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ME=UNPOPULAR.
Im fine with being un-popular , I am .
Buut , I don't know .
I used to hang out with this popular girl before , And it was only when her friends were mad at her .
We didn't hang out for like a year .
Now , She still continues to be popular .
And keeps asking to hang out .
She's not even in a fight with a friend .
Help , Is she using me ?
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When I was in Junior High, I was kind of an outcast. It suited me just fine. Then, a friend that I hung out with in Elementary School started talking to me again. She was a cheerleader, very popular, and extremely outgoing. I was the invert. I didn't mind her newly renewed friendship. I didn't think anything about her agenda on why she was suddenly hanging out with me. I do feel though, that we had a good chemistry as friends and she recognized that too. I also made new friends and still was able to keep my old ones as well. My point is this, some times, even if it is strange to us, people want to befriend us. We can either go with the flow and let it take it where it may, as long as it is in a healthy way, or we can doubt it and never truly now. I say give her a chance to be your friend. There may be no ulterior motive behind it, other than being friends. If something bad happens, just think about this being a life lesson and you have taken something away from it. Life is always about making decisions, owning the consequences, and learning how to handle things again. I wish you the best of luck.
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Like the others have said, it is hard to tell, since we are not there to see what kind of person she is. But continue to keep your guard up, if only because she is popular. I know how the whole "popular crowd" can be, although I was in High School over five years ago. Although I am not implying that she is using you, or embodies the popular stereotype to its fullest, I am trying to point out that you should be careful and just watch out for yourself- just in case she happens to be that way.
One thing that stood out for me in your question, was the fact that you mentioned she was only friends with you before when her friends were mad at her. To me, that is not a good enough reason to start hanging out with someone. She should have wanted to be your friend regardless of the situation. But now that she does want to hang out with you, in spite of being on relatively good terms with her friends, can mean that she liked hanging out with you before, and wants to continue doing so. However, because she was only your friend before when she had no body to be with, is a reason for you to just be cautious and see where things go. Also, you two did not hang out for an entire year- that is a very long time. Now, after a year, she wants to hang out with you. It could mean something, or nothing at all.
Do not trust her completely because the foundation of your friendship seems to be a bit rocky. Ask yourself a few questions: Does she mind if you hang out with her other friends? Do you get the feeling that she is using you for something? Is she kind and respectful enough to you? For now, don't make yourself completely available, you can hang out with her at your own time. See how she acts around you, and if you feel comfortable enough around her. Only then can you really tell whether or not she is using you.
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well if she is popular and you are not then i dont think she is using you. but you should keep your eyes open becuase she might be planing somthing thats going to hurt you. ask her why she wants to hang out with you. she might like hanging with you.just be ready for whats going to go down soon
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she could be. but the truth is, you'll never really know. she could've seen what a good friend you were to her when she didn't have anyone and thought that she wanted to be friends with you again. or she could be using you, but it sounds to me like she's not using you. good luck!
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It's hard to tell because you say she is not fighting with anyone, bu that you two didn't hang out for a year. You're going to have to use your judgement. Was she a mean person when you hung out? Did she only talk to you because she needed something?
If you can't figure it out, give her a chance and hang out with her and if you detect any signs of her just using you, then stop hanging out with her.
Good luck.
Teacup
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