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the bf, the condom, and the questions
me(14) and my bf(16) have been going out for a while and a few days ago we walked past this shelf in a store with condoms on it and we started making jokes about buying them. then later that night we were in his room watching a movie, making out, he felt me up, and stuff. then today he told me he bought a condom "just in case". i know im not ready for sex right now cause im too paranoid that i'll get pregnant or get some disease. but i was wondering if both me and my bf are virgins, can we still get an std? and how well do those morning after pills work and where could i get one w/o my parents knowing? thanks in advance!
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well you can say you wont have sex and have good morals and kno its wrong and that there are concequinces but seriously wen it comes down to it sometimes you can get so cought up and it be a bad day and all and you reelly just dont care and him atleest being prpared is a good thing it meens he cares !!i have frend and i would have never guessed her to be one of my first frends to have sex and she sed wen he would say stuff bout it she sed no but all it took was them just chillin and onething led to another and she didnt even think about telling him to stop andit just happen!!
im pretty sure you could get a day after pill from the gyno or get a good adult that u kno u can trust and hopefully they will understand thatyou just want to be safe !! byt the gyno should keep everything confidential its there job and the law!!
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If you think you're ready for sex, then as long as the two of you take all neccessary precautions, nothing will happen.
Make sure he wears a condom CORRECTLY everytime. Consider getting put on the pill. If neither of you have ever done ANYTHING sexual, you can't get an STD. If one of you has had oral sex, intercourse, etc., then you can still get an STD. As for the morning after pill, they work as long as they are used before 72 hours. If you had unprotected sex, or fear you may be pregant, you can get the pill at the health department.
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planned parenthood is totally confidential and will not tell your parents.
Emergency Contreception (EC/Morning After Pill)
The sooner EC is taken, the better it works to prevent pregnancy!
Before you take emergency contraceptive pills (EC), be sure you understand both the benefits and the possible problems of using ECPs. If you have any questions as you read, we will be happy to talk about them with you.
Emergency contraceptive pills (EC) are hormonal pills (similar to birth control pills) that you take to try to prevent pregnancy after you have unprotected vaginal intercourse. Either your birth control method failed (for example, your condom broke) or you did not use a method.
The pills either keep the ovary from releasing an egg, thicken cervical mucus or change the lining of the uterus in such a way that a fertilized egg may not attach and develop into a pregnancy.
The sooner EC is taken, the better they work to prevent pregnancy. It is best to start the pills within 72 hours (3 days) of unprotected vaginal intercourse. When taken within the first 72 hours after intercourse, emergency contraception pills prevent pregnancy about 75-89% of the time. Studies have shown that even if EC is taken as late as 120 hours (5 days) after unprotected intercourse they may prevent pregnancy. It appears to be less effective the later it is used. The effectiveness of using EC beyond 120 hours has not been proven.
How well the pills work depends on how soon after intercourse they are started and what day in your menstrual cycle unprotected intercourse takes place. This method fails to prevent pregnancy in some cases, because:
a fertilized egg already has implanted in the uterus;
too much time passed since unprotected vaginal intercourse;
failure of the drug itself.
You will get the FDA approved information provided by the pill manufacturer if you get these pills at Planned Parenthood. If you get your pills elsewhere, you should also get a copy of the FDA information. You should read the information and ask questions about anything you do not understand.
A sensitive urine pregnancy test should be done before taking EC if you think there is any chance that you could already be pregnant (last period was late, light, or short, or if you feel pregnant).
You should not use EC if you are (or think you are) already pregnant. However, if you are pregnant, or if the pills fail and pregnancy occurs, there have not been any reports of serious side effects to the woman or to the fetus from taking the pills.
Rare, but serious complications with blood clots can occur with the regular use of birth control pills. It is not known whether blood clotting problems (or other complications) can also occur when birth control pills are used for emergency contraception, but medical experts do not think so because the exposure to the pills is so short.
Some reactions to these pills (for about 24 hours) may include:
nausea and/or vomiting (rarely);
breast tenderness;
irregular bleeding;
headache or dizziness.
After taking EC, your next period could be early or late, or could be lighter or heavier, or could be the same as usual. If you use ECPs more than once in a monthly cycle, the chances of having problems with your next period could be even greater.
If you see a clinician for any reason before you get your next period, tell him/her that you have taken EC.
If you do not want to become pregnant, it is important to think of a more reliable form of ongoing birth control. After using EC, some women continue on birth control pills or use an IUD. Ask about the options at your Planned Parenthood clinic.
Having unprotected sex may have put you at risk for sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and a serious infection could cause sterility. If you think you could be at risk for STIs, talk to your clinician about getting tested.
You should come back to the clinic four weeks after taking these pills for a checkup if you have not had a normal period, or if you feel like you could be pregnant, or if you have any early signs of pregnancy (such as feeling sick to your stomach, feeling very tired, breast swelling or tenderness).
about the atd's if you have engaged in oral sex with other partners it is possible to extract one that way but otherwise you should be std free.
DO NOT let your bf make you do it before you are ready or make you feel guilty because you are not.
hope i helped :)
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if you are both virgins...you CANNOT get ANY STD's. Unless you or him have given someone oral sex that has an STD, you can give it to someone by giving a new person oral sex. Chances are...neither of you have anything. The condoms are an awesome contraceptive. they work just fine...so there's barely any risk for pregnancy. And if you think you might get prego? THe morning after pill is available in limited drug stores and hospitals...but it's not too hard to find. Go to a clinic...everything is CONFIDENTIAL so your 'rents won't know. Hope i helped...<33333
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There are other STDs transmitted orally, so even if you are both virgins, it's still very well possible that either of you could have caught something that way. My advice is to not ASSUME you are both clean. Yes, you probably both are considering your history of no sexual partners, but agree to both go tested @ your local clinic or Planned Parenthood if you plan to have sex or particpate in anything orally.
I think it's great that you're worried about these kinds of things unlike some girls your age who just hop right into sex. If you plan on having sex in the future: both get tested, get on birth control, & use a condom every single time.
About the morning after pill - it's not 100% effective (just like anything out there), but you can usually get it @ Planned Parenthood or any clinic within 72 hours after sex. The sooner, the better. If you protect yourself with birth control & a condom, you should never have to worry about that plan. But for further information go to plannedparenthood.org.
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well you can get stds from other things, dirty needles, oral, and a few other things, but its not as likely. but if neither of you have an STD then one isnt going to materialize out of nowhere.
The morning-after pill is approximately 98-99% effective.
you can get one at your local planned parenthood, they wont tell your parents. they also offer std testing, so when you are ready, you and your bf can get tested to make sure neither of you has an std.
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you can get an std easily
but its unlikely if your both virgins
and dont be paranoid i mean you only live once
im still a virgin but i cant listen to my own advice im to scared to have sex hhahaha
but you should if you guys are already feeling up and making out
and if you really think he is theone you wanna have sex with
then go for it
the pills are great
my cousin is on them
and she said they work very well
you can have sex and make sure to take it 72 hours after having sex if not taken before
but i think you can get them at a local clinic or ask someone you know to get them or let you try one
hope i helped
p.s.
you only get to be a fid once so take chances !!
have fun !!!!
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Yeah hun, even if you're both virgins, you still have a high risk of getting an STD.
About the morning after pill, my friend said that her and her cousin both used them and they did not get pregnant, and that a lot of their friends have used them too and they havent gotten pregnant either, so if that helps you any.
And you can goto a local clinic and ask about them, most don't tell your parents but some do. So, it all just depends on the pharmacy.
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