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To be or not to be
Going up another grade means going to another school which means another mix of schools which means another mix of teens. So there are these girls from another school at my school who I started talking to then theres this other girl who has not that many friends and TRIES to hangwith us at lunch. I feel sorry for her because she doesn't realize it but those girls kinda get tired of her. I try to be nice to everyone so I start talking to her and being nice. She really likes talking to one of the girls thats nice but doesn't show her that she is annoyed. Tommorrow at school we have this thing where we go eat our lunch in a different room where different snacks are served. They told me to come to a certain room and don't tell that girl. I feel confused because I don't want her to get hurt if she asks them what room and they lie and she's all alone(ps we aren't alwowed to switch rooms). Should I tell her the room? But what if they no i told her or should I ask her to come to another room with me and that way she isn't hurt? But I can't secretly protect her forever. HELP!!!!! :p :) :()ill give a symbol on advice if its ok=:()if bad=:( good=:)
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i think that if your friends are that way i think you should tell them that she is really nice and if you guys are going to be that way then youre not the type of person i want to hang out with.
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Something like that...has the potential of hurting someone for a long time.
You either need to tell her or find an alternative to what your friends are telling you to do. They are being immature and hurtful by doing something like that, even if they don't realize it right now.
There is no 'protecting' someone from this sort of situation. Even if you don't realize it that girl knows shes not entirely wanted.
I think you should get to know the girl better, if you don't already. You have already shown a greater maturity than your friends by being kind to this girl and even more by questioning their request. I think you are mature enough at this point to realize that there is beauty in everyone and likable elements in everyones personality...and maybe through this you could be the friend that girl needs.
So tomorrow tell her the room you'll be in. You can lie and tell your friends you forgot you weren't suppose to tell her if you're afraid of them being angry with you. What is important is not abandoning her :] Because it only takes 'one time' for it to be 'never again'.
I hope all this made sense XD I'm sorry, maybe I've read too much into your question but I've had several situations like these with girls who were pretty much outcasts at school. Its all a matter of doing to others what you would want done to you, and I can't imagine being left out feels good.
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