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Nerves
My bf and I (15 f) are thinking about having sex. He's fingered me and stuff like that, but it's the farthest we've ever gone. I'm really nervous. I'm ready, I know I am. I'm a little self consious, I guess, but I know I'm not fat or anything. I'm 5'7'' and 122 lbs. I'm just nervous about him seeing my "parts." Whenever he's fingered me, he just sort of went down my pants, they never came off.
Is there anything I can do to calm my nerves? Has anyone ever had this problem? What worked for you?
Thanks in advance
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they are right.... if your worried about what hes gonna think about your parts then your probably not ready. but honestly im gonna tell you this.... in my opinion a vagina is not pretty. but if he knos what hes doing and knos what it looks like then he shouldnt think anything of it. but heres some friendly advice... if you two are ready to go further, then go to oral and get used to each others bodies. you dont have to skip right to sex. besides during sex its not like hes staring at it the whole time. I'll tell you right now im far from a virgin and i worry about that everytime but its not that big of deal, its really nothin to worry about.
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if you are selfconscious around your boyfriend
then you aren't ready to have sex with him.
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I'm going to be completely honest with you. If you aren't comfortable with your boyfriend seeing you naked or seeing him naked, then you probably aren't ready to have sex yet.
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look in the mirror and study your body and tell yourself that your beatuful and that theres nothing to be ashamed of and make sure that your ready first and you might feel insucure and nervous and he might be feeling the same way just think he thinks your beatiful so why should it be any difference with or without your clothes just try to relax and not be so nervous you know and plus your goning to be his first so its going to be special for the both of you and i dont think hell be to worried about you look lol just work your magic i hope i helped so good luck
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talk to him about it. tell him why you are nervous and let him reassure you. talking to him also has another advantage. if you cant bring yourself to do it, then it means that you most likely are not ready for it. many girls your age arent, and those that think they are regret it afterwards. now, i am not saying that is the case with you, but you should be sure that it is what you really want. want a quick fix? lights off, or hell even a blindfold. i know if i tell you that you are too young, that there is no possible way you know what you are doing, then it will just go in one ear and out the other (or i guess in this case in one eye and out the other) and i cant really pull the older and wiser card, being only 20. just be sure that this is what you really want, because your being so uncomfortable with it can be your subconcious trying to tell you something.
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If you're so nervous about having sex or your boyfriend seeing your 'parts', then you've got to ask yourself if you're really and truly ready. you're only fifteen-- you're virginity is something you never get back. if you really are thinking about having sex with your boyfriend, you should make sure you are completely inlove with him, and if he feels the same way back, you shouldn't care about what he thinks of your 'parts'.
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