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i am unsure about myself
When I was young I hardly had a crush on anyone in my life. I did short of but they were just a fling. I like guys they can be hot and cute and they turn me on but what I don’t understand that I had odd feeling to other women in my past. I always thought of my self being with them I thought it was just a phase but then when I realize I have a crush on my long term friend I know for 8 years from now who is a women made me realize I am bi sexual. It’s odd that it came out that way and I don’t understand it. I told her how I felt about her and she said she is unsure on her sexuality too but doesn’t feel the same way. I am cool with that because I don’t know what I am too. I mean yeah I can say I am bi because I have deep feelings for her but how do I know if I can go down on a girl or guy? I want to be more than friends with her but myself cant realize that I am not ready for something like that…I just have no clue what sexuality i am, so how can you know?
Go out with other people and find out? every time I think of doing that I want it to be with her so how can I not think of that? i want to know how do you know what sexuality you are..so if you are in my shoes please explain how you find out.
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Much as the other advisor suggested, I found my peace of mind by not worrying so much about labeling my sexuality and working on finding people I'm compatible with both emotionally and sexually.
Bi-sexuality is tough. Frankly I think it's tougher then being straight or gay, because it's just so ambiguous. No one else really gets you and you hardly ever get yourself. So ignore the label that does more harm then good and focus on just wanting what you want.
It isn’t your sexuality that is currently preventing your from dating however, it is your unhealthy preoccupation with this girl. My suggestion to solve that is this: Give it space and time. Cutting back your communication with her will make her less present in your life and less often on your mind.
I know that everyone says “We can still be friends!” and you can, but you’ll never be friends in quite the same way after a romantic feelings have been shot down. You can’t be the same kind of friends once the sexual tension has been labeled, and decided against. You absolutely must keep some emotional distance or you will never move on.
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To be honest, I think you should worry less about what your sexuality actually is, and focus more on being happy with a partner, no matter their gender. To me, defining your sexuality when you aren't totally sure is almost like labeling yourself. It doesn't matter what the name of the sexuality is, but if you like this woman and you would be happy with her then you should focus on that (although you said she does not feel the same way right now). I'm sorry if that wasn't what you were looking for... I tried. I hope I helped.
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