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did i do the right thing to try to get my girl back
hey people,
im a young male and im talkin about my girlfriend
i had just had my girlfriend break up with me a couple of days ago and it was really hard on me. I was the cause of the breakup because i wasn't being open enough to her and when she said "i feel like im neglecting you," and just said no and she asked if something was wrong and i said no. when we hung up i had decided that i needed to tell her what i felt so i messaged her and said honestly i do feel neglected and she got mad because i didnt talk to her on the phone when i had the chance. so she got mad and later said you no i'm mad at you and im fed up with your shit. so she had ended it and she said i just havent felt like we are close like we were at first. this all hurt me bad and she wouldn't talk to me because i wanted to talk to her and explain to her how i felt.
so the next day she ignored me and i couldnt talk to her and the next day i tried to get her off my mind but it didnt work so i went to my dad and brother to talk to them about it. i had listened to them and they had the same points.
so what i did was go to her house the next day with out her knowing and had a bunch of nice flowers. She had a smile on her face and didnt seem mad at me so i take that as being good?. i gave her the flowers and went into her room to talk to her. i told her that i really like her and i really care for her. i said you no every relationship has rough patches and you have to try to get through them instead of just quitting on the relationship. (she promised herself that she would never give a guy a second chance by the way.) i just asked her if she could promise me that she will think about a second chance while she was in colorado (this was later in the talk that i had asked her if she would think about a second chance). she said i will and i said the way u had ended it really hurt me alot and i just wanted her to think about the second chance for more than just one day. just please think about it because the idea of being without you really hurts because i care for you and i want to be there for you. she said she would think about it while she was there. the next thing i said was you know this is my first true relationship and im goin to make mistakes and i will admit when i do and im willing to try to work on that and i really want to be open with you and try to stop arguing about little things. just promise me you will think about the second chance and get back to me when you get back. i really care for you and we gave each other a huge hug and i told her in her ear that i really care for you and i said i need to go because i just wanted to say this and be on my way and not get in ur way. and oh yeah i told her the reasons why i felt why we were growing apart earlier. and i also said im not goin to beg or force you for the second chance and i wont talk to you or text you while you're up there so that gives you your freedom to think. then came the hug and leaving part. some of this wasn't in the right order but you get the idea. so can ya'll tell me if i did the right thing?
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You did the right thing. You showed her you care. You went about it very maturely. I think she'll want to have you back. And if she doesn't? Well, then you're really better off without her because she can't see the great guy you are.
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hay
i think you did the right thing.you sound like a nice caring guy... by going to her after the break up and talking to her about it made her realise that you dont want to give up on the relationship and that you can realise your mistakes and are willing to fix them.
also you did the right thing by letting her make up her own mind in weather to give you a second chance or not and not forcing her... it shows her that your grown up and you will eccept her decision either way...
xoxsally
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i think you did the right thing. it sounds real cute. if i was her, i wouldn't want to lose you just yet, i'd give you a second change. like you said, it's your first relationship and you're going to make mistakes. next time, just tell her. every good relationship is built on trust. remember that. anyways. good luck.<3
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You know, you did more than the right thing. I don't think that you not opening up to her was a good reason for her to breakup with you. A person in a relationship should be patient and understand that it takes time to really open up. But you did very well. Telling her how you felt was key. And I'm positive it will work. If it doesn't, she's not the one for you. I can tell you are a great person and I hope she's able to see that.
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Awww, this is sweet, seems like you do care for her. It is really a big tep to admit to mistakes and you did that, she would be crazy to still let you go.
I think that if you really care for her you did the right thing in trying to salvage your relationship, don't worry too much. Like I said before, the fact that you tried is a huge thing.
I hope everything works out for you :) Good Luck.
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Wow. That is seriously really sweet. Kay, so listen, you did the right thing completely. Guys are so not open. With all my ex-boyfriends, they would never tell me ANYTHING, I would get really fed up, I mean, I still do, but when guys are ready to open up, they will. You need to tell her about the whole "I'll talk to you when I'm ready" type thing. Girls feel like they're not trusted, and it's a pretty bad feeling when it comes from someone you really care about. You can tell her that you DO trust her, it's just hard to say, and such.
I hope I was of some help.
If she doesn't come back to you then she's psycho.:]
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you deft. did the right thing, you told her how you felt and to give her, her space and now she will realize that you want to be with her and now she will deft. understand how you feel. best of luck, hope everything goes well, (even thought it will) =]
*Jenny_411
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