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*Jenny_411
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ok i just got fingered for the first time like a few days ago, and i was wondering if a guy fingers you does it hurt less to have sex the first time? also...it didnt hurt when he did it but then i went to the bathroom and it was reddish when i wiped only the slightest bit though. does that mean it will hurt less? and can he "pop my cherry" by fingering?
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hey!
since he fingered you and you bleeded alittle bit that means he popped your cherry, and well honestly when I got fingered my boyfriend he popped my cherry and when we had sex for the first time it didn't hurt when I lost it, so there's a possibilty that it won't hurt. so it won't hurt as much, and u won't bleed when you loose it the first time since he popped you cherry.
I hope I helped
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during your first time
how long usually does it take?
does he put the condom on?
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well let him put on the condom first (for protection) if he doesn't no how to put a condom they show instuctions and since its the first time it usually last about 5-10 min. but sometimes a guy can go longer and stuff
glad to help
Jenny_411
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Well there is this rele cute guy that works at the store near me. I go there almost everyday because my parents always seems to want something.
Ok, so my question is how do i get to know the guy if i have no idea who he is, with all I know he could be some jerkish creep who has a girlfriend.
*my friends say when I am interested in someone I give off a F*** Off look to them* is this weird
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honeslty its not weird.. that's how you are I do it myself sometimes that's because I'm nervous. if I were you go up to him and be like (introduce yourself) and talk to him its always good to have a friend on your side or why don't you tell your friend to go up to him and be like my friend thinks your cute (trust me that always works). and then you'll no your answer. Good luck ;)
*Jenny_411
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hey people,
im a young male and im talkin about my girlfriend
i had just had my girlfriend break up with me a couple of days ago and it was really hard on me. I was the cause of the breakup because i wasn't being open enough to her and when she said "i feel like im neglecting you," and just said no and she asked if something was wrong and i said no. when we hung up i had decided that i needed to tell her what i felt so i messaged her and said honestly i do feel neglected and she got mad because i didnt talk to her on the phone when i had the chance. so she got mad and later said you no i'm mad at you and im fed up with your shit. so she had ended it and she said i just havent felt like we are close like we were at first. this all hurt me bad and she wouldn't talk to me because i wanted to talk to her and explain to her how i felt.
so the next day she ignored me and i couldnt talk to her and the next day i tried to get her off my mind but it didnt work so i went to my dad and brother to talk to them about it. i had listened to them and they had the same points.
so what i did was go to her house the next day with out her knowing and had a bunch of nice flowers. She had a smile on her face and didnt seem mad at me so i take that as being good?. i gave her the flowers and went into her room to talk to her. i told her that i really like her and i really care for her. i said you no every relationship has rough patches and you have to try to get through them instead of just quitting on the relationship. (she promised herself that she would never give a guy a second chance by the way.) i just asked her if she could promise me that she will think about a second chance while she was in colorado (this was later in the talk that i had asked her if she would think about a second chance). she said i will and i said the way u had ended it really hurt me alot and i just wanted her to think about the second chance for more than just one day. just please think about it because the idea of being without you really hurts because i care for you and i want to be there for you. she said she would think about it while she was there. the next thing i said was you know this is my first true relationship and im goin to make mistakes and i will admit when i do and im willing to try to work on that and i really want to be open with you and try to stop arguing about little things. just promise me you will think about the second chance and get back to me when you get back. i really care for you and we gave each other a huge hug and i told her in her ear that i really care for you and i said i need to go because i just wanted to say this and be on my way and not get in ur way. and oh yeah i told her the reasons why i felt why we were growing apart earlier. and i also said im not goin to beg or force you for the second chance and i wont talk to you or text you while you're up there so that gives you your freedom to think. then came the hug and leaving part. some of this wasn't in the right order but you get the idea. so can ya'll tell me if i did the right thing?
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you deft. did the right thing, you told her how you felt and to give her, her space and now she will realize that you want to be with her and now she will deft. understand how you feel. best of luck, hope everything goes well, (even thought it will) =]
*Jenny_411
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if you have not fat but not thin.. ((kind in between)) arms and if you lift a weight for a while each day (5 pound weight) would the fat in your arms go away and get thinner, or would the fat remain and only the muscle would get stronger?? (link)
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well it would make your arm look more muscular than skinner because if ur working on weights you'll gain muscle not loose weight (in a way) but if u do a lot of cardio like jogging,bicycle riding,tredmill, stuff like that then you'll see a big improvement you'll will look more cut up and stuff. trust me you will cause I work on my weights a lot I bench press, all that stuff and I do a lot of cardio. soo trust me it will help.
