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Im A First Timer! I Just Have Some Questions.
Hey(: So I Dont Really Want A Lecture On This Question. But, Im sixteen, and My boyfriend and I have been talking about having sex. We both decided that we want to do it. And Im Aware of all the precautions I need to take already. But i have several questions. Like, will it hurt really bad if i can only fit two fingers while fingering? Does the amount of bleeding just make the situation gross? If Neither of us orgasm, how do we know when were done? And Also, How Long do i need to be on birth control before its save to have sex? (we are also using a condom, dont worry)
Thanks(:
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It will hurt the first time but that normal. It' just the vagina stretching for him and your hymen breaking. The pain is rather easy to handle if you are aroused enough. I don't know about the birth control, talk to the doctor, but a condoms are very good. You may not orgasm the first time but try find different positions that will help to stimulate your self. He should ejaculate when he orgasms. Hope this helps you. Good Luck!! Have fun!! and good work on wanting to be informed before you do this. :)
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four fingers would be horrible! try one, and get him to be very gentle. And have him clip his nails, and wash his penis before you go anywhere near it.
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I would wait at least a week after taking birth control before having sex. If you've played with any toys at home (a vibrator or candle), you've probably already broken your hymen and won't have to worry about any blood. Even if you do, it's very minimal. Depending on how large his penis is, will probably determine on how much it hurts. Whatever his size, make sure he goes very slow for the first few minutes. Lots of kissing and touching before he enters you, will help get you excited, which will help lubricate your vagina. I rarely orgasm just from vaginal sex, so more than likely, you won't either. If you really want to have the big O, you may want to rub your clit while he's inside of you. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Well I was 16 when I lost my virginity and I took care of myself although I wasn't on birth control so I couldn't tell you for sure how long you can wait. Also sex for the first couple times hurts its natural and when you bleed you wont know until your done I mean you don't really bleed all that much so I don't think that it will make it weird or anything. It's only like spotting, or there could be a chance that you don't bleed I only say that because I didn't. Finally about the orgasm thing hmmmmm...well if you don't I know for sure will and just because you or he orgasms it doesn't nesassarily mean taht your done. Well my boyfriend keeps going after we both you know...anyways I guess what I'm trying to say is that you guys will both know your done when you get tired or just want to stop. Unless you just want a quicky..that is a different story...well I hope I helped you gain a liittle knowledge.=)
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Hi, I'm old enough to be your grandfather and NO I'm not going to lecture you. It is questions like yours that I have chosen to be an advisor on this site. I would rather you get the right information to questions like yours then learn the wrong information off the street as we said back in my day.
You are not the first young lady to write us with questions such as you have. At the end of what I am going to say to you I will provide a link to a website I have found and recommended to other young lady's such as yourself. I believe this site will answer all the questions you have asked except one.
Regarding how long you need to be on birth control: You should confirm this with your doctor; but it is my understanding that birth control pills become effective after the first 30 days of use.
Now I do have a lecture in me but it is not the one You think it is. IF you are truly ready for sex then there are a few other things you need to know and consider.
There is a big difference in how men and women enjoy sex. For the man is mostly a mechanical function, especially at your ages. Right now you boyfriend is programed to mate and release the pent up sexual urges he has. Masturbation, HJs, BJs will give him the same relief and satisfaction of intercourse although not the bragging rights. Boys his age very much confuse lust for love.
For the women, this includes girls your age, there has to be an element of love, trust and respect. Women do not generally jump from bed to bed as some men do.
A women also needs to feel safe, secure and comfortable in her surroundings when having sex. Back in my day the back seat of our parents car is where most of us lost are virginity's. It was great for the guys; I have come to learn it was anything but beautiful for the girls.
So when you and your boyfriend decide on the night to make love for the first time; make sure it is someplace you will not be disturbed, has a lock on the door and is a comfortable place preferably a bed.
Next you more than him need to be excited, meaning sexually. This means you need foreplay to get you ready. The more foreplay the less it will hurt the first time for the more lubricated you will be. The guy needs little or no foreplay all he really needs is to see you naked and he can do that mentally as well.
Communication is a big part of sex and it starts with understanding No means NO and stop means STOP. The nice thing about sex is learning about each others likes and dislikes. Exploring each others bodies. Sex should never be rushed.
If this your guys first time as well as yours give him a BJ or HJ so he last longer once you have intercourse. End of lecture.
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