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How do i tell her
17/f
How do I tell my mom that I am pregnant? She thinks I am a virgin, so not only do I have to tell her I had sex, but I also have to tell her that I am pregnant. Ever since I was little she told me that I would be the one to most likely get pregnant first (out of my older sister and I. I just don't know how to tell her. What do I say? How long will she stay mad?
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I just read everyones advice, and it sounds really good. I just read your additional info, and I am so happy that she is still proud of you. Good job for telling her, it must have been really hard. See, dont you feel better telling her? :]. Good luck with the baby, and if you need any more advice, feel free to ask me a question, and i am sure you can ask anyone on the site!
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if you're too shy/scared to tell her, maybe write her a note & just give it to her. tell her how you feel about the whole situation.
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She will probably forgive you but she will never forget what you did
that was a kinda wrong thing to do
plus your seventeen your getting older your are almost a women in a year or so
say mom i need to talk to you
tell her your preganet slowly
she'll probably figure out you
had sex
she'll ask you if youu know who the father is and she'll maybe want to meet him for some questions like how do he plan on taking care of your child
But Congrats if your happy
and GOOD LUCK!!! WITH YOUR MOM
I HOPE IT ALL WORKS OUT
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The answer to all of your questions depends on how your Mom is. If she's abusive, the previous advisor could be wrong. She may not be supportive. If she's highly religious, she may not be able to be there for you, even if she loves you.
So what would be easiest on your mom? Is your dad in your life? Would it be easier to tell him first and then break it to your mom together? Is the father of the child in your life? What about his parents? Could the two of you get all of the parents together and let them know?
Is there an adult female relative or the mom of a friend who can help you?
Here's what I would do, with a reasonably calm and mentally-stable mother. I would speak with her with the father of the child present. I'd just ask to talk to her and then say "Mom, I know you are going to be horribly disappointed and I wish I could change this (assuming you do wish that). I'm pregnant." You should try to know what you're going to do, whether you want to terminate the pregnancy or whether you want to deliver the baby. Then you will need to figure out whether you and the baby's father are going to stay together and possibly make a life together or not. Then you need to decide whether you're going to keep the baby or put it up for adoption. Let your mother know that you're aware you've let her down and apologize if it feels right to you. Be prepared for your mother to not react at all, to yell, or to cry.
It's a tough situation even with the most forgiving and understanding of parents. Good luck.
Sabine
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I cannot tell you how long she will remain angry. That varies on the person themselves. The bottom line is that your mom loves you and even if she blows her cork for a bit she's going to support you.
She may be dissapointed in you at first but she will certainly help you. Most parents know or expect their teens might be having sex so that part of things is not likely to anger her.
The problem I have with this whole thing is that your mother rather than getting you birth-control or offering or making it easier for you to be protected never did. Instead, she's telling you she expects you to be 17 and pregnant first.
That ain't right at all or responsible as she's planting that in your head. All you can do is tell your mother that you tried to be careful but found out you were pregnant. All you can do is just tell her the truth and ask for her support.
She would be far more upset if you didn't tell her and tried to hide it for as long as you could. That's dangerous for many reasons for you and the baby. By telling her what happened and asking her to support you now you're making the proper decision.
She will be angry, upset etc. but that wears off as she'll never stop loving you or helping you and wants the best for you. It's not easy but the truth is the only thing that works.
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