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Another stupid boyfriend question..
Hey, i was the girl that asked this question - [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
Well, now ryan is complaining that i have been hooking up with half of the guys in my school, which isnt true at all. i have only hooked up with about 8 guys since he has broken up with me. and most of them out of depression.. he starts SCREAMING at me, that im a slut.
i didnt state this in my last question but i am 16 and i am a sophmore, and he is 18 and is a senior.
Ryan-
lol ur rediculous....go ahead hook up with every1 and be slut
he imed that to me this morning on ichat. i got a text from him at 1 am last night
"Ryan- soo.. you hook up with jake 45 minutes after i broke up with you. coool."
like, mature much?
heres another one-- ryan: "you say you wanna get back together. you say your waiting. but all i see is you hooking up with one guy after the other. i dont like being lied to. ontop of that, you get mad and upset whenever you hear im getting with someone else.. when your getting with like half the school."
me: "im not getting with half the school. i cant talk now im out with people"
ryan: "laura, dont even try to deny anything. just stop lying its pathetic. have fun mackin it with whoever you are with."
me: "erite,, maybe i will"
ryan: "goodbye"
me: "oh, im pretty sure i never said i was waiting, i said the opposite. and then im pretty sure you were never going to ask for me backkk sooo... whatever"
ryan: "maybe i was... ever think of that?"
me: "HAHAHA nope"
he texts me later that night
ryan: "im gunna ask you something right now, and if you dont answer it truthfully ill know. dont bother trying to cover your ass so im not mad.. because if you lie i promise you its over for good and ill never talk to you ever again. just tell me the truth and maybe ill still talk to you. how many people have you hooked up with since we broke up?"
me: i told you.. im over my texting. call me if you care that much.
ryan: for 50 cents i think this is worth it.
me: alright.. 5 or 6... maybe 8 guys..
ryan: why do you find it necessiary to lie to me?
me: im not....
ryan: cuz i remember asking you 10 mins ago and you said HAAHA no. this right here laura.. is why we cant get back together anytime soon. all i keep hearing is im sorry. and you lying constantly.
me: well, sory is all i can say at this point. you have NO buisness in who im with and shit now, you broke up with me.
ryan: you act like i dumped you for no reason. i was always willing to work things out. and one thing led to another and you hook up with all of these people and tell me all these lies. blah blah blah. apparently you had other plans.."
today. my friend katie calls me up and says "ryan had sex with the girl he cheated on you with"
i go.. really? tahts cool. i dont care. i dont have the tears for it anymore. i dont know how. i just dont... it doesnt hurt me anymore. he is yelling at ME for hooking up with guys.. HOOKING UP? i should punch him in the face for having sex with that girl!
he texts my firend christie saying "BEING SINGLE IS AMAZING I CAN FUCK WHOEVER I WANT! i had no idea what i was missing. im sooo glad i broke up with her." ...immature much? he knew i was with her, thankfully i just droppd her off at her house 10 mins before he texted her....
i dont know what to say to him. but i want to make a closure... a nice, straight forward, a little bit bitchy closure. i deleted him off of facebook already... so, thats a start. i think im just gunna make a huge closure. but i need your help...telling him that i am done.
thank you in advance! :) <3
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Alright, I say just go up to him and yell maddly something like “I'M THE SLUT, YEAH RIGHT! I KNOW WHAT YOU DID YOU B****! YOU HAVE NO F***ING RIGHT TO BE MAD AT ME I'M NOT THE ONE WHO CHEATED! WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE, PRINCE CHARMING? GET A GRIP! DO YOU EVEN REALIZE WHAT YOU'RE DOING WITH YOUR LIFE?! AND YOU STILL YELL AT ME FOR TRING TO GET OVER YOUR A$$ FOR LIEING TO ME!!” maybe kick him were the sun don't shine....Sorry if that was to bitchy ,but I'd thought my advice would be as good as it was before. Stick it to him good!
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Wow, seems like things changed since your last question. I went through this with my ex, but he was the one acting like you're acting. You seriously think 8 people isn't a lot? If you actually liked him you would be with none. You don't hook up because of depression. That's just not right. You seriously remind me of my ex. I still liked him at first, after we first broke up. But he kept dating random girls because he was 'lonely' and that would piss me off so bad. I didn't expect him to wait for me, I was just waiting things out to see if he really cared and what he would do. But he went and dated those girls. So I can totally see where this Ryan guy is coming from. You say you want closure, but trust me, there won't be closure for a long time. You can't force closure. Eventually, if you and him stop talking and fighting, things will calm down. Closure comes when you least expect it. To SAY you're done, and to BE done, are two different things. Just ignore him for a little while, and you will start to drift away from him, because you are in no way ready for a serious relationship.
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just tell him you are shutting him out of your life. delete his number, as a start, and dont answer any of his texts, ims emails ect... but dont make a public scene or say anything really obviously rude when you are telling him to fuck off...be really polite. if you continue with those types, you will have nothing but problems. that should be obvious.
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When I was answering your first question, I thought Ryan could eventually turn out to be a nice guy. Now it seems that is very unlikely to happen. I think you are being too serious about someone who does not deserve you. The text message that he sent to your friend Christie (I am assuming he really texted that and he meant what he texted), only shows his low grade mentality. I don't understand why you are so mad about him. You’re faltering constantly before your emotions. Please don't do that. I am alright with your nice, straightforward, and to some extent huge closure (ONLY IF YOU CAN SAY HIM PROPERLY) but I am not so convinced about being bitchy (I don't know what you meant by being bitchy). I think you should simply let him know that you have had enough of it and you are no longer interested in maintaining a relationship with him. I guess that should be more than enough. It is not really important for you to end this relationship with a huge closure but what is important is whether you have taken a lesson from the mistake you have made. From next time, choose the right person. If you are wondering, how you will know whether the person is right or not, well, it is very easy. Simply AVOID BEING PHISICALLY INVOLVED (as I mentioned in my previous answer). If you like someone and he likes you truly, he will be with you whether you have sex with him or not. Otherwise you will end up being used only for sex purpose (I am not being harsh to you but only telling you what I understand the truth to be). Hope that helps and may God bless you.
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well first of all your boyfriends seems like an asshole.
good for u to be mad at him!
you should say something like " well maybe i hooked up witha few people AFTER we broke up but at least i didnt have sex WHILE we were going out so screw u. "
HAHAHAHAA
goood luck!
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ok, i'm very glad you took the first step having him removed from your life. but remember, YOUR leaving HIM! make it short and sweet. tell him you for the last time you havent slept with the entire nation and that he's a senior and he really needs to take a midol and move on with his life! he will never have a steady relationship if continues to behave the way he does, and after he leaves you can live your life right and that he was obviously a mistake. the final goodbye and your all set
hope this helps
good luck! and congrats on leaving the loser
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