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Older Man
Okay. I'm 17 & he's 39.
So i recently moved in with my dad & one of his friends & my dad's friend & i started talking & then we started texting. Now our relationship has gone further. We been kissing & having sex for over two months now! I don't feel bad about our age gap because i dont think that there's age for love. The thing is that his son knows & his ex wife thinks we are dating & she keeps threating to tell the police. I really do like him & he doesn't act anything like a 39 year old. I'm just not sure if our relationship is worth hiding until i'm 18 [in 84 days!] Sometimes its getting harder to hide it but i do want to be with him. I dont want to dissapoint my father but i think that he has an idea, sorta, about our 'friendship' [we stay up & play chess when my dad is home]. I just dont want to hurt people & i dont want people to think less of me because i'm with someone with a son. =/ & his son loves me & wants me with his dad. His son is going through a hard divorce [not literally since they were never married] & i help him out with his troubles. What should i do?
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Well you are sorta right age dosent determine love you could be one and he could be 100 but still love each other. And if his exwife really liked him and is threateing you why did she break up with him. If she does call the police whats she gona say oh somones hanging out with my ex and the police will be like oh were are they lets hunt them down for liking eachothee. LOL ok sorry i got a little carried away. But if you really LOVE each other you even die for eachother. Im just triyin to say calm down whats the worst that could happen. I mean you love each other then flirt.
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Your dad should know what is going on between his so called friend and his daughter...I am suspicious that he is really unaware, but a good dad would not approve of this. The almost 40 year old man you are with is most likely committing a serious crime against you. You have zero, zip obligation to this guy's son. Technically you are both children and you are not in any position to play mommy to him, just because you are playing girlfriend with his old pervert dad. This guy is a selfish loser if he is doing what you say and taking advantage of your youth and inexperience. Even when you turn eighteen, the age gap is enormous and he already has shown incapability as a man to prey on his friend's young daughter. You have been taken advantage of my dear and need to stop allowing it immediately, before you wind up pregnant or worse, stuck with an std from this old fart. I imagine you are not thrilled with my advice, but since you may not have a parent's protection right now, someone has to tell you the truth for your own good. Please listen...someday you will look back and be glad you did.
"Statutory rape is the crime of sex with a minor under the age of consent (AOC), the age at which individuals are considered competent to give consent to sexual conduct, but past the age of puberty. It is a generic term; states use many different statutory terms for the crime, such as "sexual assault", "rape of a child", "corruption of a minor", and "carnal knowledge of a minor". Statutory rape differs from forcible rape in that overt force or threat need not be present. The laws presumes coercion, because a minor is legally incapable of giving consent to the act."
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Well right now it's illegal but my only thing is that you are right there is not age in love if you are meture enough to handle what it brings
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Break it off, find another place to live if you must. Tell your father and ask for his help in breaking it off.
I do not say that because 'he's too old for you' I say it because I have seen this before, agian and agian and agian.
I can't tell you how many of my friends in thier late teens and early twenties fell in with 'older men going through a rough seperation' but I can tell you how many of them ended up happy about it: NONE.
Every single one of them who did the 'date a man who is recently divorced/seperating/in a loveless marriage, ended in tears for every girl I know.
It ended because they could not possibly be equal partners to these men. The men didn't want equals. They wanted a good time without adult issues and commitments mucking things up. As soon as my female friends needed anything from these guys besides a shoulder to lean on they disolved and fled, either back to thier wives, or too the next pretty young thing.
Go ahead and be honest with your father. Get the adult persecpective (meaning: adult protection and involvement) that you absolutely need. There is nothing legally his ex-wife can do about him dating a 17 year-old. It isn't illegal in any state.
So stop hiding and hoping the problems will solve themselves. Face them head on and deal with them. Most importantly, face the problems so you know if this guy will persever and respect you or if he will cut and run once you aren't the fun fantasy any more and being with you requires hard work.
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Okeyy so hes 2 and 1/2 times your age. so what. if you love him nobody can do a thing. Your young, you got your whole modeling life ahead of you. so for your own sake, think things over. Two things you can do rite nowww.
1. Give the whole situation a thought, i mean no offence, he is quite older than you and your parents wouldnt probably happy abt it for the time being. rite?
2. whenever your with him. try to set aside the hugging, cuddling, kissing and sex for a while and see if he is attracted towards you or does he really love you. remeber attraction and love are whole two different words.. attraction fades away real quick...But for some ppl love lasts for a life time.i wish you all the best....
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Wait until you are 18.
Everything will be ten times easier on everyone if you do. It will be much better for this guy also seeing as how he won't get into any trouble. If this ex-wife/girlfriend is threatening to call the police, that's obviously the only card she has left to play. Once you are 18, she's out of the picture and get hurt you two anymore. As for your dad, if he already suspects, then when you actually tell him it shouldn't be to big of a shocker. And if he loves you, he will respect your decision. in 84 days, you can forget about all your worries, and be with him happily if that's what you want.
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Honestly, i think you should date people your own age. you have your whole life ahead of you, you are still a kid! hes 40, old enough to be your dad. what hes doing is illegal, and if anybody finds out, he can be thrown in jail. stop the relationship now, before things get worse
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