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please help me through this.
my name is katie. i am writing for advice because i found a glass pipe with weed in it in my moms purse about 6 months ago. we got into a huge fight about it and she promised me she would get rid of it.; i never saw after that. but the other day i was looking in my moms purse for my library card and it was in there. i am so sick of smelling that smell on her clothes. it makes me really depressed and today i couldnt take the pain anymore and i cut my arm with a pair of scissors. i am so sad. i am lost and confused as to why she lied to me and about something so horrible to lie about. she could get in huge trouble for this. and i dont want to lose her over something like drugs. i am just really depressed and i havent talked since i cut myself. my arm is still bleeding and i did it in the early afternoon. i dont want my special ed teachers or therapist to find out. i am terrified of going back to the hospital because last time i went there i was put in restraints for trying to hurt myself. please help me. i am so scared.
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We have similar experiences. Just so you know, i'm a recovering cutter, so if you need anyone to talk to, leave me a question in my inbox or email me. My email is on my site. I was a cutter for 3 years, and I haven't cut in over 8 months now. I'm proud of myself, and if you find in your heart to quit too, I know you'll feel the same.
I was looking for some nail poish under my mom's bathroom sink about a month ago, and I found a bag of weed, a glass bowl, and a lighter in a tin can. I cried for hours, and it took me 3 days before I even asked her about it. Come to find out, she explained to me that her doctor recommended it. She was diagnosed with Mutiple Sclerosis, and that's what they told her to take for the pain. She hasn't used it since I asked her not to, so everything is ok now.
Since we have such similar problems, leave me an inbox question.
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wow first of all you shouldnt cut beleive me ive been there done that and maybe your mom didnt tell you and she lied to you because shes ashamed of herself and she doesnt know how to tell you and she can get in really big trouble i know and my dad does the same thing its very addicting probly even more so than ciggerettes i think maybe you should def confront her again and tell her that your help her if she wants it tell her how you feel good luck hope i helped
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wow harsh i know what you feel the same shit happend /w my mom weird huh any way your mom is an adult she knows what se is doing but it is still wrong talk to her (no yelling ,cursing or attitude) tell her how you really feel tell her that you dont want to loose her for something stupid. as for your arm the bleeding depends on what way you cut and when it heals put neosporin so it doesnt scar untill then wear long sleeves and try not to be so emo. let me know what happens i want to help.
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You could always let your mom live the way she wants.
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by now your arm has stopped bleeding or your are getting medical attention. you know cutting yourself to escape the emotional pain is not the answer just like your mom knows that smoking pot to escape reality is not the answer. You need to find a time to talk to your mother. you now have something in common and maybe she should come to your therapist with you. You could make a pact that if she stops smoking pot you will stop cutting yourself and then both of you will be on a better path to a healthy lifestyle.
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honey, TALK to your therapist about this. possession of illegal substances won't make you lose your mom, but it may end up helping her in the long run if you talk. the reason you are cutting yourself is because you are bottling it up. please, be good to yourself by talking to a trusted adult.
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There are a number of things you could do. They all kind of suck. The best thing, I think, is for you to do nothing, your mother probobly wont get caught. However, if you become unbearably depressed you need to remove yourself from the situation; get help from the government/school so you are taken care of somewhere else, or run away from home. You could also talk to a therapist, but that will probobly result in your mother being arrested AND you being taken care of by someone else AND being put on medicine and many other bad things; so avoid doing that if you can.
If you need any more help you can contact me directly at theymos@lycos.com , I'll be able to answer more thoroughly that way.
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well 1st of all cutting yourself is never the answer!! but you should really talk to your mom about the drugs and if she says ok but you find it again or she doesnt listen the take it and through it away somewhere where she cant find it
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First of all, take some gauze (if you have it) or a heavy paper towel or two, fold it up, and put it over your wound. Then put a large band-aid over it. If its still bleeding tomorrow, see the nurse and tell her that scissors slipped from a cabinet when you opened it. Lying is not usually the best thing to do, but when you need help, you need to get it one way or another.
Now, put your hand over your heart and promise never to cut yourself again. Seriously. You know cutting is unhealthy, and although it may temporarily "take the pain away" (emotionally) it is not good for you in the long run. When you have a problem, whether it be about your mom or anyone else, the best thing to do is to talk to someone about it. In this case, though, I understand how it is hard to talk to anyone about your mom doing drugs, so you did the best thing you could by coming here and asking for advice.
About your mom-- you need to confront her and tell her that what she's doing is affecting you. Your mom probably is going through a lot right now too, hence the drug use, so the best way to tell her wouldn't be by exploding in her face as soon as you see her. When its a good time, tell her you need to talk privately, then share your worries and concerns. Prior to that, you may want to print out some information on the computer about weed and its side effects (on the body, and consequences with the law if discovered) for you to read up on so that you can be educated when you talk to your mom. Remember to be gentle, and be sure to tell your mom that you are and will always be there for her no matter what. In your conversation with your mother, I wouldn't dwell on the lying, because although it is an issue, it will not make her feel any better, and this is probably tougher for her than it is you. By all means, let her know that you are disappointed and angered by her lying, but don't be negative towards her. I wish you and your mom good luck. God bless.
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