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jealous of other girls my bf loves to look at
i know my boyfriend masturbates to beautiful girls on the internet, hes even told me. im just crying right now because i looked at the insanely pretty girls he has as his favorites and who he probably masurbates to. im not pretty like them and i never will be, and it just really hurts because i feel like he isnt happy with me and would go with a beautiful girl if he could. we have been together for almost two years, and we have had our issues, but i just feel really low right now. is this normal? do i have anything to worry about? any input or experience like mine is appreciated, especially from a guys point of view!
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Ok. Key factor here, that differentiates guys from girls.
We dont ever stop looking.
Ever.
I'm in a committed relationship. Almost 3 years. I still masturbate. Most guys with a decent sex drive do. Now not as much as I used to, but still do. Its normal and healthy male activity of the uncomfortable sort that there isnt much info about because no one wants to talk about it openly.
Anyway. Its not about not being happy with you. I mean, on a practical scale, you have to consider that yes there are girls out there who are more attractive than you are. And yes, he is going to be aware of that.
Does that mean he wants them over you? No. We don't fall in love with sex symbols and objects of lust. We just want to fuck them. Its a different drive and absolutely devoid of most emotion.
Theres another thing you have to understand about people in general.
Many people, if you asked them privately if they would take their significant other's mind in a better body, they would say yes. If you asked someone "if we could make your significant other be her, but make her body absolutely perfect" most people would not refuse.
That being said, the body is just the wrapper, when you're in love.
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Guys are always going to want better, most people do. Majority of guys do that regardless of how satisfied they are with you. I know my ex boyfriend did those things and he was completely happy with me and wanted to marry me! But he was just horny. I say you have nothing to worry about girl.
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i dont think this is anything to worry about....guys just have certain fantasies just like some girls have their fantasies but it doesnt mean you are ugly and he wishes you looked a victoria secret model and that he is not happy with you. i really dont think this is anything to stress about.
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I guess it's how you view it. I don't think masturbating is cheating. Unless there's an actual person in the room with him. Guys will always sneak a few nude photos you know. It's just something you'll have to get used to because some of them grew up sneaking up porn mags. You don't have to like it but don't constantly bring it up. They think YOU are beautiful but they need an instant satisfaction because they probably can't undress you with their eyes. My guy needs pictures sometimes, so I gave him some pictures of me instead [nothing nude btw]. Haha. I really don't mind my guy looking it up. I think some of those girls are pretty too but the chances of him actually meeting them is slim and he wouldn't do anything with them. besides, I doubt he would leave you for some porn/ scene chick because nobody wants to use the town's bike. You don't have to worry about anything.. just as long as he isn't obsessed with it..and i mean if he's going out of his way to avoid you and try to hook up with some of his favorites. if it bothers you that much, you should find some favorites of yours. not neccessary porn or anything, but those gorgeous male models :] Maybe that will put him in your place. you are beautiful and he thinks it. most guys don't think much about saying it especially when you've been in a long relationship. you don't have to feel low about it. if he wasn't happy with you, he would have left you a long time ago. so be happy until something comes up like meeting these chicks.. if not, then don't get jealous. guys will always look. in that case, it's okay for you to look too.
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I don't know. Put yourself in his shoes, if you saw a really hot guy, and they asked you out, would you ditch your boyfriend? Honestly. I mean, I think I would. But, the chances of that happening to him, are pretty slim. And if he does ever leave you for some girl, who you think is prettier, then it just wasn't meant to be. Try talking to him. Just ask him like, what he likes about you, and that sorta thing.
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if he really cares about you he would respect you. He wouldn't look at anyone else or have the want to do so. Some People say there is no harm in looking but I disagree 100% I consider that cheating and masterbating to them is even more wrong! I would not be able to deal with that. If he is willing to look what will stop him from doing something next? He should look at you and only you. You say you have had your issues if they had anything to do with trust this is even more proof that he cannot be trusted. Please Don't let this make you feel unattractive. Its him not you. Don't let anyone make you feel ugly. That's another unhealthy part of your relationship. your man should make you feel like the most beautiful girl in the world. You should talk to him if you haven't already and tell him how it feels. If he doesn't respect your wishes he won't ever. You have enough respect for him and you care about him enough to not be able to do that to him. You deserve someone who will treat you the same way.
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