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my friend
my friend is in real trouble she is 14 doing drugs, drinking, smoking and sleeping around and i have just found out that she wants to overdose. But she won't tell me why, I've asked her and i keep trying to help her. I told her to let her mum no why she wants to overdose or see the school counciler because she won't tell me why.Everytime I try to help her she tells me to f up and that she hates me. and all of my other friends keep telling me to leave her alone, so they have all turned on me. All im trying to do is help her before she does something stupid what do i do?
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Your friend sounds like she's really in a bad state and she's either is not willing or not capable to help herself. So that means that someone does need to step in and see that she gets help, especially if she could be a danger to herself.
You need to tell her parents. If they don't take it seriously or want to get her the help that she needs then speak with the school counselor. And if you think she could be in immediate danger of overdosing or attempting suicide- call the police. It's very hard to do something like that but in a case like this you are better safe then sorry.
Whatever you do, don't try to solve this problem yourselves. Your friend needs professional help. She may be angry at you for doing this but if she would do the same thing for a friend in that position. And people in that kind of condition, especially doing drugs, are not in a rational state of mind. Their thinking is distorted, so don't worry about whether she says she hates you- just do what you can to get her professional help.
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You go to her parents.
Do not go to school counselors. The last thing you want is someone who might call social services getting involved, because that can remove a families ability to solve it themselves. Only go to a counselor if the parents dont care or seem unwilling to do anything/take you seriously.
As much as it is hardwired into you to not go to parents, thats what you should do. Her parents are the only ones who can control her behavior enough to get her the help she needs. She is going to hate you for it if she finds out it was you, and your friends probably would too.
But it is the crystal clear right thing to do. They are her parents. They deserve to know that their child is contemplating overdose.
Be truthful with them. Let them know whats going on, and how serious it is. They are going to need all the information you can give them.
Actually, first, talk to your parents. Because having them involved helps in a number of ways. Let them know whats going on and which friend and that you are going to talk to her parents about it. Let them know you want advice and help.
Once again, I know talking to your parents goes against the grain of being a teenager, but they really ARE on your side.
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Maybe she's pregnant, and doesn't know how to deal with it or tell her mom so she thinks dieing is better.
Or she knows she's messing up her life, and she thinks the only way she can fix it is by dieing.
Or her parents found out she was doing these things.
Another BIG possibility, she's looking for attention. People who think about sucicide usually DON'T tell people about it.
All I can say is be there for her, because when she's ready to talk she will, you can't force her.
You could also tell her parents, they can get her help.
Hope I helped ?
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She needs help and fast so you need to tell either her parents, your parents or another adult that you can trust. She will be extremely angry with you to begin with but you can't take the risk that she will actually overdose and kill herself. It is a big thing for you to do but please get her some help now. Good luck.
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Tell her mom about her plan to overdose.
If her mom can't prevent it, no one can.
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I don't know if you can prevent her from doing something stupid. It does sound like she is determined. It sounds like someone who comes from a home where no one cares about her anyway. But if you know this is not true, and you believe that her parents do care for her, then you should tell them. They will have the money and the authority to get her the help she needs.
At this point I think that is your only option. It is good of you to want to help your friend, but sometimes we have some much internal pain, (emotional pain) that we see no point in living or respecting ourselves. She really is acting like someone has hurt her deeply, someone she trusts, and usually this kind of acting out at such a young age, comes from being abused at home.
So if you know that not to be true, you may want to warn her parents.
Michele
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