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Asking Girls out right/wrong way
I'm really like this girl who is in my school ok but I'm really nervous to ask her out as i dont know her and im not in her class.So I was thinking of getting my cousin to do it as he is in her class and I was wondering to girls find that a bit weird.SO MY QUESTION IS DO GIRLS HATE IT WHEN SOMEONE GETS THEIR FRIEND TO ASK THEM OUT FOR THEM?
(I wouldn't do it myself as i couldn't stand getting rejected like that)
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You dont know her and you're not in her class, but you want to ask her out? No sir.
You need to get to know the girl first, build some interest, even see if YOU like her personality or find her annoying as hell. After that point you should ask her out.
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never send someone else to do the dirty work. It feels impersonal to the girl. what you can do because of your fear of rejection is to have your cousin find out if the girl likes you. Then take id from there. if she's into you you can ask her out without fear of rejection. If she's not you save yourslef the heartache and fine someone new. Let me know if this helps!
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Never go through someone else and stay away from lines. I'll give you an idea of how to approach this. Common ground would be so useful here, if you know of someway to get that, maybe an interest of hers, or a place she likes to go. Make eye contact, it is very important that you don't sneak up on her. When you reach her, introduce yourself and remind her you go to school together. Tell her you don't have any classes together or anything, so you have no way to get to know her and you sure would like too. Ask her if she would care to go out, or if maybe there was a shared activity she liked where you could get to know each other better. The mistake we often make is going all or nothing, letting her have options, lets her feel in control and safe.
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Honestly? Yeah, it's kind of lame when guys have their friends ask you out.
When you ask a girl out yourself, not only are you obviously expressing interest in her, but showing that you're CONFIDENT enough to act on it. And if you get rejected, who cares? If the girl can't see what an awesome guy you are, chances are she isn't worth it anyways. And there are plenty of other fish in the sea :]
-Laura (16-f)
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I'm 14/f/freshman
I think its weird. The friend isn't the one who is going out with her. This is what I would do:
Get your cosin to ask her to hang out, tell her to bring a bunch of friends and he will to. Then you come, spend time with her talk to her get a connection. (By the way the question sounds, you havn't talked to her? You don't want to ask her out before you've talked because then how are you going to talk while going out, understand?) If you havn't talked then keep hanging out and spending time together.
Then on like the 3rd or 4th hang out ask her out just be like I really like you and i was wondering if you wanted to be my girlfriend. You could even have you cosin drop hints before it happens so he can find out if she'll say yes or no.
Your cosin could ask her after the 2nd hangout if she likes anyone and just be like i know someone who likes you. And maybe he should tell her you like him and then be like don't tell him i told you. and she'll be like okay and then have him say do you like him she'll answer and then have him say something allong the line of if he were to ask you out would you say yes? and if she says no then don't ask her out.
Hope i helped
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I definately have experienced it, and I didn't like it. I felt like the guy didn't like me enough, so he's getting someone else to do the work for him.
Also, you have to consider this : If the girl likes outgoing guys, and you send your cousin to ask her for you, she's gonnna think you're too shy for her. Then again, she might not be but just putting it out there.
Girls also like to know the guy a little before they date them, so find a way to get to know her. Hang out with your cousin while he's around her. I'm sure she'll see the interest you have in her, and girls like it when guys show them that they're interested. We also like it when guys ask us out in cute ways (i had a kid buy 6 clear balloons, and before he blew them up, he put a piece of paper in each one saying "will" "you" "go" "out" "with" "me" and he gave them to me through out the day)
It's the cute stuff that girls respond the most too.
SO GOOD LUCK! hope you get this girl!
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I would hate it.
I did hate when I was teen, and now in my twenties I'd find it absolutely unpardonably.
A girl feels a few things when that happens: The first one is confussion. She might think it's a joke, or not serious. She might think the friend is just acting on thier own, and she can't be sure you are really interested, or how interested you are. She'll probably say no simply because she is confused and uncertain about what is going on.
'Cause really, if a guy doesn't even want to talk to you, how interested can he really be?
Sorry hun, if you want to really be treated like the human being, with human feelings, you are going to have to face her like another human being. If you don't, you'll never know if you got rejected for yourself, or just because of the way you delivered the message.
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