*Jenny_411
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okay well lately i've been really worried and i need to know if this is something i should be worried about.
me and my boyfriend were fooling around and i gave him a handjob and he fingered me. i don't think he had any cum on his fingers, and he told me he didn't. i don't remember if he touched himself at all turning this.
the only 'side effects' i've had have been lower body cramps and i felt dizzy today. but, i'm also due for my period next week.
i've been looking for the answer to this on the internet, but i can't find a direct answer.
all i know is it's unlikely, but possible.
from what i know, my boyfriend had no cum/precum on his fingers, i just get very paranoid really easily.
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well you can't get preganagt from a person fingering you and if he did have cum in his fingers I think he would wipe it off I don't think he wants to get you preganant.....and the reason why your feeling ill is because your really nervous, I had the same side affects my stomach was killing me,I felt light headed but I wasn't pregnant it was only because I was soo scared and paranoid. so don't worry your not pregnant but if you still feel like you are pregnant take a pregnance test a week later. and you will no your answer.
*Jenny_411
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ok. my boyfriend (of almost 2 yrs) is moving 3 hours away. im only 14 but i am in love with this boy. and he just might be the one. but he is moving this yr. and his parents said that they would drive him down EVERY HOLIDAY and on BIRTHDAYS. what should I do?
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hey, well if you love him that much you would try to make a good effort on this relationship, write letters to him, call him everyday do anything to make this relationship work but if you think it isn't right or something you can still be friends and see him whenever but if you love him make it work even though its gonna be hard cause you don't get to see your love everyday but its ok that's what love does to you, you'll do anything to make it work for the both of you's! and I know you guys guys will last forever because your love will never drift apart no matter how far or where you are. it will never go away so best of luck to both of you's you'll make it your just gonna have to get used to it =]
*Jenny411
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jenny i mean like what do the girls do WHILE the guys finger them? (link)
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honseltly nothing they just lay there while ur doing that
*Jenny411
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what does the girl fo while the boy fingers her. (link)
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well when your done fingering her let her do something to you like a h/j or a b/j stuff like that but ONLY if she wants too.
*Jenny411
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Me and my boyfriend want to have sex and he definately has more experience than I do but usually he just makes me give him head or handjobs and I don't think I'm good at it cause he makes me go faster and finishes jacking off in front of me and I feel like I don't do a good job at it then I feel bad and uncomfortable for about 30 minutes after it.
I want to do better so its not like disapointing or anything but I'd rather have sex with him and I don't really know how to get him to actually start into it. (link)
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do you really want to have sex? or you just want to because you think it would pleasure you b/f be ready for the right time to have sex. and don't worry I no how you feel it takes practice and practice at first when I gave my b/f a b/j I no I wasn't good at it I kept practicing until I got better tell your b/f when your giving him a b/j ask him wat your doing wrong/right its good when your b/f helps you with certain stuff like that. but if you think ur ready to have sex let him be on the top its better =] trust me =]
*Jenny411
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1. Is dry sex(like with clothes on and just rubbing) like real sex?
2. If my man cums quick in dry sex will that happen when we eventually have sex?
3. How do you make him last longer?
4. Me and my man do things, and we like take turns to i guess..arouse each other, but when its my turn i have no idea what too do, he is kinda kinky, and i just have no idea. other hten like hj or bj, but yeah.. Do you ahve any idea of something diffrent?
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lol
1) yeaa dry sex is like sex (but with clothes on)
2)depends if he is really horny than yeaa he's going to cum but if he isn't that horny there's a slight chance he's not going to cum
3)get a break like at 3 or 4 min. and then go back entertain him ;)
4)if u don't like bj/hj try to do some kinky stuff like lick him around, take a shower with him and rubb on him that works too. stuff like that since you don't like hj/bj
so do that =]
*Jenny411
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I'm warning you now, this is going to be long because I'm explaining this from the beginning[this is the shortened version], so if you don't have time nor want to waste your time, don't bother reading the rest of this.
Alright, so I used to go out with this boy Jake, well he has this friend Jayson, who I have always thought was really cute an stuff before I knew him well but I'm sort of a shy person so I never talked to him. Well Jayson and I became close friends, he would help me with Jake and I would help him with Nikki[Jayson's girlfriend for eight months, she dumped him to be friends and was then going out with his friend and he still liked her a lot]. I soon dumped Jake, because I just felt as though it wasn't working out.
So I went to this festival and this was a few weeks after Jake and I broke up, well Jake had told me the night before he was going to hang out with me for an hour at the least and then he might ask me out, well the whole time he completely ignored me, and Jayson made me feel a little bit better at the festival, but that night I was texting him and I was helping him with Nikki because he didn't know what to do but I told him to tell her how he felt and to say I'm not about to ruin anything between you and Shawn though and he said No bobcat[he calls me that dont ask why because I don't know either] I can't do that. Then we started talking about my problems or something and I said I just wanted one boy to prove to me that they are not all the same and Jayson says I really want to prove that to a girl...
