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I hate school.
Ugh. The same old A+ staring back at me. No one to talk to except a stray piece of paper, or a napkin; something that will listen. As a kid I would talk to a ragged teddy bear, which got lost. Everyone hates me. If I start a conversation or try to join one, they move away, wrinkling their noses. Is it really my fault that at eleven-almost-twelve I have the worst complexion in the world, along with the facts that I'm twice their height, can't play sports, and am just a failure. I can't even swim! Everyone believes that I'm not getting picked on just because I'm tall! Tall people can get picked on just as much as short people. I've been so stressed lately, and my dad wants me to be perfect. And then last week I got a C-! I've been too afraid to tell anyone. My life is a train wreck.
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duude. i totally know how you feel! not even kidding!!!!!!!! I'm actually older than yhu, i'm 14 almost 15. But nothings really changed for me since i was 11-12. Everyone at my school hates me too. They think i am emo, goth, or just a freak in general. I can totally relate. Also, i have acne too. like mild. but still. I'm average height, but i used to be one of the tallest kids in my class. I feel like a total failure at times too. I've attempted suicide because of it. I fail at swimming! like epicly! i'm not straight A's, but i generally get A's and B's. And as for the whole "Nobody listens to me or will talk to me" I know what; that's like. If yhu ever need someone to listen to yhu, juust know that i am here. NOT TRYING TO BE CREEPY!!!!!!!!!!!!! so if yhu ever need to tlk my email is delasaurusrexcheetos@yahoo.com
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Unfortunately, adolescence for some kids can be a very difficult ride indeed. What is especially frustrating is that for all the bs that some children experience as teenagers, after you become an adult none of that will matter.
Here is what is going on: teenagers are bundles of insecurity. And boys are all about domination. So since all boys want to be top dog and don't want to be seen as weak, they project that on weaker, gawkier kids by harassing them. It's really just a sign of insecurity and mental weakness on the bully's part. Not your fault. You can even use it as motivation to do well in school and then it may be that one day your tormentors might have to come to you begging for a job when you're running a big firm.
Bill Gates was a major weakling nerd, the multimillionaire radio personality Howard Stern was about as unpopular as bubonic plague when he was a schoolboy, Ann Wilson, the lead singer of Heart, was a fat kid and a loner in high school and Colonel Sanders was a huge failure, couldn't do jack right, before he hit it big with a chicken recipe in his elder years. Dave Mustaine (Megadeth) and James Hetfield (Metallica) had parents who were majorly screwed up in the head and both were abused as kids. Winston Churchill was pretty hopeless as a schoolboy, too.
So don't get caught up in the horsecrap. Step back emotionally from it and look at things in the longterm. You'll fill out physically and get stronger. The pimples will disappear. Your understanding of the world and how people work will deepen. Thus, better times ahead as long as you keep your eyes on the prize.
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I relate to being the giant oak tree among the saplings that were my peers. As for the complexion issue, you may be eating something that is aggravating it. In my case, back in the day, I stopped drinking milk and my complexion improved dramatically. Not saying that is a sure thing for you, but it is one of many things to cut out of your diet and see the result.
As for not being able to play sports, why is that? Are you disabled, or have you just not learned yet? I basically got conned into playing sports by a coach that heard me saying what you are saying. Wrestling and football were both fun to learn. Bug as you are, there will not be very many people in your wrestling division, which is nice, if you should decide to go out for it.
As for the "everyone hates me" syndrome... well, it isn't true. The people that you WANT to like you may not be giving you much love, but there are other people out there.
Sounds like a broken record, but it is very true: anyone who doesn't want to be around you due to a complexion issue... is NOBODY you need in your life anyway.
Keep your nose in the books, and soon enough they will all be coming to you for a job anyway. :-)
Oh, you aren't the only one who waited until later in life to learn to swim. It can still happen.
Train wreck? I think not. Proper use of a semi-colon indicates you have a bright future. :-) I know it is a very hard thing to take when you are young and people treat you badly for the stupidest reasons, but it does get better.
If I could go back in time and give myself advice, it would be this: Join the chess club ASAP, get into debate and forensic speech the first day they are available to you... and unless you are crippled, you CAN play a sport.
Getting over the embarrassment of not instantly being good at something is the only thing holding you back from getting what you want out of life.
You are obviously a bright person, and so I know this will make sense to you: When you have a brain that makes many things easy for you... the first time you run into something that isn't instantly easy for you, it can be crushing. You are like: "Everything else comes easy, but I can't do this!"
... and then you give up. Big mistake. Tough it out and you will have one of the most important skills for overcoming the problems that are headed your way. What skill, you say? Perseverance. Trust me when I say the ability to persevere when all others give up will go further toward your success that just about anything else.
Good luck to you, and when you are old enough to have an advice column here, I hope you will return and start one. I have a feeling that you are going to have a lot to offer the world.
If you have other questions, feel free to ask me.
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I'm 15 and just getting to the end of my school career.
When i was your age, about 12, I too found it hard to fit in.
I think the big thing you could be experiencing is insecurity. I had it to.
It occurs commonly in people during their adolencent years, and it's because loads of changes are happening. And you feel like everyone hates you, you feel like you'll never fit in.
The thing is, if you feel this way then you clearly don't like yourself. And how can you expect people to like you, when you don't even like yourself?
You need time to find out who you really are. Just think, what do you want to become/do with your life, and what aprts of you do you LIKE? Write down also anything anyone has said to you thats nice, and read it when you have a bad day. Seriously though, school is a short part of your life.
I spent the years from being 11 to being 14 really hating school, hating the people, hating the teachers blah blah blah. But now, with one month left, i actually am sad to leave. The point of that was to say that don't waste away your younger years CARING what people think of you. you'll regret it.
If the worst comes to the worst, make friends with any new people that join the school, that way you'll be popular, as you'll appear to be welcoming and approachable. Good luck :)
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While school for me was several decades ago I can remember what it was like to be tall, awkward and uncoordinated. I felt awkward and uncoordinated which made it worse and I refused to do anything that might help me. I was so tall that the basketball coach wanted me on the basketball team in the worst way. He promised me he could teach me how to play. I should have listened to him. Hindsight is very clear.
There are things you can do to overcome your awkwardness; dance lessons are one way. Don't laugh, NFL teams use ballet classes to help improve certain moves on the field.
As for your complexion: When I was your age there was not much doctors could do for those of us with skin problems. Today modern medicine can and has helped many teenagers. Part of the problem with teenage skin problems is linked to the hormonal eruptions taking place as you go through puberty. Today a trained Dermatologist may be able to help you. If you have not seen a Dermatologist ask your parents if they will make arrangements for you to see one. Many of the insurance programs employers supply will cover a dermatology visit. Ask your parents to check their policy.
Now for the C-: You did not say what subject this was in, if it was a subject you are generally good in, was a pop quiz; were not feeling well that day or if you were just caught unprepared. Did something happen in the hallway between classes to distract you from the task at hand such as being picked upon. What I'm getting at is there is usually a good reason why a generally good student gets a poor grade. On the bright side a C- is not a failing grade and will not effect your overall average, for that class/subject, as badly as an F would have.
Just be honest with your dad as to why this grade may have happened. If this was a test or a pop quiz talk to your teacher, if you were distracted by an incident prior to class tell the teacher. Ask if a make up quiz/test is possible or if you can do an extra credit assignment to improve the grade.
The world is only a train-wreck if you let it be. Be proactive and find ways to improve the things about yourself that you find are holding you back. Ask for help; I have found that people like to help and like to teach. They are just waiting for someone to ask them.
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