothing to worry about dearie. Don't be in a hurry to grow up. Enjoy your youth while you still have it. When you hit high school I am sure you'll tons of boyfriends.
xoxo,
dottie4
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You are only 13, No there is nothing wrong with you, No there is nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about.
Also to put it out there, Looks have absolutely nothing to do with dating. It doesn't matter if you are yellow, purple or if you look like Kermit the frog when it comes down to being with someone it's about who makes you happy and who accepts you for who you are as a person. It WILL happen but you can't be desperate about it because desperation isn't how you find the real thing. I didn't find my first until I was 17, Does that mean it was a bad thing? Nope not at all. It saved me heartaches, It saved me regrets and it saved me drama! but you know what else? It eventually happened and it did when I no intentions of finding anyone. I know this isn't what you want to hear but in a way be thankful you don't have it yet because sweetie nowadays it's all about peer pressure and manipulation. Not about just having fun, Being yourself and getting to know each other. Sex is NOT everything in a relationship! and having children at such a young age is nothing at all to be proud of. I'm not saying this would happen but the possibilities are so high nowadays with the younger generation. When people think they are in love they end up being under the influence. No, You shouldn't be worried. You are normal! You still have all your teen years ahead of you and when the time is right I promise you will find someone but please please don't rush things. There is no need for it
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