Well a few nights later we were talking again and he admited to me he liked me a lot but he probably shouldn't because of Jake and all, but I told him I liked him too, but he also told me he liked some other girls but me the most. Well we went to glow bowl and I thought he was going to ask me out, well turns out he asked out one of those other girls he told me about and she said yes and she knew I liked him but she didn't even like him or whatever. But later that night he told me he pretty much led me on and didn't like me, and if he was ever single during the rest of the summer then he would most likely come to me. I cried for four days at just random times, everything reminded me of him.
About a week later or so I went to his baseball game, after it, he was texting me and begging me to come back to him and I told him I know I shouldn't but I'm giving you a second chance, he told me he never meant anything he said and he shouldn't have done that and I have every right to be mad. Well it was going on for about a week and he hadn't changed his mind so I thought it might actually work this time.. His friend was acting like him and was texting me and asked me out but I knew it wasn't Jayson because he asks people out in person so I never gave an answer, but then I asked his friend if Jayson liked me and he said no only as a friend. Well I talked to Jayson about it the next day and we got into a fight and I was mad at first but got over it and figured we would talk about it later, but that night he made out with this girl Allie, so I figured it was over.
Then I was texting him on my last day on vacation and he told me he liked me again and he told me he doesn't understand anything he does, and I should be mad at him for everything, actually that I should hate him, but I told him I would only give him another chance if he proved to me he liked me. So he told Nikki he liked me but wasn't sure, then he told Dexter he was going to hook up with me, and he told Jake he liked me. So we hung out the next day and this girl Amanda[the one girl he asked out and she said yes, they went out in the seventh grade for pretty much the whole year] was all over him, and he told her he liked her again. So then I talked to him about it and he told me he can't seem to find the right girl now and he doesn't think he could go out with me, so I was upset and started crying, and then his friends found out and were making fun of me. Then I texted him and said Jayson if you really think I care about you right now think again because if your going to act gay go right ahead, and then he called me and was like why are you so pissy over text and I went off on him. But then that night he came to our school dance and we got into another fight. I called him and then he hung up from me to watch full house? Ha, but I guess we were cool, but I was still mad.
So his friend Dexter kept saying he liked me and then I asked Jayson what to do and he told me to pretty much lead Dexter on but I wasn't going to do that.
Well then I went to glow bowl and he was sitting by me and I went up to my friend Eric and started to hug him an just hold on to him, I guess you can say I'm a bit of a flirt? But I was attempting to make Jayson jealous. Then later my friends Colleen and Mose were standing real close and I was talking to Nikki, so Jayson comes over and says MAKE ROOM FOR JESUS! and so Colleen and Mose spread apart a little and he's like no not you two I'm talking about the lesbians, and then he was talking about how lesbians are hot but me and Nikki need to be straight or something, I dunno.. but then I said:
Jayson can I ask you something..
Jayson: go right ahead
Me: why aren't you hot like your brother
Jayson: which one [ahahh you should have seen his face, he got mad you could tell, but I had to say it just because of everything he's done to me]
Me: Jake[no I didn't go out with his brother]
Jayson: When did you see him
Me: in a yearbook, but seriously I hope you look like him he's hot.
Then he started talking about his brother having sex or something, I dunno, but for the rest of the night he was giving me an attitude, like we were taking pictures and he goes take a picture of me and so I went in it and he goes no I don't want to take a picture with you[we always take pictures together so yeahh] and then I gave him a dirty look and I think I hit him and hes like don't touch me. And then I saw him slow dance with this girl Hannah, but then he was calling her a really big hoe and stuff. And then I was leaving an I was like bye Jayson and waved and he gave me a look and waved but was like bye?
So then Nikki texted me and said she was mad at him and I asked why and she said because people were asking him if he went out with her and he said yeah shes a hoe now. And she yelled at him
Then I texted him and said Hey are you mad at me because I think your brother's hotter than you and he never answered, and I haven't talked to him since.. even though it was only yesterday. But I like him SO much and none of my friends think he's worth it, but I just want to prove them wrong because I know a side to him that a lot of people don't.
But what I was planning on doing was texting him in about a week and saying I miss being friends and that I wish we didn't go through all of this fighting and such, and then I have a feeling he'll come back to me, and I will just tell him I like him but we have to be friends until he TRULEY finds a way to prove that he likes me.
