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child behaviour
i am from india.my only child is 2.5 years old.she is quite sensitive and emotional.the boy next door is 3.5 years old and tries to dominate her by snatching her things, shouting and crying if she doesnt give them(otherwise she always does),and whenever he has a chance he tries to hurt her by pulling her hair,kicking her or pushing and pulling her.they seldom play in harmony.the problem is that my daughter does not like to play with anybody else but him and i am left with no other alternative but let her play.but his behaviour angers me.what should i do with him?
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It is normal for boys to act like that. But you might consider putting her in a day care or taking her to a babysitter so she can interact with other children. As for his behavior there is really nothing you can do.
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Hello,
What you are dealing with is the behavior of two toddlers. They really don't know how to interact and play together by sharing toys at this stage.
It's completely normal what each of these children are going through. They can't see each other as people with emotions and rather think of others as inanimate objects.
The best thing to do is try to teach the boy feelings. Explain to the boy in simple terms that your daughter has an ouchie, and feels pain when he hits or pulls hair and that it's not a nice thing to do. Distract each of them for a few moments to keep them apart, and then tell the boy he can play when he is Nice, but show him what nice is. Show him examples. See we touch like this, or we share like this...Repeat the word "Nice" when you demonstrate and give him encouragement when he is being "Nice".
Try to arrange activities where they play side by side with similar toys, but not where they have to compete for anything. Really, any play with a lot of exchange or interaction is a little too much for them at this age.
Give each an object of equal value or importance when they play. Show the boy that if he wants the toy your daughter has he must offer to trade with her, and show her the same thing.
It is probably best to only allow your daughter to play with him at a time when you can give direct supervision. As they mature they will eventually get along and you will know when you can leave the room for a few minutes at a time and give them a little freedom to interact. However, now is not the time to do that.
Don't be angry. Children only know what they have been taught. When you are upset, the children will sense your tension and act out even more. Relax, and know that with persistance and good role model adults, the boy will grow out of this stage.
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like what the persn below me said tell your daughter that if the boy hits her or hurts her for her to say "stop!"
and if the boy keeps it up say something like "lets all play nice!" mabie if they mosly fight over toys, mabie you can get the boy the same toy as a gift so they can both play with them together.
if these dont work, (as stressing and imbarrsing as it is) talk with the parents and camly tell them that sometimes they dont get along and that the boy is dealing with it phicisly. dont just say thir boy though (even though it may be) try not to sound like the problem is all the boys fault, by saying "our children sometimes deals with thigs phicisly not verbaly, mabie we both need to have a talk with out children, and tech them that its not the way to solve problems by hiting (etc.)
its a natrual thing about parenting,we all need to teach out chilren these things, the boys parents will understand.
goodluck--ashley
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Well toddlers are like that but that kind of behavior is not acceptable. You should talk to his parents/gardian about his behavior and find a way to get him to stop. You should also talk to the child himself and punish him (if possible) by sending him home when he behaves like that.
P.S.-I am from America and that's why I spelled behaviour like I did.
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-Alex
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It's important that you recognize the boy's poor behavior, which you already have. Are the boys parents around? You may want to bring the issue up to his parents. You should tell his parents that their child is being very inconsiderate and sometimes physically hurts your daughter. There is not much you can do about how the boy's parents react. Most of the time- the parents won't do anything, so that's why you have to do something for your daughter.
Try talking to your daughter, if talking to the boy's parents doesn't work. Ask your daughter if she really likes playing with that boy. Tell her that sometimes he does not treat her good. Explain this in the best way you possibly can to a 2 year old. Tell her that if she wants to, she can yell "Stop!" at him if he tries to hurt her. She should learn how to stand up for herself verbally, but not violently.
Your daughter is probably too young to fully understand the situation. So if she only wants to play with this boy, its normal for a child her age. If the boy's behavior is really bothering you, you can say something to the boy, like, "Please do not hit my daughter like that." or find another toy and try to get the boy to play with a different toy, than the one your daughter has.
It's also a good idea to try to find more friends for your daughter. She can still play with the boy, but try to find a few more kids that she can play with in addition to the boy. Maybe if the little boy is in a group with alot of other kids, he won't pick on your daughtr so much. :]
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