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Okay so i have this friend lets call him jack. well i think that jack cuts himself. because i asked him and he said dont worry about it. and he kept saying that. and yeah. so i think he cuts because if he didnt he would just say no right?
any ideas what i should do about it?
thanks in advance :)
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In all honesty. he probably does, because as you said he would have just said no, but the medical reason that people cut is because it releases electrolytes (or some other term?) that causes the person to feel better, however you need to get him to stop because even if he has no intent of killing himself he could slip up and hit a major vain. My advice to you is to tell someone that you trust that you THINK hes cutting, but also let him know that you are there for him no matter what and basically just talk to him about it. Pressing the subject might not be best because then he'll probably grow angry, but just be on the alert and let someone know.
hope i helped =)
good luck. I hope your friend gets better.
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hey, well i think that it means that he cuts himself. because your right, he would probably just say no if he didnt cause i dont think anyone would lie about that. but since you dont have proof you should tell a trusted adult that YOU THINK that he cuts himself. let them know that you asked and he said dont worry about it but that you dont have proof.
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Okay. No offense to cutie whatever, but thats not really true.
I used to be a cutter.
So did a bunch of my friends.
We never really talked about it, but we all knew the others did.
I had a loving, caring family, great friends, and a good life.
however(and this is NO LIE) I was groped at Six flags by a stranger, adn I felt completely horrible about it.
The next week I was kicked out of school for scratching open my stomach with a pocket knife.
I didn't feel any less loved, I just wanted to show my pain in a physical way.
you're friend Jack could be cutting himself for lots of reasons.
But yes, I agree you're probably right. he probably is. the thing is, if he's telling you not to worry, its because he needs it. Most cutter who do it consistantly develop a way to make the cutting entirely cosmetic, and unless they're TRYING to kill themselves, nothing can really happen that will cause real damage.
Be there for him, and make sure he knows you're listening when he decides to tell someone. Because nobody can cut peacefully forever. it doesn't work.
WARNING SIGNS OF CUTTING:
small cuts, especially ones in sets of three, or legs, arms, and stomach.
saying things like "oh it happened in gym" all the time
constant wearing of long sleeves or wristbands, or even lots of large bracelets.
I hope this helps.
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most of the time, people cut them selves becuase they feel like no body cares about them, so u can't really stop him but, just make sure he knows you care for him, and if he feels loved, then theres a pretty good chance he will quit. But don't force him too.
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It's his business, leave him alone about it. If you really want to help him you can tell someone about it, but then he'll hate you forever.
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Well i had a friend who addmitatly cut herself. This was after about 3 month of say "DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT"! I think he probly does sweety. The best thing for you to do is find out what caused him to start and get him to admit he has a problem. And just be there for him.
Hope i helped,
Becs
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Well try to hang out with him and see the spots that he would most likely cut. :]
If he didn't cut himself, he would probably say no.
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