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Nervousness-- wanting confidence
So here's my question... im a girl and im 16, but for some reason i am very nervous about doing things with this guy i like in school. We always talk about doing stuff and having sex. I asked this question before and i got an answer saying watch some porn videos... well i did and im still nervous because they are pro. How do I boost my seflesteem so i can actually do what i say i want to do? And im not looking for an answer that says do what's conftorable or if youre not ready dont do it. Im not looking for those answers. I want to do stuff with him but im scared, how do i become unscared?
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First time experiences are often difficult to face. If you're not sure about something like sex, stop and take time to understand it more. I know you didn't ask for that right off the bat, but understanding sexuality is the first step to embracing it.
Alright, so what about sex do you want to understand? Chances are you havn't seen a while lot of penis, and he sounds eager enough to help rectify that, so ask him to whip it out so you can explore how it works. He's eager, and you're eager, so get to know sexuality better. Is it warm? How does it feel? Learn those things for yourself.
And let him learn about you and how you work. You might discover some things about yourself during those missions, and as you become more acquainted with each others plumbing, you'll probably get over that stage fright.
Finally, remember that the people who perform in porn videos are experts at what they do. They're actors, and many have had all kinds of operations done to perfect their bodies in areas that make them desirable to watch. Boob jobs, workouts, and the 36" dongs that swing in the breeze like the pendulum of a grandfather clock and shoot gallon-sized loads all over... I think you get the idea... anyway, they represent a small subset of people that knock boots. Watch them like you watch a pro basketball game before you play basketball with your friends.
Oh, and always keep a rubber on stand-by.
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There is no way to get over your fear, other than to face it head on. Even then, you're still scared. Pool Think about it that way. You go to the swimming pool, and you just put your feet in first, its cold. That keeps you from wanting to go in even further, but without going in further how we will really enjoy ourselves? That feeling holds us back, keeping us from going further. Causing you to get out. So, instead of slowly entering, just jump in head first. In the end, you'll feel better (I'm talking about self satisfaction, getting over fears, regardless of the outcome)
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what is it your worried about? your body? not knowing what your doing? if its your body try doing it in the dark and doing easier stuff like casual. if its not knowing what your doing, to be honest not many people really do. its gonna be your first time make it fun.hes possibly just a nervous as you.its normal.
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I remember being 16 and having the same feelings ... I lost my virginity when I was 16, I was so scared I was mostly worried about not knowing what I was doing ..
Its going to be weard at first because you really don't what you are suppose to do . I mean I don't think u should do it just yet . But I guess that's something you have to fiend out for your self ..
Make sure what ever it is you do , you use protection .
Btw I don't think porn is the answer ...
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You really dont become unscared. Since you are ready, you just have to do it. Then you won't be scared anymore. The first time I had sex, Me and my boyfriend had been together for 6 months and i was still really nervous about it. Its just something you learn while you go. Trust me, the guy has more to worry about than the girl anyways. You both will be nervous but it will pass
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well it'll help a lot if you tell this guy about it that way he's aware and he'll make you feel a lot more comfortable and he'll really appreciate it but if you don't want to do that when the time comes you'll see that it just comes naturally and you are comfortable with your partner but whatever you do don't try too hard this could mess things up you could also try speaking to one of your girlfriends who did this before and are experienced i'm sure they'll help
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You have to realize why it is you're scared. You said you didn't want these answers but you're probably scared because you aren't ready. However, it's your decision and if you still want to do it that's on you. Just remember you can't undo sex. Try talking to him about it. Talk about what he wants to do and what you want to do. If you're shy around him, not sure why you'd want to have sex with him. Be smart and at least use protection.
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