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thrill of the chase.
I've heard that guys like it when a girl isn't always available to go out.. when he calls, for example, she's not always available to go out, or at least pretends not to be. WHat's your opinion on this?
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Yes most guys even though they don't admit it the thrill is in the chase not the catch. Playing hard to get is one of the most effective and widely used tactics in dating. It works very well. This method uses human instinct that we want what we can't have to create tension in the mind. It's very clever really.
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"Hard to Get..." Is just a game. I've never been into games... And most of the guys that I have dated appreciated my ability to be direct and honest. Several even stated that they found my approach to be "refreshing."
Really... When you're dating... They key is not to appear desperate. Why? Because being desperate is often associated with being overly needy and emotionally unstable. When a guy meets a girl and he picks up on the desperate vibe, he automatically thinks, "Psycho-chick."
A girl that isn't desperate is capable of taking care of herself. She doesn't need his approval or his permission. She has a life of her own. She may want him to be a part of her life, but she will never make him the center of her universe. For example, the non-desperate chick does not wait by the phone, and she does not put her life on hold for him. If her friends want to have a girls night out and she makes plans... And at the last minute her guy decides he wants to see her, NDC will say, "I'm sorry. I'd love to spend time with you but I've all ready made plans with my friends tonight." A desperate chick would ditch her friends to spend time with aforementioned guy. A non-desperate chick would just reschedule.... Because hey, her man's important... but so are her friends.
So... My advice is... Don't worry about playing hard to get or acting like someone that you aren't. Just be you. :D Because really... YOU are who he's dating, YOU are who he's trying to get to know... YOU can not hide who YOU are... He's going to figure out who YOU are eventually. And if he doesn't like YOU... He's a loser and doesn't deserve you. Rejection may hurt... But rest assured that just because one moron doesn't like you, doesn't mean there aren't plenty of other guys out there that think YOU are perfect just the way YOU are. And those are the guys that YOU want to be with. So... Go find that guy. Don't waste your time with the losers.
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ya thats true most of the guys i've gone out with thinks its "sexy" when ur not available. most of them say its cause ur more experenced!
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well it probably depends on the guy, i'm sure that not all guys like that too much. now occasionally, that's fine. but it they keep blowing the guy off he will just stop trying. but most guys that I know, if a girl does that, then they'll just hang out with another girl.
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Ok, i`m going to tell you the same thing I told the other girl who asked me something similar to this:
Get the guy by being sly and seductive, and playing hard to get a bit. NEVER ever act desperate around a guy. They hate this; it's a major turn off. Make him chase you. No exceptions. Ever. This doesn't mean not flirting though--hint you like him by complimenting him occasionally and giving him your best "come hither" (non-creepy!) stare. Practice in the mirror if necessary. Don't let anyone know you like a guy until you're 100% positive he likes you back. This means not even telling your best friends. If everyone hears about your crush and he ends up not returning your affection, people will think less of you.
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well ;i know i pretend sometimes just because i dont wanna seem desperate or something. so yah i think its okae for a girl to do that but if she is constantly doing that the boys are going to stop callng and asking
hope i helped
xo britnee.
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