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Torn between family and moving
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Heres my situation. I work for the family business and my girlfriend lives approx 600 miles away. To make a long story short, we lived together before out of state away from home, but our relationship fell through, so I moved back home. We began talking a year later and we are both more mature ( I am roughtly 30) and ready for a serious relationship. We are happy together, but... I am supposed to inherit the family business, and if I leave, the business will be closed, and my father will take this fairly hard. I am close to my family, Ive always put family first. I am torn between the two. I mentioned to my father today about moving in a few months, and our conversation didnt go well. I could tell he was hurt, which inturn upset me. Ive always looked up to him. If I dont move, I will lose a really good girl, and the last thing i want to do is hurt her, but its not fair to my family as well...
Someone, please help me. This is a lose/lose situation for me.
Thanks!
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Thanks for all the advice, but i neglected to mention that she just bought a new house and doesnt want to part with it, plus all the hassle involved in selling the house in todays market. If it werent for my family, i wouldnt hesitate.
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since your family is so important to you, stay where you are, and ask the girl to move to where you are, if she really likes you, shell come. she should understand about your situation, after all, it is a family business so tell her its really important for you and your dad.
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This is a tough one. Well you really do care about this girl but you dont want to close the store then ask her to move down and live with you. But if there is no way for her to move in with you then your going to have to tell your father that this girl is more important to you and may even be your future. Tell him to either sell the store or get someone else to run it. Thats all I've got to offer you have a really hard question.
Hope I helped!
Yours truly
-Samantha
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Well, I would move 600 miles to be with
the man I loved. Why can't she move to
you? You have done this before, Its her
turn.
The problem here is that while you're
ok to move, the move affects your family.
Not just emotionally but financially.
Will you be happy 600 miles away knowing
the business had to close? That alone
will cause problems in the relationship.
Especially if it once again goes bad
and you are left without a business of
your own to go back to.
I am not trying to make you feel worse.
Sorry if it sounds that way. I don't
know the entire situation, but thats
a lot of responsibility.
If you enjoy working in the family business
and would like the security of knowing
you have a secure job, Id stay where you are
and let her do the moving.
Best of luck whatever you decide. :)
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