Hmm, Do you think that'll work? And do you think he's worth this? Just anything will help honestly :]
Ps; I was thinking about asking him to the Bold And Gold[only dance we can go to next year, since were going to be freshmen, and it's a formal, but I have awhile to wait to see if I still like him, its not til September 29] (link)
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......wow I'm sorry to tell you this but he's not worth it TRUST ME I went through the same thing with this kid named michael I was like in love with him, we went out like 5 times and I kept coming back to him even though my friends and even my mom said he's trying to play games with you but I ignored them thinkin 2 myself that he's gonna changed but once he's stays the same ,you can't change them so I'm telling you he's not worth it at all you sound like a cool girl and you deserve better than that your just gonna have to let him go even though its gonna be hard but just move on and you never know you'll find mr right =]
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SO. My boyfriend's name is Doug. When we started dating his ex girlfriend was SO rude to me. She called me fatass, she started rumors, and she was just all around rude. They broke up two months ago, and now she wants back in his life. She added him on myspace & her message read; "I just want to try and get along."
Is it wrong for me to not want them to associate at all? I don't want her to be back in his life, I don't want them to be friends. Am I just being selfish?
I keep trying to put myself in Doug's shoes, but it's impossible. (link)
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damm yoo I no exactly how you feel but if yur boyfriend wants to be friends with her you can't force him who to speak too I guess your just gonna have to deal with it I am and I trust him completely everytime he's with his ex girl hanging out he calls me and tells me that he's with her so that makes me trust him even more just have trust in your man even though your gonna have that gut feeling that she is trying to get baq with him just remeber that your b.f only wants to be with you and only you so don't worry everythings gonna be Ok =]
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Well ilike this boy and he likes me.
Well 2 weeks ago he said he was gonna ask me out just not at the moment and its been 2 weeks and he still hasn't i mean im patient but we always and that i just want to know what do you think is he over me,dosnt he want a gf or want just curious.
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he's prob. waiting for the right time he prob. has to make the right decision if he wants to be with you meaning he doesn't want to ask you out so quickly, get to know him more,hangoutwith him more and then if its been like a month or so talk to him and be like is this going to be a relationship or just friends. just be patient girl if though it sucks to wait but just wait a while, I did and I'm happier than ever =]
Jenny411
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i wanna give a guy a blow job, but im scared to ask . i dont wanna look like a slut or something. is it fun? it kinda sounds like it. (link)
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try to make a move on him so he can get the picture that you want to give head to him fuck around and stuff and it doesn't make you look like a slut at all..............I've gave head to my b/f a lot and he enjoys it and honeslty I like doing it cause it gives him pleasure and so do I (in a way) but its not nasty at all ,just make sure he doesn't have a dirty penis you don't want herpies in your mouth lol
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There is this guy from my work place that I really like. I heard he has a drinking problem but so far it had just been a rumour. Well today I ran into him at the bottle depot. I was there first and then he showed up. He said hi but then got really quiet. All I had were water and diet cola bottles, but then I glanced at his and saw tons of boxes of beer cans. I could sense he was embarrassed because normally he's very talkative, so I just collected my money and left. Now I don't know how to act around him. Should I just pretend like I never saw anything? (link)
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yahh just act like you didn't even notice it don't act differently or akward that makes it worse for the both of you's
Jenny411
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just found out from guy i have liked for 2 years best friend that i dont have a chance...now what...heartbroken and crying (link)
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honestly you should try to move on even though its gonna be hard to let someone go but there are other fishes in the sea. don't worry you will find that special someone
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Okay, so, here's the deal. My boyfriend and I had sex for the first time two months ago. This happened about five days after my period ended. Like idiots, we didn't use a condom, but he pulled out before he ejaculated. I wasn't scared at all about any "mistakes" until I read on a website that even if the guy pulls out, it is still possible for sperm to make its way to the egg. After about a month, when I was technicly late, I told my aunt what happened and she took me to the store to buy me two tests. Both tests turned out negative, so I was relieved. However, it's been another month since, and I still haven't gotten my period. Now, I've never been very regular, but two months late, given what I've done, scares me. Is it possible that the two tests could have been wrong, and that I really am..pregnant?
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wow! I know exactly how you feel, and don't worry it has happened to me, me and my b/f had sex without a condom like almost everyday we felt that it was better but we were more cautious but any who........when you said that a sperm can get to you even if he didn't cum on you its called precum which means the cum is clear and its not white, if precum got in you and it was clear that's means that there is no chance of you getting pregnant. and your period don't worry when u have sex your period changes a lot like sometimes you can miss 2 or 3 months maybe even 4. that's how it is. it doesn't mean that your pregant just means your cycle has changed alot .so don't worry but......if have been feeling drowsy or feel like puking then take another test (just in case)
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