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I want my best friend....bad
18/m my best friend is 17/f
Ok, so basically...I have a crush on my best friend. I don't know what to do. But there's more. She has a boyfriend that she really likes...I'm leaving for college soon...we've been over this before and she said no....AAHHHH!!!! I have no idea how to deal with this anymore. I've tried just playing nice and ignoring how I feel about her, but I can't control it. It really bothers me anytime she talks about him and how much I need to meet him and stuff. I don't know. Any advice is welcome, and if anyone has any questions, just ask me, I'm not too sure what else needs to be put. Thanks guys and gals
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You're in the friend zone, with no way out.
Your first mistake was being her friend and "playing nice".
Guys always get trapped in the friend zone by being too nice to girls and telling them they like them, instead of showing them.
She has a boyfriend and she's not interested.
Accepting that is the easy part.
Now you have to change. Don't "play nice" anymore.
Girls dont like guys who are like little brothers.
Girls like guys who are confident and independent.
Flirt with girls after you meet them. You have to make the first move, and not wait around hoping something will happen.
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As much as it hurts, this is actually an easy question to answer. Note that I did not say that the answer would be easy to DO. You are going away to college. The distance and lack of proximity to her is most certainly going to take it's toll. You have to approach it like any loss and allow yourself to grieve. Whatever that means to you and whatever that entails, do it. Do not hold it in. Any one who says real men don't cry is an idiot and they have no clue as to what a REAL man is. Allow yourself to submerge yourself into grieving. Eventually, minute by minute, day by day,month by month the pain WILL go away. At this point you are ready to make yourself emotionally available to other women without carrying the "baggage" into a new relationship and having it sabotage the new relationship. Do NOT bother looking for a girl during this phase. Sincerely....don't look for another girl at all. I do not know why it is....some people say it is the confidence you exude when you do not appear needy to women....but it really is true and works like a charm. Don't even think about looking for another girl. Women DO NOT want a man that is needy and clingy. They want a man that is confident in himself and can provide the feeling of safety and security for them all while being their equal. (I never said it would be easy, lol)You are going to make it past this I promise. And you are going to find someone that is going to be emotionally available and whom you believe is the most wonderful woman in the world. You have a lot of living to do my friend. Don't tie yourself down needlessly by self pity and the heartache of "what could have been". Your whole life is out in front of you. Grab it and hold on with both hands! It is going to be a wild and awesome ride! Take good care of yourself.
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I would also say back off a little if she is not interested and has a boyfriend. Go off to college get some new experiences. It is way different from high school. You may even meet someone there who you like even more! Good luck!
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This kinda stuff happens all the time, one best friend developing a crush on the other person who is usually taken. First lemme just say that don't feel bad about being attracted to her because who people like is usually a feeling that cannot be controlled, literally. I mean attraction can be explained in terms of science and once your genetics lock onto someone it can be tough to get rid of. What you can control is how you react to these feelings. If you wanna get over her find another girl you like better. Trust me when I say if you look you might be surprised who else you like. Once you transfer your feelings you can go back to being friends with your crush because it won't hurt when she talks about her bf. If not your just gonna be pained by that fact.
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this is a tough one you are in a bad situatiion its hard to really be in love or like with someone and the don't feel the same way you might feel rejected and feel like you can treat her so much better. But its time for some tough love you have to move on she is not into you in that was.
did you tell her that you liked her? What did she say. I you told her and she played it off like she doesen't want to deal with it right now you need to back off. You said that you can't help loving her and seeing them together pisses you off so you must let time heel. Don't hang around her too mcuh but at the same time don't be mean about it. stay away for awhile and in time you will get over her.
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