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i need an opinion on depression
lets say youre in this situation. (its also mine..)
from grade 1 to 9, you had nearly straight As. you were an overachiever. your parents were proud of you. stress never got to you.
in the 10th grade, you were SOO tired of always getting the straight As and the stress got to you so much, that you just completely let yourself go. you always felt like sleeping, you would go days without eating..and days where you ate too much. you never felt like doing homework anymore and felt the need to look at the mirror and look perfect for a boyfriend more than doing work in school. you've found that you're losing friends and your grades slip slowly...to a point where you're getting Cs instead of the As you thought you would get in certain subjects. you only do what is easy for you and you dont even study for tests. you finished the year off...normally. average. not as the overachiever straight A for final grade person you used to be.
would you think this is depression? why would this happen to a person who has never done bad in anything..? all of a sudden? it just doesnt make any sense to me! I'm slowly getting better and hopefully will get back on track by next year. But I don't know what happened to me. What would you think?
16/f.
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I wasn't an over achiever as such but i was a clever young girl, and definately the achiever of the family. In my final two years of school I started to slack majorly for two reasons, one I was finding my identity and so that meant seeing freinds more and doing tyhings other than my school work and the other was the main one, i was sick and tired of people just assuming I was naturally clever, I wanted to show my parents and my sister that what I achieved was through hard work, and so if i started slacking my family would notice and then they would realise that my results were suffering. This sounds petty now but as a teenager it made sense.
I dont think this is depression but if you do feel that way you should speak to your doctor because they can take all the aspects of your life into consideration and they will be able to help you if you really are depressed
I dont know if this will help but i hope it does
Sarah
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I don't need to pretend to have been in that situation, I was in that situation, although it took until grade 11 to hit me.
Unless you think you are depressed or miserable all the time, I would bet that was was happening was just you taking the time to experiment. You are a teenager and your main job (which is fair more important then your grades or your looks or your friends) is figuring out who you are!
You tried out some different priorities for a while and that helped you see how important some things (and some people) really were to you. That really isn't anything to be ashamed of or to beat yourself up about (and certainly not to think you have a mental illness because of!)
If you find you can't lift yourself out of your doldrums and can't move forward, then take the time to see your doctor or school counselor, but unless this gets worse, instead of better, I think you are probably safe to just call it a learning phase in life, and move on from there.
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well the first thing that came to my mind was 'did you talk about this sistuation to your parents and did you seek for help.
the best way to deal with this is to talk about it untill you feel back to your old self.
you should also think of this as a learning experience.
yours truly,
Elaine
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I would immediatley snap out of it and think i havent gone THIS far for it to end like this...i was the best student for years and i wont give up now...its a matter of two years and ill be done with school and go to one of the best colleges and be one of the most successfull people there is...and when that happens ill be proud of myself and my parents will be soo proud of me theyll brag about me lol thats exactly what i would think and do!Its ok ...what happend to you is you just had a year of negativitey..you got bored and wanted to do something new...whats past is past now you need to get back on track the next coming years!!you dont want all those years youve got straight A's in to come to waste now do you?!now THATS what i would consider depression...to waste all these years and after all that...i fail>.<!!
You were probably more into your new love life that nothing eles matterd...which is not good i mean its great to fall in love and give alot of attention to the person you love but there are other things that matter to...life isnt only about the love of a guy..its also about freindship,education,success,family...everything eles matters...
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yep, I think it is depression. I can identify with being an over achiever. I did the same thing when I was in highschool. I was depressed because I was bored in life and got tired of being classified as a nerd, or a geek. I had little friends and so I went into a serious depression,too. First think about what has happened that has caused you go into depression.
I hope that you honestly sit and analyze what the problem could be, only you know what has changed in your life, to cause you to change your habits of eating, studying and making good grades. Most people go through changes every 7 years of their lives, the changes do effect their mental stability, causing depression from the chemicals released just as it does their physical state. .
Once you've identified when the changes started and what was going on at the time of the change, email me at sophia_pettus@yahoo.com. I think I can help you. I went through it as a teenager and my 16 year old son and 15 year old daugher did too.
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Well I obviously not an expert in this category and if you are really worried I would go see someone. I know it seems scary and a little embarassing to go see a coounselor, but it is most likely nothing and it will help you feel a lot better just getting some answers. I was ina similar stuation like this and what I found was that the only reason I was trying to get straight A's and strivinng to be the perfect student was for the approval of my parents. Once I started doing things for myself, I was finding that applying myself was much easier. So the next time your studying, instead of saying "my parents would be really proud if I got an A" say "if I get an A on this it will make me feel really good about myself and then I can go get a new T-shirt hehe." just start doing things for yourself and not for other people!
good luck and I hope this helps you
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