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Am I normal?
16/f
Hi. I only like guys who don't drink, smoke, or do drugs, and are nice, smart, and a virgin... but it seems like there are no guys out there at all who fit my description. So I'm just wondering, are there any many guys who are like that? Or are my standards too high?
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There are guys like that, they just may not be people that you normally hang out with (or they may not be guys that know people you hang out with). Going to a church to meet guys is not a bad idea - if you are Christian. Other good places are after-school clubs and co-ed sports teams where most of the time you end up making friends with people that you may not normally be friends with.
You may also be having trouble since guys that are out there doing drugs and having sex will talk about it - whereas guys who aren't doing those things won't stand up going "I'm a virgin and don't do drugs!" because they would probably get weird looks. It only seems like everyone does certain things because that's usually what people tend to talk about. Try talking to the guy who doesn't say anything, perhaps, in a group of people bragging about how high they got. Or try instead talking to the group of people that you wouldn't normally consider; they may surprise you.
As for your standards: they certainly are going to limit the amount of guys you would look at or potentially date. On the other hand, do you want to just go out with anyone? Be patient. Those guys do exist, and when you find them, you'll be glad you didn't waste your time with someone who you wouldn't have gotten along with anyway.
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Well, they're really hard to find but there are guys like that! I dated one and it was great. your standards aren't high, you just haven't met the right person yet. <3
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No, there isn't anything wrong with that. In fact, mine is kind of the same, except the virgin part. I don't really mind because well, whether he is or is not - he ain't gettin' nothin' from me, haha. Anyway, there are guys like that, but unfortunately, they tend to be few and far between.
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all you ahve to do is keep looking and you'll find him. it might not be as easy as you think but he's out there somewhere looking for a girl just like you! so dont give you and go fin the right guy for yourself! and btw, your standards arent high at all. unless you're saying you dont want him to ever drink which is almost impossible for the male species to do. in this case maybe you should lower your standards just a little bit! hope this helps a bit
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noo im just the same way but i would like my b/f to have sexual expreience ,but it could be that your looking in all the wrong places. Or that opne guy that u always dont notice seems the be the one you need.
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I ask myself the same question every day. Honestly, it's very, very difficult to find a boy like that - especially a boy who's willing to admit that he's all of those things. There are a few I know - the best place to find them is probably at a church. I know that sounds cliche, but it probably is. The only boys I know like that are very religious. But I think your standards - and mine as well - are probably a little on the high side for this generation... but not so much that you should settle for less. I think, though, that you might want to get to know them before judging them because of things like that - you never know, he might just be a great guy, even if he's done or does one or two of those things. Try to keep an open mind, and maybe you can convince him to stop :).
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