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Confused...is it wrong or am i just a goody goody??
okay, so my boyfriend and i have been dating for about 2 months. we hit it off really well & we have a very very healthy relationship. we are both strong christians, and have morals, but the farthest we've gotten is french kissing. Now we have friends of ours that we double date with alot. They've gotten way farther than us. like they haven't gone all the way, but he's like fingered her & she says that they've done things that she regrets. but idk. i don't really have an issue with going any farther with my boyfriend. but is it wrong to do anything? because i just feel like a goody goody.
HELP!
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Having sex is a sin if you're a Christian until you're married, but only have sex if you KNOW you're ready! But in this case, it doesn't sound like you're ready if you're asking people if you should. I don't mean to be rude, if you think I am, but you should NEVER have sex or run bases (fingering etc.) JUST because your friend is! And just like she said, she regrets it, so don't follow in those footsteps.
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~ Lauren
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Danielle: Hun, that is the #1 reason NOT to do anything sexual related. Just because you're friends are doing it, doesn't mean YOU have to. And when you are fingering, sucking dick, or doing other things, it usually leads to SEX. When a male gets sexually aroused, theres nothing he WON'T do to get some pussy. I'm not saying your man is like that, but look out.
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you're not a goody goody, you're just being smart and making good choices. it shows that you have self control and really respect each other. If you feel like a good lil girl, i know a girl who went out with a guy for 6 months and they never kissed - no lie. so really, you're ok. you don't need to do more after 2 months. just enjoy what you do feel comfortable doing and don't let anyone make you feel like you're behind... you're not. <3
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your friends regreted what they did. your not being a goody goody, your being smart. your kissing your boyfriend! goody goodys dont do that!!! dont worry about it alright sweetie? yupour useing good judgement that i wih everyone would use
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It wouldn't be wrong do do more than french kissing, but like you said, you have your morals. You aren't a goody goody, you just may not feel comfortable doing things that others have done. You shouldn't feel the need to compare yourself to other couples, your relationship with your boyfriend is just fine, and you have only been dating for two months. Take things at your own pace, you don't want to end up doing anything you regret, like your friend did. Learn from her mistake, so you don't have to make your own.
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If you're both Christians and have good morals, then that means that you shouldn't go any farther, unless you both agree on it. This may sound cliche, but what your friends do shouldn't affect what you do. Just because you feel like a goody goody doesn't mean other people see you as that. Others probably see you as a responsible girl who knows her limits.
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Forget about what others think and what they're doing. Do things only both you and your boyfriend are comfortable with. In the end, it's the two of you who have to face each other and God.
Sabine
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Hey,
As far as you want to go is how far you should go. Don't do something you may regret-especially "going all the way". There are way too many consequences, especially if you don't use a condom. (I'm sure you don't want to be lectured about the downfalls of having sex, lol.)
Good luck
-Jam
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