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overprotective mom
I'm 13/f, and I have an overprotective mom. She can't leave me home alone for 15 minutes. I was going to my friend's house. I told my mom that my friend's babysitter was going to be there, which was true, and my mom didn't believe me. She followed me to my friend's door and STUCK her head into the house, and looked around. I was SO embarrassed. She could have at least asked my friend if her mom was home or something. And I'm going to my friend's house soon and I'm so scared that my mom will follow me to the door again. My mom never used to be so overprotective. HELP!! How do I get to calm her nerves down? I live in a town where nothing bad has ever happened.
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Trust me, I know what it's like to have an overprotective mom, I mean, I'm 18 and she calls every five minutes to make sure I'm ok. But like everyone else said, you are 13 and she has every right to worry about you, however, I do agree that her behavior is a bit much. You might want to try talking to her and letting her know how you feel. Let her know that you appreciate her concern and that you understand she worries but there has to be a balance. Reassure her that she can trust you, but that she also needs to learn to let you grow up. But, don't be in such a hurry to grow up and remember in today's society, your mom has every right to worry. Just talk to her and hopefully things will get better. Hope everything works out for you!!
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i agree with every one else
youre barely 13 and your mom is being overprotective because your growing up
she is scared that her *little baby girl *
is growing up so fast
at the moment you kind of have to deal with it until she gets comfortable with you going out
thats all i can say ...
hope i helped
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so..ur 13yrs old?..well your mums going to be worried becuase in her eyes she stills sees you as her baby girl!..the little girl whos growing up way too fast...she may be trying to hold onto you as you grow..your mother must realise that she has to let you grow on your own..however, you must alos realise that your mum has good intentions..and she woories becuase she loves you..soo dont be upset or cause an arguemnt when she does she loves you and cares for you thats why she does these things. mayb you should try and take a smaller step..instead of sepnding a day with jus you and a freind..spend it with take her shopping with..i know you might think tahts gay cause you dont want your mum hanging around with you but jus try theres no harm!...then hit at the bigger steps!..soo first take your mum with you and then slowly..try on ur own...you have to gain her trust!!..please let me know if i heloped or even if i didint x
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Because you are 13, your mom is probably worried that you will try to grow up too soon. Before when you were younger, you probably didn't no much about drugs, drinking and smoking..and probably boys aswell :).
So I think your mom is probably worried that you will ''rebel'' and she just wants to make sure that you are alive until you are old enough to support yourself.
Most parents go through this phase when their kids turn into teens. She will most probably get over it soon. If not(by the time you are 15/16) try talking to her about it.
Also at the age of 16 your parents might get suspicious about you drinking (depends on the law in your state) so don't betray your parents trust(If you want to try alcohol..or some different types of it ask your parents if you can try them at home and see how they affect you..and if you REALLY want to try smoking, tell them you will do it ONCE..trust me they will respect you LOADS for this).
Hope this helps :)
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You first have to realize that you are only 13 years old. And do you know how many 13 year old girls get raped in killed.Your mom is just looking out for you.If you want to have her call over there and make sure the babysitters this there when your friends parents are away. But you have to understand your mom cares about you that is why she does what she does even if you think it is embarassing to you. Just because you live in a town where nothing bad happens those are the towns where things can happen. You need to thank your mother for caring about you the way she does. If you don't believe me about saying that towns were nothing bad happens can happen turn your tv on an check out the news you will understand what I am saying to you.
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You have to gain her trust.
Make her feel comfortable with you being with a friend alone or home by yourself.
Show her your responsible, and she'll slowly let you do more independent things.
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