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another family problem question
Okay, this is going to be kinda long. But, I am a 15 year old girl who is going to be a sophmore in high school. turning 16 in december. Both of my parents work. My father leaves for work at 4:30 in the morning, and gets home at about 9 at night. My mother leaves for work at 9 in the morning, and comes home between 5 and 6. Well, you know how it is a mothers job to cook dinner? she hasnt cooked one meal in about 2 years. and im not over exxagerating, im being totally serious. The only time i eat dinner is on sundays and wednesdays, or if i sleep over a friends house. Im quite underweight because of this, becuase of being left home all day. im 5'4 and i weigh about 90-100 pounds. it varies. I complain to my mother that she never cooks, and its unfair that im almost 16 and i dont get fed dinner. i already have to cook myself breakfast and lunch [that is if i dont sleep until about 3:00 in the afternoon]. My mom doesn't understand that im very unhealthy because im a terribal cook and if i put something on the stove it WILL catch on fire, or even in the oven, toaster, or microwave. I understand why my dad doesn't cook, because hes a man and he grew up with a mother cooking for him, and he is quite tired after a days work. So i don't bother him about it. The fact that everyones parents feed them after work, i dont understand why my mother wont cook me dinner. she claims that she is tired, well i know your tired mom, but im starving to death here! i have talked to her about it multipal times, then her other option is delivery. Well, we live in a very small town, that only has chinese and pizza delivery. and as you all know, after a while the same food over and over again gets sickening and tiring. Its embarissing when i have a friend over and they say "what time are we having dinner" and i have to say "i cook my own dinner every night." do you all know how bad that makes my mom look? really bad. My friends also dont understand why my mother doesnt cook dinner. she used to, every night! she hasnt since about sixth grade. she just comes home and sits at the computer, drinks beers [about a 30 pack a night]. It pisses me off. She does nothing but drink and go on her fucking computer at home! and whenever i try to talk to her, she wont talk to me. Because she thinks people at work are watching her.. so she doesnt talk when shes home. Barely, and if she does she like whispers. She thinks peeople are watching her through lightbulbs, our stattelite dish etc.[lmao!]So i dont understand why she wouldnt make herself look liek a good parent and cook for her daughter, my sister who is turning 21 in janurary is in college still. so she cant bring me something home to eat. but im so sick of my dad bringing me home mc donalds at like 9 at night. im so sick of everything really. my parents dont care for me! they just buy me stuff and supply me shelter. how can i tell my mom that she needs to start cooking? i need to like threaten her though, or she wontdo it. helpp pleasee! any suggestions?
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That's seriously got to be tough. I know that to gain your own independence at some point means to be able to take care of yourself while your parents are away to work. Even, so being independent has some limits and you rely on your parents for help, especially food at times (hehe). But threatening your mother to cook doesn't leave food on your plate. Show her that you are indeed a mature woman and that you can fend for yourself. Since there's something troubling your mother, talk to your dad about it and maybe he'll set up a doctor's/therapy appointment for her. It's at least a first step to show you are mature because you're concerned about your mother's health and you want to do something for her even if it really pisses you off. Be patient for her.
But yeah, if you want to be able to cook just go through websites with recipes or go to youtube just so you can go along with the video while cooking.
I hoped this helped you a little! =3
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If your mom drinks 30 beers a night she
needs help. If she thinks the light bulbs
are bugged she needs help. Talk to your
dad about getting her a psych evaluation
for her paranoid behavior.
That being said, there is no reason why
you can't cook for yourself if you put
your mind to it. Look on recipe sites
and have fun learning to cook. You get
fed and any boyfriend will love it if
you bake them cookies and cakes.
Here are some sites for you.
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Are you for real on this? Are you really being this selfish because your mother does not cook you dinner after work? You are 15 for crying out loud, you have hands!
Think about it. Your parents both work hard at their jobs, doing whatever their boss tells them to do and then some. But it does not stop there. They come home and have to deal with a teenage daughter (who is only enough to take care of herself I might add), a house that needs to be payed and cleaned. You are perfectly capable of being able to make your own food without a stove. Ask your mom if she can buy you some microwaveable foods at the grocery store when she goes, and if she will not listen, then write her a note as a reminder, because I am sure she wouldn't mind picking a few things up if it means you stop whining in her ear about not feeding you like a child.
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
This site has a TON of foods that you can easily chop up and cook in the microwave.
Since this is happening for a while I am surpised you have not thought of something like this before. Maybe you should stop complaining about it and try actually being mature and responsible and making the best of the situation instead of "threatening her." Things change, and usually you just have to go with it.
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Ouch im really sorry about that. Well if you've tryed talking to your mother and your father gets home to late to cook then i suggest ask a friend to teach you to cook. The best thing you can do at this point is learn. Look at some cook books go online and look up some recipes that look good. Maybe there is a class you could take at school or someone might be teaching it somewhere. Ask family memebers for help [[grandmothers, aunts, uncles, cousins ect.]] I remember i learned how to cook from all sorts of places. I watched t.v from my aunt, my gradmother and my mother. Maybe if you started to cook your mother would start to cook a little bit ever now and then as well.
Hope I helped!
Your truley
-Samantha
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